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:( . ihad my surgery in april and bcuz of the unbearable summer weve had i had slid back to old ways...havent been watching what ive been eating and havent exercized,so now were almmost to sept and im so embarrassed/ashamed with myselff... anyone been here b4?

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Yup... just had a not so good 6 weeks. I didn't go to the gym one time (ususally do 7 - 9 hours a week) snacked, snacked and snacked. Started back at the gym this week and back to eating right and tracking my food (i didn't do this either and it makes a world of difference to me). Fortunately I was only up 1 pound. It has been a super busy summer, and I didn't eat horrible, just had some of those "extra" treats. I made the choice so I live with it and and back on the wagon.

Don't beat yourself up, just get back on track!

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You'll find plenty of sympathy and encouragement on here, but it all comes down to personal accountability. The heat may account for why you've not been outside much, it doesn't account for your eating habits. And you can find ways to exercise in doors if you want to... buy a treadmill, join a gym, play active video games (Wii Fitness, etc), get off the couch and clean the house.

Personally, I've walked outside in 100+ degree heat every day this summer. Every day... no excuses, no exceptions.

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I've got to agree with Derby, it's time for personal accountability. Most of us have had rough Patches, but you need to accept that you've been making the wrong choices and recommit yourself to getting back on track and being successful.

That's one of the things that I love about the band, you may fall off the wagon, but that band is permanent, so all you have to do is make a conscious decision to jump right back on the wagon and not let excuses derail you again!

Good luck!

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derbysunflower u r absolutley right... i did do a lil exercize nside like dancing to xbox gmes and a sports for xbox... i have a very very low tolerance for heat (i pass out easy)..as far as food i didnt just eat junk i did have some tho i just didnt do Portion Control. its my own fault so now im basicly back to square 1 and thats ok cuz i think its made me more determined..ty tkw u live and learn right,lol.... ty

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im not saying anything about not being accountable..i totally understand that. i was just curious who else has been there

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i would think anyone with a weight problem has been there and done that and sometimes back again many times.

appreciate you acknowledged it and now you can just get on with your life and making yourself well. i know you can do it :)

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I've been there to a worse extreme. After I was banded in July 2010(!) I had a fill, had a bad experience/doctor and didn't lose anything for almost 2 years. Was too scared to go back because my doctor made me feel like I was failing and my band was almost full or something. I was back to my old ways Finally, about 6 weeks ago I got a new doctor and new motivation. Got a fill, realized my last doctor was making me feel bad over nothing because he had hardly filled me at all. Now Ive been on track and steadily losing. regular appts are keeping me accountable. And now that I am properly filled, I feel like I have the help I need to do this.

Get back on track! Don't wait so long like I did! It's an awful feeling. Start back on track and do what you gotta do! Best of luck!!

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ty so much 4 positive feed back ontherighttrack and carolina girl,much appreciated :)

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my Dr is real nice but whne i didnt get a fill last time due to $$$ n only had lost 3 lbs he seems dissapointed, so I felt bad for like a week-- I decided this is MY walk and will do as I can and if I fall, I will get up again and restart -as I am commited ! but dont judge me... I was really upset as i had been hitting the gym and watching diet etc,,, and mi wallet!! anyhow I would like to have lost more too, it is what it is,,,

Just never stop-- aways go forward, and you will not fail to reach your goals,,,

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