Negativity

[B-52 7,113]

Ever notice how some people spend more energy telling everyone what lap band surgery WILL NOT do and DID NOT do for THEM.....and therefore WILL NOT and CANNOT do for anyone else?

As opposed to what Lap band Surgery HAS DONE for them therefore WILL DO for everyone else?

It's as though, just because they do not have something, no one else can have it.....Mind Boggling! Is it the haves and have-nots?

That is Negativity....No One should get in your way and tell you no....tell you not to try to acheive your goals, your dreams, aspirations....

For myself, as well as many others I'm sure, this was a once in a lifetime chance...a last resort...after years of dieting and failure, resulting in ill health.......I'm going to do all and not let anyone tell me it is impossible....others have acheived it, so can I....

Aside from unavoidable medical complications, the only people who can get in our way is ourselves.....not because other people say I can't....

If you want it...go for it...

[catfish87 3,471]

Amen! Also, your "travel" post yesterday. loved it!

[parisshel 1,892]

Here's what I stay out of:

-Discussions about religion

-Discussions about how to raise your kids

and

-Discussions about which diet is the "best"

So, when a sleever told me that she'd "never choose a lapband", I just said "Hmmm." No reason to try and have her see why and how I made my choice. Like religion and child-rearing---my choice. You don't have to agree with me; I'm the one who lives with the results of my choice.

[kll724 3,055]

Good advice parishal and of, b-52! :wub:

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

each to their own as they are gonna say/think/do whatever they want anyhow...

[hely88 883]

Good Post. I have learned to get out of my own way. I do wish others would learn this also.

[Terry Poperszky 2,784]

I want the facts, ALL of them. So when somebody tells me that the band is bad, and I should look at another WLS, my first question will be how does the problems with the band, compare with the problems of that other surgery?

I am more than willing to listen to personal experience, but anecdotal information (In my mind) ranks lower than almost all other types of information. I want to see controlled studies, I want to see information from the complete range of people who have had the procedures, not just those who post on a particular forum. I want to see bias (pro and con) eliminated as much as possible.

[marketingdude 79]

In studying human behavior my whole life...I've noticed that people want everyone to see things from their perspective and THEIR PERSPECTIVE is always right. It's kind of like they view themselves like a god or messianic figure. Their insight or perspective is the only one that matters (kind of a socialistic attitude when you think about). THEIR CONVICTION...needs to be EVERYONE'S CONVICTION.

I don't mind alternative points of view (actually I embrace it) but where people go wrong is when they demonize a procedure (or a thought process) and ASSUME that it will not work for you.... I think perspective and the ability to look at the big picture is what is missing from these types of people.

Just my humble opinion!

Respectfully,

MD