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I will be getting my surgery done January 24, 2013. I am starting the different labs necessary. So stoked and excited and nervous and sooooo many different emotions. I feel like i need to tell every single person in my life about it, but i'm not.

Good luck everybody :)

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Congratulations! My surgery is planned for Jan15. I seem to be having all those same emotions and feelings you described! I haven't told very many people either. I just want to wait and see how it goes. I guess I'm a little bit afraid of another failure and little bit afraid of people talking about it being an "easy" way out. I will tell when I'm ready until then, people will just think I'm getting a hernia repaired--- which is true.

I'm a little concerned about the 2 week liquid diet. Do you have to do this as well?

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Congratulations! My surgery is planned for Jan15. I seem to be having all those same emotions and feelings you described! I haven't told very many people either. I just want to wait and see how it goes. I guess I'm a little bit afraid of another failure and little bit afraid of people talking about it being an "easy" way out. I will tell when I'm ready until then' date=' people will just think I'm getting a hernia repaired--- which is true.

I'm a little concerned about the 2 week liquid diet. Do you have to do this as well?

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I only have 4 friends and my mom and t two younger sisters who know. Im not afraid to tell my brother I just know hell turn around and tell his girlfriend who will turn around and tell more people. People have told me that it's an easy way out and i haven't lost weight because I'm not trying hard enough! So I try to keep my business to myself for now! ;) and yes I need to do labs chest X-rays and the 2 week liquid diet! I'm si nervous for that!!

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I know what you mean! I don't know why anyone would think this is the "easy" way out! I mean my goodness, who would just opt for major surgery if they didn't feel like it was the only way! Obviously, we tried over and over again! And what they don't seem to realize is there will still be plenty of hard work even with the band! You will still have choices to make-- what you eat, are you gonna exercise and so forth. I think it's really just a form if jealousy or insecurity on their part so they have to make you feel rotten, too! Oh, well! That's why this site exists--- to provide support! I know everything will go just fine for you! Good luck and keep in touch!

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Thanks so much!! I completely understand :) good luck with you!

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I've told a my immediate family and a few close friends but am stopping there because I know I'll still have to do the work and make the right food choices. As I've read on here and been told by my doc, the band is not a cure, it's a tool. I'll still have to count calories, etc. So now that I'm on the liquid diet, those who don't know me too personally are just getting the story that I'm trying to lose weight and then the days I'm off from work for surgery, I'll just tell them my son or my mom was sick and then when I start losing weight I'm going to tell them how I'm counting calories and exercising. Most people just want something to gossip about - and it's not going to be me :)

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I have told everybody. I don't care what they think. I know this is the best choice for me. My surgery date is Jan 22.

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I've told a my immediate family and a few close friends but am stopping there because I know I'll still have to do the work and make the right food choices. As I've read on here and been told by my doc' date=' the band is not a cure, it's a tool. I'll still have to count calories, etc. So now that I'm on the liquid diet, those who don't know me too personally are just getting the story that I'm trying to lose weight and then the days I'm off from work for surgery, I'll just tell them my son or my mom was sick and then when I start losing weight I'm going to tell them how I'm counting calories and exercising. Most people just want something to gossip about - and it's not going to be me <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />[/quote']

Exactly! Some people here are just miserable and love to talk about other peoples lives and decisions so I'd rather just keep it to my close friends and family and do the work! :) great post :)

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I have told everybody. I don't care what they think. I know this is the best choice for me. My surgery date is Jan 22.

Congrats on the surgery date! :) are you excited ,nervous, anxious, scared.?? All of the above? Lol

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I was just banded on the 10th. I was excited and nervous and everything else in between. Wish you a quck recover and learn from my mistakes.

make sure you can slide off your bed. I had flannel bedsheets and cotton pjs and I had a hell of a time that night and the next day. In addition, my bed is high and I didn't have a stool.

make sure you make accomodations for those first few days.

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Congrats on the surgery date! :) are you excited ,nervous, anxious, scared.?? All of the above? Lol

A friend just asked me that a couple nights ago and I can say I am not worried or nervous Just ready for the surgery to be done. Remember that most of those talking about the easy way out are speaking out of ignorance. It only takes a few minutes on this site reading posts and blogs to know this is not an easy way out.

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