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I am soooo tired of people telling me how I " look better"! Wow did I really look that bad? To me its not a compliment at all! I wish people would choose their words wisely!

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Kind of like "you have such a pretty face"...... I know how you feel girl :)

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I also get a little "miffed" when I hear how much better I look. I didn't think I was that bad before!

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I know exactly how you feel !! Im tired of people asking me " so, how much have you lost ?"

And there's others that haven't seen me in a while and they are " :o OMG you lost so much weight "

Makes me feel awkward ...

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They have every good intention behind it. Dont read into it as a negative thing. I get told all the time that I look thinner and that I look great, I dont take offense to it. Choose your reaction and choose not to be offended by it. It will change your whole outlook on things

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I'm completely aware of how bad I looked prior to starting the weight loss journey. When people make this comment to me, I am genuinely happy to hear that the change is noticeable to others. Compliments are compliments in my book. Saying you look BETTER isn't necessarily saying you looked horrible before, just that there's a difference, and we all honestly know there is. :)

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Its a touchy subject but I agree with tigereyes. Take it as a compliment. Its either that or have no one comment at all and then you'll wonder why no one has noticed your change/ hard work!

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Well I look a lot better with 1 chin then 3 .... I used to be in denial about how fat I was until I would catch a glimpse of myself in a glass door or mirror while out shopping it was enough to ruin the day.

Post op and weight loss I saw someone in a tv monitor while standing in line at CVS and I thought oh she has the same shirt on as me..................... it was me. *I looked okay before I was well put together for a fat lad y... now People compliment me on my outfit not my jewelry They tell fat folks to wear Jewelry to bring the eye up now they can even look down. YAY so keep telling me I look better I love it and I earned it.............

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Wouldn't it be nice if the weight loss could just leave them speechless.... Just sayin'

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I doubt I would have undergone this major surgery if it wasn't going to change how I looked... and hopefully for the MUCH BETTER!!!!! Please, please, people notice so I'll know all this hard work wasn't for nothing! Oh, well, and the health benefits, too!

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Kinda goes back to the saying.

We can lose weight....

But you Can't fix Stupid! Majority of people do not think before they speak.

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I love the attention. I was over 400 pounds and I do look way different and those compliments just remind me that I am making a change so big everyone can see it. Bring on the compliments cause it's only logical I look better without 2 chins 2 cheeks and size 40W pants !

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Or the " what's your secret" to your weight loss? Lol! Out of everyone there's one friend who won't say nothing!

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  • All of you guys are awesome! Just sayin.... :)

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Out of everyone there's one friend who won't say nothing!

Or a whole family that won't say anything! I could lose 70 pounds and not a single one of my in-laws will say a word!

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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