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Hi All,

I just found the group last night. I've already attended my seminar and my first consultation. Now I'm nervous. I don't have my spouse's support. He feels I'm just lazy and need to exercise. He doesn't understand. I'm glad I found this group I could use some support from people who understand.

- Valerie

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Valerie - welcome to LBT. You may wish to send your husband to this site so that he may better understand your plight.

Best of luck!

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I was considering it after reading some of the other posts.

Thanks.

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Hi Valerie. I have encountered some very rude comments from the couple of people that I've told too. They seem to think that a lap band is just the "easy way out" while I'm looking at it as a tool to help me. That is the biggest obstacle along my path--the comments from anyone I tell.

Oh well...I'm doing it for me and no one else!! Good luck

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Welcome. I am so sorry you don't have your spouses support. I know a few others in the same situation and a couple of them gave up. Don't let anyone keep you from doing what you believe is right for you. He will come around. I've been extremely lucky with the support of everyone. I just feel terrible that you have to face that. You go girl and do what is best for you.

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Welcome to LBT VAMarsh. Do whatever you need to do to get your husband on board with your plans. The surgery and band rules you must follow are hard enough when you have the support of your spouse - I can't imagine what this journey would be like if my husband wasn't behind my decision 100%

Best wishes on your weight loss journey - keep in touch so we'll know how you're doing.

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Valerie, is your DH even willing to discuss it or is he just totally against it? It would be very difficult, tho not impossible without his support. Maybe he is scared for you? Or for your relationship if you lose your weight? Maybe research it together, attend another seminar, and ask him to go with you? I hope you work it out. I thank God my DH is as supportive as he is, he is my rock!

Welcome!!!! you will find support here. You can ask anything, no one makes you feel stupid for asking! It is an awesome site, with wonderful people, you will be sooooo glad you found it!!!

Kat

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Valerie, is your DH even willing to discuss it or is he just totally against it? It would be very difficult, tho not impossible without his support. Maybe he is scared for you? Or for your relationship if you lose your weight? Maybe research it together, attend another seminar, and ask him to go with you? I hope you work it out. I thank God my DH is as supportive as he is, he is my rock!

Welcome!!!! you will find support here. You can ask anything, no one makes you feel stupid for asking! It is an awesome site, with wonderful people, you will be sooooo glad you found it!!!

Kat

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I am also one of the lucky ones. At first my DH was nervous about it. He thought that this was way to dangerous, (he was thing I wanted RY or DS) then he started reading some of my research on the LB and did research on his own, now my DH is behind me. So are my folks. I have olny told a few people and after hearing some discouraging (sp) comments, decided that I was going to limit who else found out. I refuse to defend myself to anyone on a this. This is for me. The only one who knows at work is my boss, and that is because of the time off work I am going to have to take.

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Hello All,

This is my first time to this sight, I heard about at support group last night. I was banded on April 3rd! I have lost 23lbs since surgery, and 17lbs prior to surgery. I always have questions so I am so excited to have found out about this site! One question I do have is, what has your doctors said about drinking from straws? I was just curious, because I have 2 small children and although it sounds funny........drinking from a straw is convient and I miss it!!!!!!

How do you get those cute time charts from timetracker.com to move over to your profile?

Looking forward to chatting with all of you!!

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Hi Jen and Valerie......I just recently found this site too....it is wonderful....i am not banded yet but i will be as of June 5th....very excited and nervous. Valerie I have my DH support in fact he is the one who suggested it.....i kept talking to him about it and then he read up on it ....and never in a million years i would have thought he would approach me with the idea....and insurance doesnt cover it so he has to do self pay.....so hang in there Valerie maybe he will come around. Print some info about it in put it in the bathroom...ya know men love to read when they are in the bathroom. Might help a bit. Well Good Luck! Good Luck to you to Jen.

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