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You are making the right decision! I am 19 days post op. I have not had great successes yet but just knowing I now have a tool gives me confidence that I can do this. I had quite a bit of soreness and still have some. Pain sounds more intimidating and trust me you will be fine. You will be afraid but the commitment to take care of you will outweigh the discomforts that you will experience for a few weeks

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Hey all! I felt the same as so many of you...showed up for surgery and thought, "ok if I'm bailing on this I need to do it now". BUT I went through with it after talking myself off the ledge and now 2 weeks post op I am THRILLED that I didn't bail! I'm almost 20 lbs down, already getting comments from co-workers and family, feeling better than I have in years and can actually say I'm proud of myself. I know it's scary now but trust me when I say the pain is temporary but the results will be forever. God bless!!! :)

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I felt the saw way before and after surgery! After surgery I was just so miserable i kept asking myself why did i do this to myself?!?!? After i thought about it, i decide that i would never stick to a diet for this long by myself. I think i was and still am scared that i would mess something up if i cheated. Anyways, once i started the mushy stage i was sooo happy!!! I was banded on Aug 9th and have lost almost 35lbs and it was definatelty worth it!

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Thank you to everyone that commented. I have only told 3 people about the surgery because I didn't want to hear negative comments. I think I was having a slight freak out :o! I just don't want to fail; I've been on soooo many diets and never stuck to any of them.

This site has helped me tremendously...thank you for the encouragement!

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I was worried about what people would say also. I didn't tell many people at all. Then after surgery I let more people know. Everyone of them came back to me with positive support. I think you will be shocked on how much people with support you. I know I was. Its a great feeling. Hang in there you are making good choices. :rolleyes:

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IMy surgery is scheduled for October 4th A WEEK FORM TODAY! And it has been a total rollercoaster by the hour since I started the pre op diet. I can do this- no I can't. I NEED the surgery-I DON'T NEED the surgery. This is the smart decision-I am making the mistake of a life time!.. You get the idea- and it literally is by the hour and to top it off last night I had a dream that I was in the surgery room and changed my mind and walked out of the hospita (in the dress thingy they give in all) and i nmy dream I walked out of the hospital loosing weight WITHOUT the surgery, like it was melting away. Needless to say that I woke freaked out thinking, my oh my! Is my mind playing games with me even as I sleep or is my subconcious trying to tell me something here?!

I want to believe that having the lap band in place will help me achive healthy choices long term and not feel like it is a rest of your life diet, but I keep thinking that I will miss food.< /p>

And more so I honestly get kinda down for not talking myself out of it, does that make sense? Ahh I am scared period.

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IMy surgery is scheduled for October 4th A WEEK FORM TODAY! And it has been a total rollercoaster by the hour since I started the pre op diet. I can do this- no I can't. I NEED the surgery-I DON'T NEED the surgery. This is the smart decision-I am making the mistake of a life time!.. You get the idea- and it literally is by the hour and to top it off last night I had a dream that I was in the surgery room and changed my mind and walked out of the hospita (in the dress thingy they give in all) and i nmy dream I walked out of the hospital loosing weight WITHOUT the surgery, like it was melting away. Needless to say that I woke freaked out thinking, my oh my! Is my mind playing games with me even as I sleep or is my subconcious trying to tell me something here?!

I want to believe that having the lap band in place will help me achive healthy choices long term and not feel like it is a rest of your life diet, but I keep thinking that I will miss food.< /p>

And more so I honestly get kinda down for not talking myself out of it, does that make sense? Ahh I am scared period.

Hi Luci84!

I totally feel the same way.....I'm scared 1 min then the next, I'm so excited! I'm 1/2 done with my process & I'm hoping to have surgery at the end of the year. I feel like I'm talking myself out of it...BUT, I know I can't lose weight on my own!

Good Luck & sending good vibes your way!

SinCityGal

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I am definitely in the same boat. Deep down I know this is the right decision cause I know I need help. I think its that fear of the unknown that gets me. Also, in an odd way, I feel like I have to say "goodbye" to an old friend....food. It has been my constant companion for many years now. It's a little bittersweet to see that way of life go away. But, I know its way past time for it to go. I have to give myself a break and realize that its ok to be scared. Major life changes can be scary!

Hi Luci84!

I totally feel the same way.....I'm scared 1 min then the next, I'm so excited! I'm 1/2 done with my process & I'm hoping to have surgery at the end of the year. I feel like I'm talking myself out of it...BUT, I know I can't lose weight on my own!

Good Luck & sending good vibes your way!

SinCityGal

IMy surgery is scheduled for October 4th A WEEK FORM TODAY! And it has been a total rollercoaster by the hour since I started the pre op diet. I can do this- no I can't. I NEED the surgery-I DON'T NEED the surgery. This is the smart decision-I am making the mistake of a life time!.. You get the idea- and it literally is by the hour and to top it off last night I had a dream that I was in the surgery room and changed my mind and walked out of the hospita (in the dress thingy they give in all) and i nmy dream I walked out of the hospital loosing weight WITHOUT the surgery, like it was melting away. Needless to say that I woke freaked out thinking, my oh my! Is my mind playing games with me even as I sleep or is my subconcious trying to tell me something here?!

I want to believe that having the lap band in place will help me achive healthy choices long term and not feel like it is a rest of your life diet, but I keep thinking that I will miss food.< /p>

And more so I honestly get kinda down for not talking myself out of it, does that make sense? Ahh I am scared period.

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IMy surgery is scheduled for October 4th A WEEK FORM TODAY! And it has been a total rollercoaster by the hour since I started the pre op diet. I can do this- no I can't. I NEED the surgery-I DON'T NEED the surgery. This is the smart decision-I am making the mistake of a life time!.. You get the idea- and it literally is by the hour and to top it off last night I had a dream that I was in the surgery room and changed my mind and walked out of the hospita (in the dress thingy they give in all) and i nmy dream I walked out of the hospital loosing weight WITHOUT the surgery, like it was melting away. Needless to say that I woke freaked out thinking, my oh my! Is my mind playing games with me even as I sleep or is my subconcious trying to tell me something here?!

I want to believe that having the lap band in place will help me achive healthy choices long term and not feel like it is a rest of your life diet, but I keep thinking that I will miss food.< /p>

And more so I honestly get kinda down for not talking myself out of it, does that make sense? Ahh I am scared period.

I felt the same way...

I had my surgery this morning, and while waiting to be prepped, I just wanted to walk out and say forget this, I don't need it. Because when I got on the scale I was down 3lbs and was not on a pre-op diet, so I started thinking I can do this, I've done it before by myself so why do I need surgery?

Then it hit me, I can diet and lose weight, but I could never keep it off. Also the staff were so nice, they knew I was nervous, so they tried to keep me talking about other things not to think of the surgery. By the time I went in, I did not even know when I was out lol.....It's not bad, but I hate that I have to drink only Water for the nxt 24hrs before starting clear fluids....and I'm so hungry right now.

But the point is, we will try to talk ourselves out of it, but we just have to focus on why we are doing this and the benefits it will give us (good health).

Good luck and wish you well!!!

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