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Ok so I see all these posts where people are ready to give up before their journey truly begins and it makes me sad. So I am sharing my store.

I was banded about 4 years ago. I didnt get it. I knew it would be hard but it was even harder then i imagined. And I did not have this forum or the chat room where I have made such good friends so I quit. I just stopped trying. It was too hard. I felt too bad. I suffer from depression and I just tucked the guilt from failing away and led a life of junk food and sliders. That is until I really reevaluated my life. Found this site and spent time reading posts. I came up with a plan. I talked to my family first and once I had their support I made a visit to my doctor. They made me get a flouro because it has been so long and when that turned out ok they gave me a small fill. This was the end of last October.

I got a sugery book from the np. I followed every one of my doctors guidelines and spent a lot of time on this site. It took me a while to realize that the senior banders just cut to the chase. They give advice from their own experience and we can either take it or leave it. I also cut out all carbonated sodas and quit smoking. You see on here a lot about "want power". You have to REALLY want this bad. You have to follow the directions your doctor gives you. I truly believe you must at some point see a nutritionist. You also in my opinion once you are on solids that is what you eat. You have to work very hard to manage your band. It is not magic it is a tool. This is not a sprint its a marathon.

Anyway, since back on track I have lost over 10lbs a month. I only started exercising last week. If I can do it anyone can. I know i keep mentnioning that I have a recipe group. I cant work right now so I really enjoy it. It is open for anyone all you have to is friend me at hely lb. I am there if you want to chat or if you are looking for specific foods. Let me know.

Please remember you are doing this for you first. Everyone you love and care for will reap the benefits once you find your path. Thank you to everyone on here who has supported me and kicked me in the ass when I needed it.

Helen

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I would love meal suggestions!! I get so bored! How do you measure? Any advice is great!! I have been banded since 07 and I get so frustrated at times too!

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i just measure by volume only. i eat 3 half cup meals and sometimes a snack. friend me in fb and ill put you in the group. hely lb

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Thanks for sharing your story and being honest. You have helped me be honest with myself and to realize that my doctor knows his sh&% and wouldn't tell me what I needed to do if it wasn't for a reason. Thank you again Helen!

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Helen, thanks so much for sharing your story. I am so glad you found us and are working with your band to find success.

Good luck to you.

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**You see on here a lot about "want power". You have to REALLY want this bad. You have to follow the directions your doctor gives you.**

words for all to live by and adhere to the banded life

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Hello...and congrats on your jumping back on the band wagon !!!

Its good to know some of our advice is welcomed.....

I know the kick in the butt has saved me more then once

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Hmmmmm where did I hear that want power again?? lol

I just wanted to add that I have lost 92.2 lbs so far. Almost 50 of that is since end of October. This is the first time ever in my life that I know I am going to go all the way!

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Hmmmmm where did I hear that want power again?? lol

hey sweetums, you wrote it...you own it :)

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I followed every one of my doctors guidelines and spent a lot of time on this site. It took me a while to realize that the senior banders just cut to the chase. They give advice from their own experience and we can either take it or leave it. You see on here a lot about "want power". You have to REALLY want this bad. You have to follow the directions your doctor gives you. I truly believe you must at some point see a nutritionist. You also in my opinion once you are on solids that is what you eat. You have to work very hard to manage your band. It is not magic it is a tool.

Helen

Preach it Sister!

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