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A little gripe to share.

So I am sitting at my desk at work this morning and my old boss comes in to say hello. We chat for a few minutes and all is very pleasant and then he says

"ohhh you weren’t here last week one day when I came in to see you"

"No I wasn’t, I went home ill last Wednesday and didn’t come back till Monday because I had severe food poisoning"

"ohhh I bet you have been eating too much McDonalds." and then laughs at me.

"Actually no, it wasn’t that at all."

REALLY!!!!! What the..... How rude! Sure I am chubby, sure I am booked in for lap banding (he is unaware) but I am not at McDonalds every day, not even once a month! I love how people always assume you must eat junk all day long to be fat. I actually eat generally good food, I just eat too much of it!

I'm really glad I have not told lots of people about my procedure. The audacity! I wish I was able to think more quickly and say something back but I was just too taken aback and he was my boss so I guess I feel like it is difficult to say something in return!

Has anyone else experienced this recently?

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perfect example of a a-sshole

sorry that that happened to you...

i had a fireman friend once who told me something i never forgot...i was struggling with a situation at a bank (i used to train people to be tellers years ago)....and i was having a hard time and my friend to me to rise above the situation.....i have never forgot that...so YOU rise above that a--sshole, head up, shoulders back, gorgeous smile on that face.....you dont need to answer.....just give them a sh*t eating grin.....

*no comment or replies speak volumes*

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Jerk..... Just smile knowing you are doing something great for yourself!!!!

No one deserved to be bullied.... Even grown a** people can be ugly and mean...

You are a beautiful gift from God. Hold you head high!

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Thanks guys, yeah I guess I don't need to say anything, but sometimes I just don't think people realise how detrimental comments like that are to people like us. A few yrs ago I would have been devastated, today I just thought you insensitive **** and got a bit angry.

He is an older man who has known me for 4 yrs and has been very good to me for the most part, nearly dad like (he has daughters my age) but today I was pretty disappointed.

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He probably meant it is a joke, but it came out unusually cruel!Many people just don't think before opening their mouths. we have all, well most of us, have been in the situation of "open mouth, insert foot". As others said, you need to rise above these folks! Bless you and welcome to the banded life! Karen

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Ohh wow it blocked a word I used! I didn't even use a swear word!

I am sure he has foot in mouth disease! In a few weeks I will be losing weight and he can go eat McDonalds! :D

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Classic foot-in-mouth! I did it recently. I walked into my daughter's school, and I'm very cool with the security people. As I was waiting for my daughter's class to come down, I got close to one of the security officers and said: WHAT'S THATS MELL?! IT SMELLS LIKE FEET (thinking it was one of the hormonal teenagers around us) she said: What, my Chinese food? And pointed to it.... I almost died!! I tried to play it off and say, nooooo, it CAN'T be your food, I think someone is eating Doritos. LoL....

And if you wanna read a horror story, read my post titled "I'm A Whimp".... It's similar to yours, except your old boss' intentions might not have been to hurt you, unlike what happened to me.

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A little gripe to share.

So I am sitting at my desk at work this morning and my old boss comes in to say hello. We chat for a few minutes and all is very pleasant and then he says

"ohhh you weren’t here last week one day when I came in to see you"

"No I wasn’t' date=' I went home ill last Wednesday and didn’t come back till Monday because I had severe food poisoning"

"ohhh I bet you have been eating too much McDonalds." and then laughs at me.

"Actually no, it wasn’t that at all."

REALLY!!!!! What the..... How rude! Sure I am chubby, sure I am booked in for lap banding (he is unaware) but I am not at McDonalds every day, not even once a month! I love how people always assume you must eat junk all day long to be fat. I actually eat generally good food, I just eat too much of it!

I'm really glad I have not told lots of people about my procedure. The audacity! I wish I was able to think more quickly and say something back but I was just too taken aback and he was my boss so I guess I feel like it is difficult to say something in return!

Has anyone else experienced this recently? [/quote']

That's ok...you will get the last laugh when you become successful with your lapband and he sees you shrinking away...isn't it funny how some people love to make others feel miserable? That is a sign of insecurity--they are making you feel bad to elevate themselves! It's a classic move and lots of men do it! I might say back at him. "Ya know... I just can't seem to eat four quarter pounders like I used to". You don't need to give him am explanation or feel bad about yourself at all.. I'm sure he's not perfect looking! Keep on trucking forward and let us know how you do! It will be sweet revenge to see his face when your successful!

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Ha ha ladies you made me laugh ;D I can think of a number of things to say but I never will - makes it harder that I used to be in the military and he was a senior officer to me. He is a kind man and I know he doesn't see me as unattractive or anything like that as he often compliments me on my appearance (eg. you look lovely today said in a dad way not a creepy old man way!) I am sure his heart is in the right place, but perhaps sees just also me as overweight.

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Ada!!! I think I read somewhere that you get banded next Wednesday??? I do as well!! I wish you all the luck. I am new to this forum. And it ha helped ease my nerves a lot. Talk soon

Ashley

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Ada!!! I think I read somewhere that you get banded next Wednesday??? I do as well!! I wish you all the luck. I am new to this forum. And it ha helped ease my nerves a lot. Talk soon

Ashley

Yep 8 days to go!!!!! ha ha not that I am counting. It would be nice to stay in touch if we are to be bandits together :) Nice to meet you

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Yes let's stay in touch :)

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insensitive? yes. since you have the relationship that you do with him, i suspect he may be trying to improve his own diet/ health, what he said may have been more about his behavior, past or present regarding mcdonalds, than an insult drected at you. hugs.

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