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Hi out there I am in serious need of guidance... I received my band in Sept2010. I have lost about 45 lbs. I struggle with emotional eating, I have a significant other who is obese I struggle with eating out... Making good food choices. I am pretty good w exercise. Lately I have been so tired!

Please if someone could take me under their wing! I am in dire need of guidance it is so greatly appreciated! Thanks, -Mary

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I have not been banded yet, but I will support you. You can do this, sometimes our significant others sabotage us unintentionally. Talk to them and ask for support. Go back to the basics you can. Do this.

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Miss Mary,

I would love to be your cheerleader. I was banded in 2005. I lost 55lbs the first yr. Then People started telling me I looked great and I totally panicked. I started eating to keep myself save again. I had some deep seeded issuse that I had to deal with. This jounery isn't just about what we eat. Alot of it is what is eating us. I have had a really hard time with all of this I have a large family. We go out all the time and every gathering we have food. So I know how hard it can be.

side track back to my story....

My 2nd year I agined 15 lbs and then I yo yo -ed for the next yr then I got in a car wreck and had to unfill me band. Then I was to scared to go get it filled again. Last year I broke my ankle and I couldn't excersie at all and I have almost gained all my lbs back. On May 29 I go get filled back up and I will be starting over. I have been around the block a few times and I know I can be your cheerleader. We can do it together.

Your friend Amy :D

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Hi out there I am in serious need of guidance... I received my band in Sept2010. I have lost about 45 lbs. I struggle with emotional eating' date=' I have a significant other who is obese I struggle with eating out... Making good food choices. I am pretty good w exercise. Lately I have been so tired!

Please if someone could take me under their wing! I am in dire need of guidance it is so greatly appreciated! Thanks, -Mary[/quote']

I'll do it !Jubee

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Hi out there I am in serious need of guidance... I received my band in Sept2010. I have lost about 45 lbs. I struggle with emotional eating' date=' I have a significant other who is obese I struggle with eating out... Making good food choices. I am pretty good w exercise. Lately I have been so tired!

Please if someone could take me under their wing! I am in dire need of guidance it is so greatly appreciated! Thanks, -Mary[/quote']

Mary, I was banded at the end of June 2011 and I've lost 61 lbs . It was real slow for a long time. I was not really doing my part. I thought the band was the answer but it's not, it's just a tool in our Arsenal! About a month ago I was talking with my bro's wife , she was telling me that my Bro had lost 40 plus. I was very happy for him but mad that I couldn't get on w/ the program and lose this weight. I could look back and blame all thats going on in life for the reason that I wasn't losing .But really all I had to do face the truth and take control . Nobody is gonna take care of you Mary , you have to do it yourself and you CAN' start believing in yourself ! I had a prob with sugar ( like choc) I stopped eating it after my surgery but replaced it with icee's and potatoes chips . I started watching my carbs , mostly eating Protein and in one month I've lost 15 lbs , started at 258 now I weigh today at 197 . The Protein keeps me from craving sweets and I'm not so hungry in between meals. All this to say you can do it Mary ! Set a short time goal and go on from there.jubee

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Jubee!

Thanks for replying! You said such wise words! I have a prob with the choc also!

Thank you for putting a lot of things into perspective... A lot of what you said was really supportive and I really needed that thanks again!

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Jubee!

Thanks for replying! You said such wise words! I have a prob with the choc also!

Thank you for putting a lot of things into perspective... A lot of what you said was really supportive and I really needed that thanks again!

You are very welcome Mary ! Another good thing to do is get rid of everything that's a style cramper . In which this case we are discussing you losing weight !( style meaning your ability to lose weight) okay so get rid of it . Whatever it is ! Do you have a hobby? If not , find something that would instrest you and maybe you could sign up for classes for it. I'm very blessed to have talent handed down from my Mothers side ! I'm a hairstylist by trade ( bread and butter) . But do so many things like painting , card making, sewing, and making jewelry . Enough to keep me busy. I also make extra money doing my crafts. Doing things with your extra time will help you lose weight. If you have any questions just ask! I also wanted to tell you about this product I use called cascara sagrata ( I think I spelled that correct ).it keeps me regular . I alternate 1&2 each night. I ordered this through puretian's pride . Hope this all helps. Jubee

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