Failure......but today......

[kellyjoiii 19]

So, it's been 3 years since I got my band. I started at 249.5 and today weighed in at 190.5 (my lowest was 163) but from what I have seen and heard, almost everyone either levels out, or becomes complacent and gains some back. That's me, Mz. Complacently.....who is disgusted with herself. Today is a new day, and one to make better choices. I will get back to it, one better decision at a time, and stop being so hard on myself. I refuse to be a statistic. Thank you for listening

[KAATNS 1,473]

^{Yes, today is a new day. Don't look back- you're not going that way.}

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

The title of this thread is 100% wrong,

You are not a failure. The only way you can fail is by quitting and you haven't quit.

You are just a successful journey in process

[mrsto 2,925]

The title of this thread is 100% wrong,

You are not a failure. The only way you can fail is by quitting and you haven't quit.

You are just a successful journey in process

Mis - WELL said!!

[Mandymoo13 111]

With that attitude, how can you go wrong? Dust yourself off and look forward. You got this!!!!!!

[kellyjoiii 19]

Thank you everyone! It's not how many times we fall, it's about how many times we get back up and dust ourselves off. It is a wonderful day, and I refuse to give in. Especially with such wonderful support like y'all. We can do this!!

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

dont look back......looking forward is much more fun

[mrsto 2,925]

dont look back......looking forward is much more fun

SO true! And lets face it.....we can't do sh-t about the past, other than learn from it to cultivate our future

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

SO true! And lets face it.....we can't do sh-t about the past, other than learn from it to cultivate our future

preach it sistah

[Kris150 29]

So' date=' it's been 3 years since I got my band. I started at 249.5 and today weighed in at 190.5 (my lowest was 163) but from what I have seen and heard, almost everyone either levels out, or becomes complacent and gains some back. That's me, Mz. Complacently.....who is disgusted with herself. Today is a new day, and one to make better choices. I will get back to it, one better decision at a time, and stop being so hard on myself. I refuse to be a statistic. Thank you for listening [/quote']

Kelly, our statistics are near identical - I've got my band nearly two years ago. Got down from 236 to 169 in a year. I was happy as Larry! .....but I became complacent with my achievement and old, bad habits creeped back. Now I'm back up at 185.... I was the poster-patient of my old doc and now look at me!

I still have the knowledge and experience and tools to turn this around and I intend to do just that.

But also, everyone says that we need to stop beating ourselves up and quit the guilt trip. I hear it all - but I have no idea how to do that!!!! (Is there a book about that?)

[kellyjoiii 19]

See, this is what I am talking about this support! Kris150, while reading your post, I got chills. It's amazing to connect to someone in the same boat (and I am aware there are so many of us). My chills were from your very last comment. The guilt trip. The guilt is the worst, and when it is so engrained in your head, and heart....it's hard to let it go. Which brings me to my title. Failure.....I know I am not a failure, but when you are continually picking yourself up after "breaking" your resolve to do something, it gets a little tiring. THAT BEING SAID, I will be a cheerleader for us all...(all of those psych classes in college bring out the counselor in me ) continually picking yourself up from "falling" is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. It shows that we are not failures, but actually fighters. Fight on my friends, because you have shown me what it is that helped me make my decisions in the first place. Strength!

I now would like to know, what kind of eating plan, many of you follow. I always always always go back to low carb. Which I am following now. I almost exist on dairy ALONE...cheese is a big part of my diet, so no paleo for me. But I DO utilize ALOT of their recipes because they tend to be "low carb". My favorite snack/meal is thick cucumber rounds (about 10) patted dry, with cream cheese (2 tbs) a heavy sprinkle of Greek seasoning by Cavenders and sliced kalamata olives (9) on top.....mmmmmmm, I know what's for Breakfast (126 calories, 6 carbs-1 fiber=5 net, 3 protein)

K

[amberd0717 2]

Hi everyone. I am in the same boat as you all. I was banded in November 2008. I lost 60 pounds fairly quickly and was feeling awesome. Got married, got comfortable and gained back 50 of it. Today that number is creeping up closer to that starting point and I refuse to let myself get back there. So today I start over. I am going to try to do liquids today to see if I can get myself bacck in the mode again and then try to do mushies for a day or so. Any suggestions on starting over? My biggest issue is drinking to wash it down so I can eat more. That is going to be my number 1 goal to stop as of this very second.

WE CAN DO THIS!!!!!!

[kellyjoiii 19]

Amberd0717,

Good luck. We can and will succeed. Maybe you should look into a fill? It's a new day. Make one small change at a time. Stop drinking with your meals. I too do it sometimes we can do this!!!

[Kris150 29]

Good morning all you strong, committed people!

I'm a tad chirpy this morning.... and there is good reason for that, which I'll share right now:

Just after replying to Kelly's post on Tuesday I've stumbled upon* a tiny but amazing book about WLS. (*: stumbled upon = was suggested by a band blogger) I read it on the spot (thank you Amazon Kindle!) and I believe it changed my perspective completely and put my head right about why things went sour, what I need to do to succeed and gave me tools to do it.

I'm sue by now you are on you seats' edge to get the title of this "magic bullet" - so here it is:

Skinny jeans... at last! by Clifton Thomas MD.

Finally a book more concerned about giving you a helping hand to succeed with your WLS than telling you what to pack for the hospital or what the mushy diet consist of or what or what a fill means.... A useful book for "old bandsters"!

Now go and read it!!!! I mean NOW!! (Then come back and let me know what you think)

[kellyjoiii 19]

Kris150, I just ordered it and am on page two..lol, I'll let you know what I think