Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

GAINING and SCARED



Recommended Posts

I had the surgery 6 years ago, lost to my goal size and have kept it off until January. I've gained 20 pounds and am scared to death that I've stretched out the pouch and ruined everything. So, I went to doc and he removed my fill completely (despite my tears and pleading) and told me to come back in 3 weeks. The hope is that the pouch will have shrunk and I can get the fill back. HOWEVER... In my typical, self-destructive fashion... I'm not making good eating choices. In fact, I've gained 3 pounds! I'm just sick... This is the one thing in my life I can't seem to manage... WHY? I'M SO SCARED THAT I AM HEADED BACK TO OBESE. I hate the way I look and feel right now... Hate myself for being so undisciplined.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hang in there! You can do this - you will get your fill and be right back on track in no time. Deep Breath!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You'll be okay. Deep breath. The world is not ending. Make healthy choices with your food and get some exercise. The weeks will pass fast and then you'll get your fill. All is not lost.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I had the surgery 6 years ago, lost to my goal size and have kept it off until January. I've gained 20 pounds and am scared to death that I've stretched out the pouch and ruined everything. So, I went to doc and he removed my fill completely (despite my tears and pleading) and told me to come back in 3 weeks. The hope is that the pouch will have shrunk and I can get the fill back. HOWEVER... In my typical, self-destructive fashion... I'm not making good eating choices. In fact, I've gained 3 pounds! I'm just sick... This is the one thing in my life I can't seem to manage... WHY? I'M SO SCARED THAT I AM HEADED BACK TO OBESE. I hate the way I look and feel right now... Hate myself for being so undisciplined.

I think we all understand your fear. I know I do! You know exactly what you have to do. Now, take a deep breath and go do it!!! Don't let yourself fall back into your old habits. If it helps (it helps me)...make copies of an old "fat" picture. The one that disgusts you the most. Put one wherever you will see it when the old ways try creeping in. Take a good, long look at it and remember. Remember how unhealthy you were...Remember how people treated you...Remember how you felt when you saw your reflection. You DON'T want to go back there! You did a great job losing and maintaining for SIX YEARS!!!! You can do it for the rest of your life!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You've definitely come to the right place for support! Hang tough and keep your dreams in sight. Good luck!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Well said, Cindy... jntedwards, you've come so far, don't sabotage yourself! I'm still in the struggling to lose another 40 pounds stage and I don't want you to be there again. Remember how good it felt when you met your goal, don't you want to feel that way again? I know you do. Remember how good it felt when you fit into a much smaller size, I know you want to be there comfortably again. Remember how good you feel about yourself when you are where you want to be, you deserve to be there again. Twenty pounds isn't much, you can get back down there; but 50 pounds is much tougher. Don't allow that to happen. Start right here and now acting as if you have a fill and using the rules that got you to lose so much weight. YOU CAN DO IT! Just set your mind to it and bring back that willpower. We all fall off the bandwagon sometimes but getting back on is what makes us achieve our goals. So, go for it; you've done it before and you will do it again!! Keep us posted... :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thank you all so much... I hear you! I tell myself all the same words and yet for some reason, at some time everyday... I get weak and binge. It's almost as though I want to prove to myself that I am going to fail. I go back to the doctor next Friday... What if the pouch is not shrunk enough and he won't fill me???? Without the fill... I will not have the self control to avoid gaining. I know this about myself. I'm ashamed of myself- food should not be so important... It's just stupid.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thank you all so much... I hear you! I tell myself all the same words and yet for some reason, at some time everyday... I get weak and binge. It's almost as though I want to prove to myself that I am going to fail. I go back to the doctor next Friday... What if the pouch is not shrunk enough and he won't fill me???? Without the fill... I will not have the self control to avoid gaining. I know this about myself. I'm ashamed of myself- food should not be so important... It's just stupid.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Sorry I sound so whiney... I need to put my big girl panties on and DEAL. I need to get in that "zone" - I have every reason to be motivated... Why aren't I??

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thank you all so much... I hear you! I tell myself all the same words and yet for some reason, at some time everyday... I get weak and binge. It's almost as though I want to prove to myself that I am going to fail. I go back to the doctor next Friday... What if the pouch is not shrunk enough and he won't fill me???? Without the fill... I will not have the self control to avoid gaining. I know this about myself. I'm ashamed of myself- food should not be so important... It's just stupid.

You can't let yourself worry about the "what ifs". You need to take everything as it comes. The stress of the unknown is probably contributing to your binging. You can't change future events, the only thing you can control is how you respond to them.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You can fix this! You've done it once and you have not fallen too far. Go back to the beginning and start writing EVERYTHING down that goes into your mouth (including drinks) and start counting your calories. Hold yourself accountable for what you're taking in. Try to start working out (if you aren't already) and record that also. Find a workout buddy if you need to and start going to support groups.

YOU CAN DO THIS! You have done an AMAZING job and you've recognized the start of overeating again, just recognizing that shows that you have learned during this past 6 years and you are not going back. If you need to talk to someone more, feel free to post on here or message me if you need some motivation :)

I had the surgery 6 years ago, lost to my goal size and have kept it off until January. I've gained 20 pounds and am scared to death that I've stretched out the pouch and ruined everything. So, I went to doc and he removed my fill completely (despite my tears and pleading) and told me to come back in 3 weeks. The hope is that the pouch will have shrunk and I can get the fill back. HOWEVER... In my typical, self-destructive fashion... I'm not making good eating choices. In fact, I've gained 3 pounds! I'm just sick... This is the one thing in my life I can't seem to manage... WHY? I'M SO SCARED THAT I AM HEADED BACK TO OBESE. I hate the way I look and feel right now... Hate myself for being so undisciplined.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • vsg.with.sharon

      Hey everyone!
      I’m new here! Looking for some friends! 🥰
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LeighaTR

      Four days post surgery. I am sipping as fast as I can and getting NO WHERE near the goal of 60 - 80 grams of protein or the 64 oz of liquids. I just feel FULL. I don't know if it can still be the gas build up (I would think by now that would be gone) but it is a struggle to drink. And so far I have not had the nausea or spasms and don't want to wander into that territory by pushing too hard with liquids. I about passed out today as it was my most "strenuous" day. Went from second story to basement for shower and I was sure I was going to pass out. Looking back on my last few days I have had a total of less than 1000 calories. Am I just not getting enough nourishment in me? Once again a friday where I can't get ahold of the doc until Monday rolls back around so I am hoping maybe someone here has some experience on how to keep energy going. I do have fibromyalgia too and that may be where some added fatigue comes into play. How did you all fair with the goals the week after surgery?
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 3 replies
      1. Phil Penn

        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

      2. Selina333

        I'm in Houston so kind of near you and had the sleeve in Dec. Down 61 lbs. Feeling better. Was definitely worth it. I hope the everything is going well for you. Update us when you can!

      3. Doughgurl

        I am back home after my bypass surgery in Tiajuana. I'm post op day 4. Everything went great! I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who have not encountered much pain at all, no nausea thus far and I'm having no problem keeping down broths and water. Thank you for your well wishes. I cant wait to keep up this journey and have a chance at better health and simply better quality of life. I know there will be bumps in the road ahead, and everything won't be peaches and cream, but at least I have a great start so far. 😍

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×