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I have made the decision to go with the surgery. My fear isn't the surgery itself. My fear is failing. Did anyone or does anyone feel this way?

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Yes I felt the same way! But I'm 10 days post op and have lost 24lbs. I slipped up yesterday and ate a half sandwich! Shame on me but I feel super guilty and will not risk complications for food again. I'm sure you will do fine and I'm sure that fear of failing will motivate you to stay strong and do as your told!!

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I was in the same boat you were years ago. I didn't want anyone to know until they started asking what was my trick for loosing so much weight. At that point I would spill it. You can't fail at this though if you remember it's only a tool to help you loose. You still have to change eating habits and exercise. There's no way around it. You will have some bad days, maybe, we're all different. But if you do get those days, know that tomorrow will be another day and keep trying.

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I am really concerned about the mushy foods. Hopefully I can just cut food really small and chew it to death. I'm scared until I know. If you don't feel full you just go back?

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Hi!!! I am 4 weeks post op and super happy. It is a challenge but I keep looking at the light at the end of the tunnel. Just keep on focusing on healing and your Drs advise. You will do great!!!

Annette

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I think pretty much all of us has failed many dieting attempts and wondered if this was going to be just another failed attempt. If we follow the rules we will succeed this time.

When I was just banded I worried everyday if I messed something up. Drinking too much, not enough, too big a bite, chewing enough. I think it's normal.

The band will let you know if you really mess up.

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If you don't feel full you just go back?

I am not sure what you mean.... We all must learn to eat until we are satisfied ...not full. Once the post up liquid was over Mr dr had me eating 3 oz of protien, 1/2 c veggies and 1/4 c starch at every meal. No more than that.

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Everyone has their tales of fear of failure. You have to WANT this for yourself, because it is still a lot of work, not a magic procedure or spell the doctor casts over you.

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Thank you. Yes I guess failure is always a thought. Failed diet one after another. Especially when you pay so much. I will get there. Just scary. I love drinking Water. That is a plus

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Oh it was almost a reason I didnt get the band....I was so scared that it was just going to be another diet I failed at.....I think it was also a reason I didnt want to tell many I was getting it done.....couldnt be happier today ....

sings me and my band !!!!

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That is really great to hear. I have been going back and forth for a year. Thank you

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Actually very few people will know about the surgery. It is non of their business how much it costs and that would be a bug topic of conversation

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And it does get annoying after a while repeating the same story and how the band works after a while

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And it does get annoying after a while repeating the same story and how the band works after a while

Hi Katie. I know exactly what would happen

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Scaried of failing? Yup every day!

But try to have faith in yourself, that's what I am doing.

I was banded Monday.

Long road ahead: complete with fast lanes, slow lanes, pot holes, detours, people cutting you off, etc. just keep your eyes on the road, you'll arrive.

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