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I was banded Jan 13. I've only lost 25 pounds. i'm 5'2, and i can't seem to break thru the 200 pound mark. I'm SO pissed. What do i do? I went back to the doc, we trouble shooted. I'm going to the nutritionist this week to see if i can change my diet some. The worst thing is i haven't focused on myself the past several months because:

i went thru a nasty divorce, custody issues, etc..

lost my job, stressed, found a new one making double the pay!

now i'm working nights.

We did decide i was probably NOT meeting my requirements caloric wise and have been stressed out to the max and in the "starvation" mode. I started excerscising differently. i was walking 3 miles a day about 2-3 times a week. now i'm taking zumba, kickboxing and a fit mix class when i can fit it in my schedule 2-3 times a week.

i guess i'm looking for advice, help, anything. My band is at almost 7.4, and pretty tight. since the last fill i'm vomiting off and on due to things not going thru. I'm having to chew WAY more,. etc...so any adivce at this point would be helpful.

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sounds like it is time to put yourself first and start putting your health first. I eat around 800 to 1000 calories a day of mostly Protein. I go to curves 5 times a week and ride or walk 6 days a week. It does take a lot of effort, but I am worth it! good luck

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Don't beat yourself up. You were going through a rough time and weight loss was the last thing on your mind...understandably so. Hopefully now you'll be able to focus more on yourself. Make sure to get enough Water and sleep, and make sure you aren't under eating and overexercising (I was stuck at a plateau for that very reason). If your band is too tight, get an unfill otherwise you will resort to eating crap just to get something through the band (happens to the best of us). Good luck!

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can you tell us what, and how much, you eat in a typical day?

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well today has not been great just as far as quanity. i had a carnation instant Breakfast when i got up, then had some buffalo chicken dip with chicken pieces on the side. I did have one handful of chips with 7 layer dip (work we had a potluck for Labor Day) and about 1/4 cup greek salad, one hot dog. That's what i've had today so far. My goal is to start fresh Tuesday (when i get off at 7am) and do primarly Protein for the first week. I need ideas on what to have portable wise at work. I'm a registered nurse and work 12 hour shifts, so i need things that i can eat that are eat on the go while i'm working. Last week i did about 1/3 cup grilled chicken strips for a snack and a yogurt, that worked well. Then for dinner i had about 1/2 cup whole wheat spagetti with meat sauce and broccoli for my dinner. I don't understand what is going on, seriously.

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Don't underestimate the power of a good amount of sleep. That could make a difference. I know it does for me.

Getting used to working nights may take some time and it might make it more difficult to lose weight because it goes against your body's natural clock. I would suggest making sure the room you sleep in is very quiet and dark. Maybe try one of those white noise machines or something as well.

I need at least 8 hours or I won't lose weight.

Hope that helps. If not, I hope you find the solution you are looking for to get your weight loss back on track.

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It sounds like you are a smidge too tight and being a bit looser and eating more Protein may jump start your weight loss. Times have been stressful for you and that effects your body in strange ways. When my losses really kicked in I was working out with a personal trainer to build more muscle and I was eating at least 80 grams of Protein a day. I was a slow loser for the first 8 months. It does work...you just need to put yourself first.

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