male only Explain It To Me!

[georgiagunnels 11]

ok so i realize that we just paid a lot if money for this surgery.....but every single morning my husband asks me if I've lost weight. if i say no he looks at me like a complete failure! so now i don't want to even eat in front of him! what is his deal!

[yoli76 5]

aww he should nott b like that with u ! my hubby supports me in every way ! i had surgery 1 yr n half ago ! 255 = 160 !

HE SHOULD B THERE TO SUPPORT U !

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

Honestly? He sounds like an uncompassionate and unsupportive jerk.

Tell him to stop asking, you'll let him know when the situation changes.

[zinhaa 363]

People don't understand. Tell him your not getting on the scale until your dr appointment.

It takes a while for things to happen and change. Hard to do but remember why you did this. It was for yourself and better health and lifestyle i am guessing. Just keep following the rules. It wasn't over night that we put on the weight so it won't be overnight to take it off.

Sounds like you need to find a support group.

We are all here for you too.

Wendy

[Sojourner 2,446]

I believe there's more than one way to interpret this...your interpretation of your husband's "look" may not be accurate.

My husband is very supportive of my band surgery and efforts to loose weight, and sometimes he seems to take on the role of my "food police". I accept this as one of his ways of showing concern and support.

Men and women actually use different parts of their brains as they approach problem solving and express their emotions. Check with him to be certain that your "interpretation of his look" is accurate.

Best wishes...

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

i agree with my girls missy and sojo both

am sorry he is making you feel this way

just answer him with a resounding YES i am.

(your getting healthier every day and feeling better)

[xsentrick 194]

To me it sounds like he doesn't understand how the band and your body work together. It seems that his expectations as to how much weight and how quickly you lose it are a little on the high side. Just try talking to him and educating him on how the LB works as a tool to assist you and what to expect as far as weight-loss goes. Knowledge is power!

[Jack 855]

"Check with him to be certain that your "interpretation of his look" is accurate. "

a very reasonable option

Assigning 'what other people think' then acting "as if' that were so, is a habit that we slip into using that too often justifies our own non rational behavior.

Immanuel Kant had a very lengthy discourse based on behavior stemming from "the Hypothetical Imperative"....acting AS IF something were true.

Shorter answer.....maybe your hubby is just trying to have a little fun, but in a way that isn't very productive.

[TexasJeff 179]

I'd jus say "yep, 40 pounds in just one day".

Hope it happens again tomorrow!!!

[georgiagunnels 11]

i just simply told him....yep, the scale says i will lose 230 pounds the next time you bug me about it, because you will be gone

[xsentrick 194]

i just simply told him....yep, the scale says i will lose 230 pounds the next time you bug me about it, because you will be gone

Now THAT is funny!! :-)

[maxeen29b 0]

i just simply told him....yep, the scale says i will lose 230 pounds the next time you bug me about it, because you will be gone

Haha! I agree with the others, I think (1) maybe he's expecting too much too soon, or (2) you're just misinterpreting him (e.g. it's just his way of supporting you jokingly). If it's the former, the above quote is warranted. If it's the latter, it's still warranted because at least you're both messing with each other.