My bf has been going through a lot of stress. His family is really dysfunctional. Instead of sharing with me, he's just really moody and quiet. I know the stuff he is going through is really painful, but at the same time, I am really sick of the way he shuts down.

I sent a message to a guy on another dating site. he wrote back and asked for a picture. I sent a little newsy email, and sent a picture. I have not heard back from him. I don't know whether to wait, or send him another message and if so, what to say.

Vegas Angel, you can see the picture on my fb page. It's the only picture I have of me that I can send. I am really camera shy and take lousy pictures. Even though I am a size 10-12, I still look really fat in pictures.

I really need some advice here. I would like to send a little message and ask if he'd like to meet for coffee, cause you can't tell much from a picture or an email. Is anyone good with this sort of thing? Should I wait another couple of days? I sent the picture yesterday. The email he had sent was really nice, and he didn't seem like someone who was all hung up on looks.

This has happened to me before, where I have corresponded with men, then as soon as I sent the picture, all emails just stopped.

Please give me your advice!:sad0::001_wub:

coming to vegas is sounding better and better. I need out of this town. what is the latest you can pick me up at the airport?

if I came on a thurs. what would I do while you're at work fri. I can't stand the thought of flying on a fri and a sun. I hate flying

It doesn't matter what time you get in - I'll be there to pick you up. As for Friday- Bob works from home so am sure he could take a day off and play tour guide or something ... I could probably work extra hours M T W Th and take off early on Friday too ... we'd figure it all out.

oh good. tomorrow when I am not so depressed, I am going to find some cheap airfare one way or another

I'd rather fly on thurs. and leave sun. I have to drive 100 mi to the airport, so it won't be all that early when I get there

He should know you well enough to know that you would not do something as juvenile to make a rude comment on a social networking site. In my opinion, it sounds like he just needs space, and if he is easily swayed by other family members then he isn't ready to be in a relationship with anyone.

His mind can only be poisoned if he allows it to happen.

I know it hurts Daisy, but truthfully do you want to sit around and wait for him to figure things out. I've always said " I'd rather be alone, and content, then be with someone who makes me miserable."

You really have to decide what is best for you and your wants/needs. Don't settle for less than everything you want just to be with someone.

I told her the exact same thing Tiffy --

Daisy, I agree 100% with Vegas and Tiffy. If he is going to let a supposed comment on Facebook, that he hasn't seen for himself, come between you and him, then he isn't worth the time of day. Especially if he can't discuss it and work through something as minor as that in a mature manner.

As a woman who has let relationships overlap a few times my best advice is to resolve one before starting another. It is only fair to the other person. Trying to have two going at once does not work. Trust me on this.

If you are not happy in the relationship, leave, end it. I know that seems simplistic but I learned so long ago from an abusive relationship that life is too short to waste it on people who don't respect and love us. You will cry, you will hurt, but there is an ending I promise and you will find someone who loves you for who you are right now, not what you will be later, or were years ago. You will not be alone forever. I wasn't.

If the man from FB does not want to meet with you after seeing your picture then the relationship was not meant to be. You did not meet his ideal partner criteria. That does NOT mean you will not meet someone elses criteria.

I think our self esteem gets so low when we are heavy we get into the accept what I can get mentality. That is wrong. You are worth it! Move past the ones who are shallow and find one who will love you for you! I personaly would not want to be with a man who is only worried about my looks. What if I am disfigured in a car accident or burned? Will he leave me? I know my husband wouldn't. You will find that prince too.

Huggs

I am really depressed at the moment. Could use some words of wisdom.

Bill and I talked after work and he is very upset because he thinks I said something mean about his daughter in law on face book, which I didn't . He knows me better than that. He should know I would not do something mean like that on purpose.

He wants to "take a break" until he gets to Phoenix next month to talk things over with his daughter in law and son.

I didn't do a damn thing but they are poisoning his mind.

I wrote my earlier post before I read the whole thread (my bad).

Wait what? He wants to take a break until he can talk what over with his daughter in law and son? Is this still about the supposed mean comment?

I think he wants out and doesn't have the balls to do it. Save him the trouble and tell him the break is forever.

I once spent 5 years without a signal date. It was lonely. And it is exactly what I needed to finally have a good and healthy relationship. Don't get me wrong, you don't need to spend 5 years alone to achieve the same thing, but you need to be alone until you love yourself and someone elses screwed up behavior doesn't bring you down.

You never know how many men have passed you by just because they know you are in a relationship.

There were many women that I may have been interested in, if they weren't already dating that I never asked out, just because they were dating someone. I just flat out wouldn't even consider it.

Jaffa, you are a good guy!!

Relationships are hard. The thing that bothers me the most is that I thought he knew me better than that. He should know I would not say anything mean about his son or daughter in law because I know how much they mean to him.

He sounds like a big baby. Why does he have to talk to them? Is he then going to come back and say "but they said.." then when you counter what they said, say "well, let me check with them" and then go back and forth forever???

Well I hope VegasAngel was serious about wanting some company, cause I just bought a plane ticket. I am very excited. It's been years since I have been to vegas.

I am glad you are going there, you guys are going to have a blast. You are doing the right thing too. This is what you need to do for YOU