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Yes there is a singles room on here

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Go to the forum special intrests lap band support group and go to single bansters :)

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that is a fear of mine...to an extent. I fear that I will lose weight and my wife will start to get jealous and wonder if other females are hitting on me a lot and then she'll get more self-conscious about herself...etc

I am recovering from a Tummy Tuck and hernia repair. Im 6 weeks out. My wife is protective of me, she does worry to an extent. But our sex life has taken to new heights. We are both enjoying my new body.

Its unbelievible how i get treated now. People are alot friendlier to me. I lost 75 pounds plus 7 pounds of skin and fat taken off with TT.

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Maybe you could start one Kaye.you ask you can create it

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  • Well I guess my Situation is a little bit different. I am a 2 time loser in marriage but I was banded when I met my girl friend. The only thing that seems to bother her is the port bump on my belly

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I'm morbidly obese and have 120 lbs. to lose. Though many of the women I know are extremely yummy' date=' I don't have access to their magic bits because I get relegated to 'friend' status. Have any of you guys found that you get intimate access to your hot female friends once you lose your excess weight or do they ever become able to see you that way?[/quote']

In short yes, but first you have to value yourself and your time. Don't always be available, flirt with your hot friends, have fun, be happy with you. Women are attracted to confidence, I didn't say cockiness I said confidence. ) I had a really hot married friend tell me after I lost 100lbs (I was still 315) your in your 40's, single, have a good job, your a good dad, you own a home and you always have a smile on your face. You're not an alcoholic, nor a drugs addict, never been in prison... You're Brad Pitt. Keep reminding yourself your Brad motherfucking Pitt.

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The newfound attention from the opposite sex was humbling. I'm married, and the attention and looks that I am receiving now sometimes get me in trouble. I've always been a friendly guy... Chatty and all, but the friendliness gets confused with me being flirty. Not gonna lie, the jealousy wifey feels and expresses does feed the ego a bit. I dont and wont act on anything... i care and love my wife too deeply to throw it away on a whim or fantasy.

Everyone does receive me better. I've seen it... From getting a bit of extra service when out for a meal, a checkout clerk throwing in a quarter for me if I dig for some change, or just that extra smile.... Wow... And to be taken seriously at work too is an added bonus... All this helps boost the confidence which I lacked for being heavier. I'd always had a bit of an inferiority complex, and its slowly going away. The hard part is keeping the ego in check, as things can get out of control super fast..

Gotta remember to be the same friendly guy as I've always been know, but with a humble touch of confidence

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I don't think any grown man who uses the term "magic bits" is going to get laid anyway, regardless of what he weighs.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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