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♕ajtexas♕    3,771

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Hi There

I have made the decision to go with the surgery. My fear isn't the surgery itself. My fear is failing. Did anyone or does anyone feel this way?

Every day I face that fear. Even now that I am at my goal weight I fear that I'll gain all my weight back. But I have this tool that helped me loose the weight and will now help me maintain my weight.

It is the best thing I have ever done for myself!

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wozzicat    36

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I look at this as a tool. I'm gluten intolerant so when I find something to actually eat I eat a lot of it. I'm hoping I won't have that wish to eat very much food. It is so much money. That is another reason I don't want to fail and worry about it. I can't work out. I may need knee surgery so that is a concern.

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♕ajtexas♕    3,771

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I was self-pay, worth every penny. I don't "work out" I walk as much as I can, I use a pedometer to track and try to get 10,000 steps in a day. Start slow and work up to it.

You will get there, one day a a time and one step at a time.

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wozzicat    36

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Thank you so much ajtexas. I used to work out but may need surgery on my knee. Thanks for the help. Jen

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♕ajtexas♕    3,771

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You're welcome. I look forward to hearing about your progress. I know you will do great.

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Instyle98    240

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I'm scheduled for surgery on 12/31 and failing has been one of my biggest fears. However, you're never a failure until you quit trying. I've already failed myself once by gaining back almost all of the 165 lbs I lost. This time I'm trying to lose weight safely and in a healthy manner and hopefully for good. I'm trying to stay focused and motivated.

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wozzicat    36

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I'm scheduled for surgery on 12/31 and failing has been one of my biggest fears. However, you're never a failure until you quit trying. I've already failed myself once by gaining back almost all of the 165 lbs I lost. This time I'm trying to lose weight safely and in a healthy manner and hopefully for good. I'm trying to stay focused and motivated.

Thank you. It is very scary

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wozzicat    36

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Thank you. It is very scary

Did you do the lap band before or lost the weight on your own?

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Instyle98    240

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I lost weight on my own. I went through some tough times (lost several family members) lost a good amount without really trying - 80 lbs and then decided if I lost that much I should put some effort into it. Unfortunately I became obsessed with weight loss and became anorexic and had a bad case of body dysmorphic disorder. I went from a size 24W to a 6 - 8 (even had some size 4's) and thought that I still needed to lose weight. Along the way I had to have my gall bladder removed and suffered a Vitamin B deficiency so severe my doctors thought I had either suffered a stroke or had MS at first and it was all due to rapid weight loss. I had such a hard time believing I was a small person that I had to keep checking my clothing tags in my closet! Now, I don't want to look at my clothing tags! I'm determined to lose weight in a healthy manner this time with sensible goals.

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Smiles4Di    61

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Yes I felt the same way! But I'm 10 days post op and have lost 24lbs. I slipped up yesterday and ate a half sandwich! Shame on me but I feel super guilty and will not risk complications for food again. I'm sure you will do fine and I'm sure that fear of failing will motivate you to stay strong and do as your told!!

How long did you do Clear liquids? I am 3 days post op and had some grits

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Lori Voss Green    93

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I had surgery in August, so I am almost 5 months post op. I don't think the fear of failure will ever fully go away, but when I think about the fact that I am down over 50 lbs and 4 sizes, I look at THAT and see success. My success outweighs my fear. There are stumbles along the way. We all have them. We are not perfect. However, it is how you react to them that makes the difference.

GOOD LUCK!

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Spoiledguti86    37

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How long did you do Clear Liquids? I am 3 days post op and had some grits

Clear liquids was for one week. Then I did heavier liquids for the second

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LadyMaggie    145

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Just make sure you are VERY informed and educated about the entire process. I did not do enough research about Bandster HE**, Hair loss issues and constipations. No regrets . . .. yet~ GOOD LUCK on your journey

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
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