Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Young and scared



Recommended Posts

As I sit here reading all of the post I cant help but think just how scared I am. This is such a huge lifestyle change and I am only 23. However I know this is something I need to do. Any advice on how to truly prepare for what to come after I am banded?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Don't be scared!!

Life only gets that much better after lapband!! I was 18 when I had it done, I'm now 21 and am so greatful everyday that I had the courage to go through with it! You'll have your ups and downs but for the most part it'll be all worth it in the end! :)

Have fun with it!! :D

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hi Jamie

I just wanted to say though I do not have even the lap band surgery

approved, that it is okay to be scared. It's totally normal, BIG changes.

I cant tell you what it will be like after the surgery since I have not been

there myself but change is necessary because the alternative is a lot

SCARIER. Rule your Mind or it will rule you. Sending good energy your

way, Own the challenge, you will do great!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It is scary no matter what your age - I was 36 and whilst I'd always insisted I wasnt an emotional eater, when push came to shove, and I was on the verge of the surgery, I realised I was about to let go of a very old and very dear friend and coping mechanism. What pushed me forward was that I thought, sure I could not have the surgery, but if things were goign to change, I had to say goodbye for that friend, regardless.

You're not as young as you might be. By 23, I was able to resist peer pressure and not feel like I had to drink heaps and eat junk food just coz others were. I mean, i did it, lol, but because *I* wanted to, not because I had to fit in. You will be able to lead a normal social life only now you will eat and drink like the thin girls we always admired and hated at the same time. This is the best thing you could possibly do for yourself, you're heading off a raft of health problems before they happen, whereas most of us have to experience the beginnings of them (and of old age) before we act. Deep breath and have faith, this will be wonderful for you!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I was 20 when I had my surgery and I am 21 now. I have had the band 8 months and have lost 71 lbs. I get married this sunday and I have a two year old little boy. I can NOT even begin to explain to you what the lap band has done for me, or how it has made my life so much more amazing. I feel as though I am the luckiest woman alive. It is NORMAL to be scared. I was scared but I looked at it as though it were a life or death situation. I needed this surgery. I wanted this surgery. My son benefitted from this. I am so proud of the decision that I made and you will be too.

I would like to give some advice before I leave though. PLEASE do everything in your power to stick to your diet. I have seen so many friends with the lap band eat wrong and work around their band and become miserable or have to have their band removed so they gain their weight back....I have worked REALLY hard at my diet and I still have days where I slip up. For the first 3 months of my band i didn't cheat once. NOT ONE TIME. I had faith in myself and I knew that I had a goal to acheieve. Please do your best to keep your head in the game and do this the right way. =) it WILL be worth it in the end.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

WOW! Thank you so much everyone for all of these post They really did make me feel better! It's almost time to start my pre diet and I am so so so excited!!!!!!!!! Thanks again!!!!!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

im new to this site so im not sure how to go about this but im am 22 waiting to get approved, i am nervous because of the surgery and all the things that could go wrong. but i know this is something i need to do. weight has never been my best friend so im hoping to find a happy medium with it. but i know this is for the best as im 23 and weigh 270 (not a good look). but i just cant wait to see a skinnier happier me.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • KimBaxleyWilson

      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • bellaamey

      https://alluniqueguide.com/java-burn-coffee-reviews/
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×