Desperate for Support

[AziaJ 0]

Looking for support...read my story on profile it explains it all. I gained all my weight back and heavier then the initial pre-op weight now miserable and feel like there is no way out of being this heavy. I have lost all will power and energy and hope to somehow get it back. Any support is appreciated, a buddy or someone that can help motivate me to do this again. If there are other websites that offer support or a buddy system please let me know. Thank you and God Bless.

[Under150orbust 0]

Hi!! I am new here as well and have been doing a lot of research. I added you as a friend. I couldn't see your story on your profile, but whatever the reason be encouraged that you can lose the weight again. it's a journey that I am just starting and if you want we can support each other. Let me know

[elcee 3,340]

I've just read your story.

The thing to learn from this is that a lapband is not a quick fix solution. It is something that requires ongoing work. Remember it is just a tool, - you still have to make the correct food choices. And that is true regardless of which type of surgery you have had.

What you have to decide is whether you want to be slim and healthy more than you want to eat "bad" foods. ( There is no such thing as a bad food but there are lots of foods that should be regarded as sometimes foods not always or everyday foods).

If you want to be slim and healthy you need to recommit and realise that the power is in your hands. Restriction will not stop you eating chocolate, Cookies, icecream, candy etc etc. In fact too much restriction will make eating these foods easier than the kind of foods you should be eating. Go back to your Dr. Check that you are at an appropriate level and then start doing what you did in the beginning. Making healthy choices and exercising. If you have a food related issue that you think you cannot overcome on your own then go and see a food psychologist.

Your band is still there, you can start utilising it any time you want to.Try to make your new eating plan as close to a normal balanced plan as possible. Sometimes extreme plans such as low carb are hard as they are difficult to stick to long term. We tend to think of them as a diet and that once we have finished losing weight we can stop eating that way and go back to our old habits. And of course that just leads to regaining what we have lost. An eating plan needs to be for life. Something that is easy to sustain, something that can fit in with daily life and all the types of events that we encounter. So long as you do the right thing 90% of the time you should still lose. So cut right back (as opposed to cut out) on those bad foods and get back on track. Banning foods completely often has the opposite effect to the one we want - as they are forbidden we want them more - if we know they are allowed in moderation they do not have the same power over us.

I think I have rambled on a bit here but hopefully what I am trying to say is getting across!

Well done on looking for help and all the best with your new found motivation.

[123crod 170]

I totally agree with Elcee. Feel free to e-mail me or private message me anytime you want to talk. My e-mail is on my profile. We all need support this is an neverending battle, a new lifestyle.

Cheri