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I need help! I am going to a bachlorette party tonight at a restaurant and I am still on mushies! Many of the attendees will not know that I have been banded and I really want the attention on the bride and not why I am not eating/eating so little. So my question is two fold...what should I order to avoid any sliming, I was thinking flaky fish but here is the menu and how does everyone handle questions from people that they dont want to tell about the surgery!?? Im usually really open about my surgery but I just dont want an awkward moment.

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you could also do Soups

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I would say Soup or take the waiter aside and ask for just marinara sauce.

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Yeah I was worried with Soup that it would draw attention that I wasn't eating much but that is an option

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I'd suggest going with the Soups too. We go out all the time with friends and I often order Soup. I don't think they'll really notice. Just ask for it to be served with the Entrees. Good luck!

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drawing attention is better than having a pb or sliming episode and hurting and really drawing attention...and feeling bad at the same time.

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Depending on the restuarant I think you have quite a few options-other than Soup. Soup would be a great starter because it helps open things up, but you could have crab cakes, crab imperial, quiche, mashed potatoes, or order an appetizer as a main course. During my mushy stage I could easily eat soft food without a problem-not sure what week you are on but fish is a good option-especially if it is in a sauce (so it goes down easy). Really, there are more options than you may realize. Stick to small bites and stay away from the bread basket. If anyone should ask why you aren't eating much simply say I want to fit in my dress for the wedding! Most importantly just have fun!!

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Very true thank you all so much! I had Soup for lunch and it seemed to go down well I couldn't eat much.

No bread for me this is my 4th adjustment and after my second one I couldn't do any bread any longer not een toasted!

Thanks again! Now to find a dress for the wedding!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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