Emotional Regret

[judych 225]

Sad enough ... while i don't have an emotional attachment to food (mine was mostly being a bachelor and eating OUT ALLLLL THE TIME). I've noticed a sadness since getting the band and eating differently. That and the communication between my wife and I has gotten worse. She hasn't lost the weight she's expected by month 9. I've lost 20 lbs or so in the month post-op. I see how weight loss and expected weightloss can cause a strain on someone.

thats sad you are having some issues with communication with your wife. Did she have the band surgery as well?

[sleepyone405 13]

My husband BBQ'd last night. I thought I was going to lock him out of the house and say,"sleep with the BBQ a*****e!". Lol.

OMG, tooooo funny! My husband has been warned, he cannot bring a pizza or even a picture of a pizza into this house, and popcorn is no longer allowed either (which is weird cuz i never liked popcorn before. I dont care if he eats his overflowing plate (the same dinner I used to eat), but there are just some things he has to give on. Luckily, he supports me and submits to most of my requests.... Thanks for the chuckle!

[Catherine55 43]

Don't stress!! When you're farther out past your surgery date, you will be able to eat pretty much anything you used to it -- you'll just eat less and feel satisfied!

Seriously... I literally just ate a burger (admittedly, without the bun, but it was great!) You also won't miss the foods you choose not to eat. The very hardest part is the clear liquid diet, then full liquids, then mushies. After that, it's so much better.

Hang in there! I'm four years out, and can tell you first hand that it was absolutely worth suffering through this phase. You will not believe how great you are going to feel when you are able to finally get control over your weight, and start really transforming yourself into a healthier, more comfortable and more attractive version of yourself.

I put a few recipes on my blog for Soups that I really liked, if you're interested (go to the February 2009 entries and you'll see one of my favorites -- there are a few earlier ones too). It really helped me a lot to cook things that were delicious, since that way I didn't feel so deprived.

With best wishes for lots of success -- and for this phase to pass quickly for you,

Catherine

[hopingtobebandedsoon 89]

i had those same feelings im 3 weeks post op 23 pounds down and loving my band already...it will get better good luck to ya.

[difa 114]

thats sad you are having some issues with communication with your wife. Did she have the band surgery as well?

Yes she was banded last year.

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

i am sorry that is happening to you.

just keep trying if you still love/care (and it seems like you do).

i know that when i have a (hard time or am depressed) i also clam up towards people (hubby included).

you sound like a nice caring man. i am sure it will get better.

you guys are in my thoughts.

[AlleyKat 26]

Oh my goodness, thank you SO much for starting this thread! I have one more day of liquids then on to mushies but 2 days ago I had a total melt down. Hubby was eatting BBQ burgers while I was eatting my stupid Soup and I totally flipped. I starting crying and stormed away like a 2 year old. In my head I was like, "What the hell are you doing" but at the same time I was thinking the same as "Icandothisforme" - sleep with the BBQ A****le! lol! Poor hubby. To top it off whenever I whine he says, "You did this to yourself, you ewanted this surgery". He's right but right now it makes me so stupid mad!!

The good news is I'm so exctied for mashed potatos it's ridiculous lol.

[sparkplug 106]

My husband barbequed yesterday. Hamburgs, and guess what! I again could only get a few bites down but everything I eat has to be put on aluminum foil to keep the moisture in, whether chicken or beef. We all need to learn how to cook and eat differently since being banded. I will do a lot things in the crock pot or oven to keep moisture in. I also see that I almost never can re-heat anything in microwave unless it has liquids with it. It tends to dry it out too much and I cannot eat anything dry even at this stage of the game, I keep that "stuck" feeling in the back of my mind and I decide to move on instead of suffering. We all need to learn a different lifestyle and different ways of cooking to make the most of what we can get down with the band. This is better than having our mouths wired shut to stop food from passing through. My friend tried that and it only worked until they took the wires off. With the band, hopefully it will be there forever. Good luck and work the band sister.