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Had my surgery in 2008 in Gainesville, FL., everything went allright for about a year went from 379lbs to 255lbs, never could break the 250lbs mark. I got frustrated after that and started a new job with more stress and less exercise. Now, I feel in like I am drowning everynight, I am back up to 350lbs just sick and tired of throwing up and feeling this way. I just really want this thing out of me .

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So sorry to hear that......

Since you were banded in 2008, there is probably not much you haven't heard or tried, so you probably won't hear anything new from this forum......

From this group and others I belong to, I have come to the conclusion that there are cases where the band just does not go well with the individual.....

Every attempt is made during the pre-surgery testing, screening, etc, and unfortunately it does happen.

I don't know you or your situation, but speaking for myself, I really wanted to loose weight...life or death, and I was, and still am, willing to make any sacrifices needed....

I joked with my Dr. and said "I don't care if you wire my jaw shut, ANYTHING to loose this weight"

One good thing about the band, it is reversible and can be removed, unlike by-pass, etc.

I used to LOVE food, and LOVE cooking....I had to turn my back on the thing I loved, and in a way, make it my enemy....always there to do me harm....

I also believe, having the band and continuing to over eat can, and probably will do more harm physically than good...abuse to the band is never good......2008 is a long time

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You did so good on the first year. Wonder why it just working for you! Did you try and write down food intake to see if some foods were wrong for you. Was a dietitian consulted by you during the time it all of a sudden quit working. Guess all of us are different otherwis ewe would all be skinny.

Best wishes

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I was banded in 2008. I lost nearly 50 pounds. Then I stopped. I've kept most of the weight off, but haven't lost anything major. I have been so frustrated with my band, but also with myself. I exercise and the weight is still about the same. I disliked the teamv of doctors i was working with. I found a new doctor, and am now considering the sleeve. But before I go there. I'm going to fight with this band for another 6 months to one year. I didn't have support throughout my band journey until now. I realized that there was so many things I didn't know. I had to learn creativity. I had to be real honest with myself about what I had done to cause me to remain where I am. I had to go harder and do better.

You should be reexamined to see how the band is doing. You should consider the 5 day pouch test to see where you are with you eating. You can get through this. I can support you. I know just what you are dealing with and how long you've been struggling. I'm here if you want the support.

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Another option is just to have it totally unfilled...if you haven't had a slip or something then you should be back to "normal" and it should feel the same as having "that thing" taken out

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I can't even imagine what you are going through, physically and mentally. I'm sure all of this is depleting you of energy, and it must be a daily struggle to remain hopeful and positive. Take the time to really evaluate what you want to do next. Right now, it seems you are at a standstill and you have a few options to consider. Weigh the pros & cons carefully and then make the best decision for you. Your physical & mental health are crucial to your all-around well-being.

Don't forget that you did it once, and you were very successful. Don't forget that you have inner-strength and determination. Don't forget that you are human and will make mistakes at times, but most of all, don't forget you are so worth it.

Good Luck and many blessings your way~ xooxxoxo

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Please know that everyone has a different experience and expectations with the band! Don't be discouraged or frustrated! 6 years ago when I got my band I would have thought it was impossible to ever go backwards or sideways! I would have stood on my pedestal and preached my commitment! However, my insurance did not pay for my surgery, therefore every appointment I went to came out of my pocket! Recently as the economy has gotten worse, so has my ability to be able to pay for frequent visits. Life happens! I also need to re-commit to my health and remember the reason I got the band in the first place! I would like you to join me in getting back on track! Re-adjust our expectations and give it another shot! One fail does not make us failures!!!!

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