Feeling guilty but it never happens so maybe I should lighten up on myself...

My sisters and I gather at my mother's once a year (we're all spread out across the country), and we had our annual long weekend this past weekend Thursday to Monday. My mother loves us with all our favorite food and we sisters share in a good bit of wine. I got on the scale this morning and didn't gain a thing (of course I didn't lose either). But my point is that banded or not you can still enjoy life as it was meant to be enjoyed. If you're going to waste calories on alcohol, be responsible, and do it with some moderation -- THE KEY TO EVERYTHING!!

I don't know about all of you' date=' but the whole reason I got the lap band is because diets don't work for me. The cycle of being "good" for a while and then giving up and being "bad" caused me to balloon up to 251 pounds. I follow my surgeon's instructions 80-90% of the time, but I'm not perfect. I don't think he expects his patients never to have a glass of wine or a piece of chocolate ever again, as long as it isn't every day and not in the quantities we used to have.

I think the major thing I credit my success to is learning to let go of guilt about eating. I've learned that I can eat an occasional treat and still lose weight, which is huge for me. I've broken the diet cycle and I'm succeeding for the first time in my life with weight loss, so an occasional glass of wine won't hurt me.[/quote']

Thank you!!! My point exactly.. This I not a diet that I am on, this is my way of life now and in my life, a glass of champagne or wine to Celebrate is just what we do so I say cheers!!!!!

And ps my surgeon has NEVER MENTIONED this scenario so thanks for your post..! Wth I'm not on here to get scolded!! I was agrevated when I read that as well...

I thought the same thing when I read that, we are all adults and not on this site to be scolded by our fellow bandsters. We all will do things that work for us and not for others and will do things that others will think it against the rules. It is our own unique journey. You posted for support, not for scolding. If someone had something to share in a constructive way about thier own expirence with wine since being banded, that would be fine (i would think). But it was a weird comment. I was having a glass of wine that evening when I read your post.....if that makes you feel better

I thought the same thing when I read that' date=' we are all adults and not on this site to be scolded by our fellow bandsters. We all will do things that work for us and not for others and will do things that others will think it against the rules. It is our own unique journey. You posted for support, not for scolding. If someone had something to share in a constructive way about thier own expirence with wine since being banded, that would be fine (i would think). But it was a weird comment. I was having a glass of wine that evening when I read your post.....if that makes you feel better[/quote']

Haha! Yes it does.. Some seem to think they know it all.! But my weight loss is steady so i will continue to do what I do.. The support on here outweighs the negativity.!

Like most everyone else here has said, don't beat yourself up over it. I have wine at least once a month. i can't live without wine and chocolate, so in moderation i have them. before the band, i wasn't able to moderate food intake because i never felt full, but now i don't have that issue, so every once in a while it's ok.

i didn't get the band to give up living life altogether, i got it mostly because i wanted to be able to eat like a normal person, normal portions, have a normal life. that's what the band has done for me. i can go out with my normal sized friends, eat the same things they eat, drink the same things they drink and i feel normal. i didn't get the band to give up every good thing in life. just don't have every good thing in life every single day and you will be successful. give yourself a break, have a glass of wine and relax

Like most everyone else here has said' date=' don't beat yourself up over it. I have wine at least once a month. i can't live without wine and chocolate, so in moderation i have them. before the band, i wasn't able to moderate food intake because i never felt full, but now i don't have that issue, so every once in a while it's ok.

i didn't get the band to give up living life altogether, i got it mostly because i wanted to be able to eat like a normal person, normal portions, have a normal life. that's what the band has done for me. i can go out with my normal sized friends, eat the same things they eat, drink the same things they drink and i feel normal. i didn't get the band to give up every good thing in life. just don't have every good thing in life every single day and you will be successful. give yourself a break, have a glass of wine and relax [/quote']

Here here!! well said..!

Again I ask: Why would someone have the lapband surgery and then eat crap? I thought we had this surgery to help us to lose weight? If anyone wants to eat big mac' date=' I do not care.. I know that I don't want to.[/quote']

Well, i dont know about you guys, but I had the surgery BECAUSE I want to eat a Big Mac!

Well' date=' i dont know about you guys, but I had the surgery BECAUSE I want to eat a Big Mac![/quote']

Lmao.. !!

To the OP - please, girl, don't stress about that! We need to live in a way we can sustain for the rest of our lives. If that means having some wine now and then, so be it! You just need to account for the calories and drink some extra water that day. Life is for living!!

I work nights so when I am off I have a few glasses. I still loose weight. No big deal here. My surgeon knows

It is not feasible to never have a piece of chocolate or a glass of wine again. None of us got to where we are from a glass of wine or a piece of chocolate. We all still have lives to live, we just need to make smarter choices along the way. Saying we CAN'T have something is how a lot of us got here in the first place! Enjoy your wine and husband and live life to the fullest.

P.s. My surgeon NEVER mentioned being unable to consume alcohol, only to not over consume and to wait until I am fully healed.

Let's all support eachother here because not one of us is perfect and we should not expect others to be either.

I tend to scold at times. But I really mean well. If I didn't take myself seriously. I would never have lost my 89 lb in 15 months cause I am older and lose very slowly.

I have been very strict with my program and very proud to say it.

During the last 12 days. I have been in London, France, Switzerland and finally in Italy.

I gave myself 5 things that I could do ((things that I told myself not to do at the very beginning of the band))))) They were: 1, I had tastes of wine and champane, 2. I ate gellato 3x , 3. I had Pasta, 4. I had some "little crackers" 5. I had a bit of rizotto. I lost 2 lbs. Yay for me.

I am so happy with my choices and thats all that counts...

Msduran,

Please tell your wonderfull husband thank you for his service, and by all means 2 glasses of wine to salute his homecoming is not going to ruin your new way of lifE!!!!Bless you and him, Karen

I come from a family that drinks. When we have get togethers we always have something to drink, I prefer wine. I would drink wine with my meal. I still drink wine after the band, but in moderation and not with my meals. I guess I never thought about how much calories it containes until after the band. To me it is like having a piece of cake. As long as I'm still losing weight I see no problem with it.

I love wine on the weekend. Its a treat for me after working all week. I truly believe red wine is good for you....and its yum!