Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

going the wrong way



Recommended Posts

It has been 2 years since I had my lap band surgery. I had lost 105 lbs but gained 20 back. Ugh! It has been a year in a half since I last had a fill and I know I need to go in but I'm afraid because last time I went in I had only lost 5 lbs since my last fill and he told me he didn't exactly call that wait lost. I was completely hurt by this. Idk maybe I'm being a sissy but now that I put on 20 lbs I feel like I can't face him. I need a fill and there are no other doctors in my area who do this sort of thing. some of us have battled people puting us down our whole lives and I don't think they realize how one little negative word can send us spiraling downward.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Dont worry about what he thinks, just do what you need to do to get back on track. He's there to support you.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hello.

If there is noone else available you're just gonna have to bite the bullet and return to him.

Be prepared for him to say something negative and when he does just simply say "last time you told me my effort wasn't good enough and I'd appreciate you not saying anything at all if you can't say something positive. I am here for your help and support, not any put downs".

Don't get upset, just be polite and firm. You will leave there feeling strong not weak.

Good luck. :)

It has been 2 years since I had my lap band surgery. I had lost 105 lbs but gained 20 back. Ugh! It has been a year in a half since I last had a fill and I know I need to go in but I'm afraid because last time I went in I had only lost 5 lbs since my last fill and he told me he didn't exactly call that wait lost. I was completely hurt by this. Idk maybe I'm being a sissy but now that I put on 20 lbs I feel like I can't face him. I need a fill and there are no other doctors in my area who do this sort of thing. some of us have battled people puting us down our whole lives and I don't think they realize how one little negative word can send us spiraling downward.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

When you see him he will be surprise to see you since its been awhile just let him know why it's been so long before you returned. Also you should use that comment as a tool to push you forward and work harder to lose the weight you gained back.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I agree with not letting him get away with bad comments. Go back and get a fill. Over time the Fluid in the band can decrease a bit and you will need a fill so you don't gain. I went back after not having a fill for almost a year. I got a fill back to my original sweet spot and it has helped. I agree with what skylily said for a response if he has something bad to say. Go get your fill.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • KimBaxleyWilson

      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • bellaamey

      https://alluniqueguide.com/java-burn-coffee-reviews/
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×