LBT AFTER DARK

[LuuLuu 62]

Some individuals who are comfortable with each other digress to a more "adult" form of chat. This takes place in the main Lap Band Support room.

There have been requests for that chat to move to another room or have a room created specifically for that.

What do you think?

[LuuLuu 62]

After a rather heated discussion, I thought I'd do this....

I think it should move. This board has lost a lot of members because of the uncomfortable nature of the chat. I, personally, am not offended by much (Subby - shut up )....but others are and it represents poorly to new members entering chat for the first time.

People forget this is an international board - "after dark" can be early morning for some members.

Annnndddd....discuss!

[Pippy1973 3]

After a rather heated discussion, I thought I'd do this....

I think it should move. This board has lost a lot of members because of the uncomfortable nature of the chat. I, personally, am not offended by much (Subby - shut up )....but others are and it represents poorly to new members entering chat for the first time.

People forget this is an international board - "after dark" can be early morning for some members.

Annnndddd....discuss!

You are exactly right, luuluu. There are many good people who have quit coming to chat because of the nature of after dark chat. There is a room for adult conversations already in place. We are all adults and there is no reason we cannot conduct ourselves in a way that is acceptable to all people. New people come into the room and leave because of the nature of the conversation. There are a very few in the room who state that they don't care who leaves, but they forget, we were all at one time new and in need of support. If you want to have those type of "adult" conversations with each other...keep it out of the room...keep it off cam....go to the adult room and use your private messages so that all do not have to be subjected.

[AliOneTrackizTheBizness 0]

You are exactly right, luuluu. There are many good people who have quit coming to chat because of the nature of after dark chat. There is a room for adult conversations already in place. We are all adults and there is no reason we cannot conduct ourselves in a way that is acceptable to all people. New people come into the room and leave because of the nature of the conversation. There are a very few in the room who state that they don't care who leaves, but they forget, we were all at one time new and in need of support. If you want to have those type of "adult" conversations with each other...keep it out of the room...keep it off cam....go to the adult room and use your private messages so that all do not have to be subjected.

I am a frequent user of the chat room and I have been known to talk 'garbage' from time to time. The moment I noticed it was making people leave or offending anyone I instantly stopped. I figured that everyone else would have the same respect. When I asked this specific group to stop there was very graphic retaliation and demeaning slander said. The second time it was being asked to stop, the same results. I think everyone has the right to the chat room but NO ONE should be forced to be subjected to some of the conversations that go on at ANY TIME OF DAY. I can almost promise Alex didnt make these rooms in order for an online orgy to happen. I know his intent was to provide a certain level of support by peers not only about lapaband, but for all aspects of life. I do not see how this topic is doing the room any good.

[pamela3782 17]

Just out of curiosity, is this topic just to see who sides with what or can something actually be done about the "adult room" option? Also if there is something that can be done, does that mean that absolutely nothing sexual or adult related can be spoken about in the main chat day or night time? If not then your just drawing attention to an already ridiculous bunch of drama. The whole thing feels like high school. It's very obvious that there are some very strong opinions on both sides and I'm not saying that either side is right or wrong however the cat scratching and name calling doesn't solve ANYTHING. I get it, it's not a perfect world and you're not always going to get what you want HOWEVER I know that each and every person that is involved in chat is mature enough to handle the situations privately. Being nasty and slanderous in chat in front of a new comer in my eyes is just as bad. I'm not trying to start anything I just wondered exactly what this is supposed to do. Just some more food for thought, when the chat room is empty at night and they see everyone else in the adult room is there going to be someone willing to take shifts just to help out these new comers? Don't get me wrong we are always more than willing to help whoever needs it I just don't want the easily offended to miss out on the help they need. Like you had said it is international.

[jrsygrl77 1]

It would be very nice for the night time people to have their own room. I've been in there many times and they have all been extremely helpful. I wouldn't want to offend anyone but I don't think that their freedom to discuss whatever topics they like should be taken from them either. As far as them being to "adult" maybe they do need a separate room but they should not be asked to go somewhere else. I know all of the times I've been in there, yes they goof around and what not, but they support each other and are very positive to those who come in even as a "newbie" I was having a lot of issues with support with the people in my life and all of them stopped and took the time to talk to me and I have never felt so good about my decision to do this before. For the first time I really felt support. They have obviously grown a very strong bond with each other and feel comfortable to discuss whatever. Just an opinion from a "newbie"

[maenchen12321 0]

Ok, here are my two cents on this topic... As a night LBT person and a day LBT person, I can relate to both sides of the story. I understand completely about some of the foul mouths in the room, and I will admit that occasionally I am one of them, but I'm not the only one, which means that many other people in the room are doing the same thing. If thats the topic of the room, I tend to talk about it as well. I also talk about my lap band and how wonderful it is to have it.

I agree with Pamela about this, not only because she's my friend, but also because some people in this discussion has created drama and the room IS worst that high school. Some people feel that they need to tip toe their way around the chat room because they're scared to offend someone. If you would like to talk about the "after dark crew" offending some of the people in the room, well lets talk about how some of the people in the room has cursed out a few of the members in the past year (that I've been a member here) and those people are no longer on LBT. Those people that are no longer with LBT WERE my friends and the only way I can talk to them now is through Facebook. Because this happened, I judged a few people in LBT for doing what they did but I never said anything because I do not like to create any problems.

This "after dark" situation has stopped and we DID go to another room but apparently some other idiot decided to follow us and kick us out of that room as well when we were doing nothing wrong. Also, I would like to point out that I always help new members, regardless if it's night or day. A few of the new members came into the room during our after dark chat and complained how no one bothered to help them because they were too focused on "which puppy to buy the kids". This has happened many times with new members coming into the day time and no one paid attention to their question.

I'm not here to create problems. I understand if some people had a problem with me doing my phone sex line on camera, and I have stopped. If someone wanted to watch me, they can private message me through the camera and I am more than happy to do it that way. I have respected people's opinions and judgement and I'm hoping you can do the same with mine. Thats all I'm asking for.

[Alex Brecher 10,442]

From now on.....

There will be ZERO adult language and conversation in ALL chat rooms, excluding the newly created "LBT After Dark" chat room.

All members will *strictly* adhere to these rules, no exceptions.

[Pippy1973 3]

From now on.....

There will be ZERO adult language and conversation in ALL chat rooms, excluding the newly created "LBT After Dark" chat room.

We will adhere *strictly* to these rules, no exceptions.

thank you so very much, alex!!!!!!!

[LuuLuu 62]

Ditto-thanks Alex!!!