"i Think You Are Too Skinny"

[Theboysmom 69]

Hmpfh!!

Why do people say that? Is that there way of saying...You're hotter than me I think you need to be fat again?

I don't even know how to handle that statement when someone says it!?

Do I say politley...Well, thank you however I think you might need to think before you open your mouth?

I had a friend tell me that yesterday....She said I wasnt sure if I was going to talk to you about it over the phone or til Saturday when we went out...I really didnt know what to day....?

[joannedt 83]

Sounds like jealousy to me. I look forward to hearing that snide remark!

[TracyW2 137]

I dont know what to tell you because I have the same issue. My mil was flat out rude about it. Telling me how I was too thin and the way she seen me 4 months ago was just perfect. I just tell them I work my butt off to lose the weight and I'm healthy.

I mean seriously, they werent coming up to me telling me I was too fat.

[lucy2.0 57]

"Thank you!! I love myself!!" that's it, even if they say it in the "wrong way"

[Toddy 758]

I think there is the "jealousy" too skinny comment; and then there is the "you look sick" too skinny comment. I think you should examine the comment maker's motives. I say this because I had a good friend lose weight a couple of years ago and she started looking really sickly. She put about five or six pounds back on and looked great. There really is such a thing as too skinny!

[DeAna N 229]

I am not certian if it's jealousy or coming from a good place but I can't weight to hear it from someone I might get annoyed after awhile but I am looking forward to the 1st time(smile)

[tflemon67 88]

Hmpfh!!

Why do people say that? Is that there way of saying...You're hotter than me I think you need to be fat again?

I don't even know how to handle that statement when someone says it!?

Do I say politley...Well, thank you however I think you might need to think before you open your mouth?

I had a friend tell me that yesterday....She said I wasnt sure if I was going to talk to you about it over the phone or til Saturday when we went out...I really didnt know what to day....?

YES, that's exactly what they mean. Ignore them and keep moving towards your healthy weight! If they can't love you skinny then you'll have fun finding NEW friends.

[TKW 501]

Ha... anyone ever says that to me I'm going to plant a big ole kiss right on their lips and say Thank YOU!

(she's jealous... it's not like your frail and weigh 98 pounds)

NICE work by the way!

[daisychains7 427]

I actually got that for the first time last week. I was pretty surprised. I think my friends are so used to seeing me morbidly obese, that's the version of me they are comfortable with even if it's not healthly. I still have 50 lbs to go til a healthy BMI so i don't plan on stopping!

It's not about looks... It's about health. Lose the amount of weight you need to to reach a healthy range for your height.

[lalaj 108]

People are use to seeing us fat, so when we lose weight we don't look like ourselves to them. I say work your butt off until YOU are proud. Bump everybody else. do what makes you happy. Those that love you, will accept the "skinny" and happier you.

Keep up the good work

[SusieSunshine 68]

Too skinny? I'm sorry but if someone is almost 200 lbs they are not too skinny. To me too skinny is under 120 or borderline anorexia. I don't know. That is just rude.

[daisychains7 427]

This thread reminds me of one of my closest friends. I have known her about 5 years and we both struggle with weight.

However, she has been nothing but supportive since I got my band. She tells me my weight loss inspires her to make changes in her own lifestyle. She said to me "I would not care if you were 100 or 500 pounds. You were always beautiful. I am happy for your weight loss because I know how bad YOU have wanted this. This is the version of you I have always seen". That is a true friend.

Now, some friends may make discouraging comments to us as we lose weight, but they are not trying to be hurtful. But If there are people in your life who INTENTIONALLY are negative about your weight loss, cut them loose. Life is too short!

*gets off soapbox* LOL

[NWgirl 574]

Like someone else said, when everyone is used to seeing you larger, it is shocking to see you in a normal weight and it is easier to think someone has gotten too thin. Take it as a compliment.

[Theboysmom 69]

Thanks for all the feed back! I guess it just took me a lil by surprise! And I am just now starting to come to understand the idea when I look in the mirror that I am not the old me anymore. Well the heavier me! Still the same me on the inside!

My face looks so different but by no means am i TOO SKINNY!

Again thanks for all the advice!

And Best of luck to everyone on your journey!

Now Im off to RUN my W6D3 of Couch 2k5!

[boiler2759 5]

Ha ha I get this all the time there is 2 sides to it. The close ppl that loved you for who you were see a big change physically and emotionally and any one that's happy doesn't usually want change in there life so they get worried thinking your gonna change. Then you have the haters that try and say you look sick or tell every one your addicted to drugs lol I cop that all the time ha ha I just laugh it off, be cause I lost 65 kilos ( 146 pounds ) in 7 months I was hearing this constantly but I got over it. But to the ppl that mattered in my life I would just remind them that I'm a fat person at heart and always will be but I would be dead a lot sooner if I kept up that lifestyle so please don't try and persuade me to be that guy again cause it really wouldn't be hard for me to go back (putting on 8 kilos in the last month showed that lol). But that's how I handled that