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That's great. I'm happy for you. Good luck on your surgery.

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I am so happy this went well for you. That has to be such a relief and weight off your shoulders....no pun intended! Good luck moving forward. Shelley

Okay-the house was emaply and I took down the newspaper advertisment for the Lapband seminar that my doctor advertises. I went down to his office and said do you have a minute I'd like to talk to you about something (I guess he thought it would be the fight). I handed him the newspaper and said I would like to get this. He studied it and said "I didn't know you were interested in this" and I said I am would you support me if I did it and he said sure.

Then I told him the surgery was in 2 weeks and he blocked out the day from work. He was very calm and asked a few questions. I went over to him and pointed to the before and after pic in the newpaper ad and he said -they are going to want you to model for the doctor. I thought that was very sweet. 100% total support!!:P I went over and gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

I am SO happy!!:D

I told him I wanted to keep it just between else for now and I would prefer to decide who I'd like to tell and he agreed to keep request private. Then he asked if I was going to tell my daughters and I said probably after the surgery and I'll tell my mom once I start losing some weight too.

Thank you all for your support through all this drama-You all are AWESOME!!! I love this site :P

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Glad all went well I dont know what I would do without my husbands support it is so important to me that he will be by my side and rooting for me to be the best me I can be. My surgery date is May 24th Good luck to you.

Thanks everyone! He was very supportive!! I am so happy .

You are right now I can focus on other things. My pre-op diet starts May 18th and surgery is the 25th!

I told him I'll be saving him money too because I'll be eating less when we eat out ;)

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I'm so glad it went well! I just joined this community and got wrapped up in your husband drama already! lol I hope all goes well for you! keep us posted :)

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That's great. I had the same response from my husband.My 3 kids knew about mine but the only family member who knows is my cousin who also had it. I am NOT telling my mother or sister or aunts because they are very judgemental about everything, funny though my mother and sister are both overweight. I told my children because God forbid anything happened to me in surgery they would never forgive me or my husband for not telling them. I bet if you told your daughter she would be your biggest supporter, unless she can't keep a secret lol. Good luck and keep us updated.

Okay-the house was emaply and I took down the newspaper advertisment for the Lapband seminar that my doctor advertises. I went down to his office and said do you have a minute I'd like to talk to you about something (I guess he thought it would be the fight). I handed him the newspaper and said I would like to get this. He studied it and said "I didn't know you were interested in this" and I said I am would you support me if I did it and he said sure.

Then I told him the surgery was in 2 weeks and he blocked out the day from work. He was very calm and asked a few questions. I went over to him and pointed to the before and after pic in the newpaper ad and he said -they are going to want you to model for the doctor. I thought that was very sweet. 100% total support!!:P I went over and gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

I am SO happy!!:D

I told him I wanted to keep it just between else for now and I would prefer to decide who I'd like to tell and he agreed to keep request private. Then he asked if I was going to tell my daughters and I said probably after the surgery and I'll tell my mom once I start losing some weight too.

Thank you all for your support through all this drama-You all are AWESOME!!! I love this site :P

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Okay-the house was emaply and I took down the newspaper advertisment for the Lapband seminar that my doctor advertises. I went down to his office and said do you have a minute I'd like to talk to you about something (I guess he thought it would be the fight). I handed him the newspaper and said I would like to get this. He studied it and said "I didn't know you were interested in this" and I said I am would you support me if I did it and he said sure.

Then I told him the surgery was in 2 weeks and he blocked out the day from work. He was very calm and asked a few questions. I went over to him and pointed to the before and after pic in the newpaper ad and he said -they are going to want you to model for the doctor. I thought that was very sweet. 100% total support!!:P I went over and gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

I am SO happy!!:D

I told him I wanted to keep it just between else for now and I would prefer to decide who I'd like to tell and he agreed to keep request private. Then he asked if I was going to tell my daughters and I said probably after the surgery and I'll tell my mom once I start losing some weight too.

Thank you all for your support through all this drama-You all are AWESOME!!! I love this site :P

This was so funny to me.............It sounded just like me! I didn't know for sure how my husband would react and so I didn't tell him until about 3 weeks before my surgery. He was very calm and said "well, if that's what you are sure you want to do, fine." He has been very supportive and I also am very choosy about who I tell. I did finally tell my daughters about a week before the surgery.

Good luck to you on this journey. You won't be sorry you did it.

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Glad to hear it went well!!! Congrats.

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Yeah! the deed is done and you have support and love! Your daughters should be easy compared to this. Keep us posted!

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I have to say today I went for my Endoscope and it felt really good to give my husband's name as a emergency contact. Thanks again to everyone!!!!!

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So happy for you....

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The only person I didn't tell was my mother, but only because she's elderly and quite the worry wart. As soon as I got home from the hospital the first thing I did was call her and tell her. She was pissed at first but I told her I just didn't want her sitting at the hospital and worrying. All my siblings agreed this was the best way to do it. 3 years later and she's still my biggest supporter! Anyway, I got a lot of mixed reactions from everyone else....most were supportive but there were a few that were negative and judgmental. To those people I simply said, "I'm doing what I feel is best for me. If you think it's a mistake, well it'll be MY mistake. In the meantime I will thank you to keep your opinions to yourself!" At some point we have to say the Hell with what everyone else thinks. This is my life. I never have any qualms about telling anyone who asks. In fact I would shout it from the rooftops!

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The only person I didn't tell was my mother, but only because she's elderly and quite the worry wart. As soon as I got home from the hospital the first thing I did was call her and tell her. She was pissed at first but I told her I just didn't want her sitting at the hospital and worrying. All my siblings agreed this was the best way to do it. 3 years later and she's still my biggest supporter! Anyway, I got a lot of mixed reactions from everyone else....most were supportive but there were a few that were negative and judgmental. To those people I simply said, "I'm doing what I feel is best for me. If you think it's a mistake, well it'll be MY mistake. In the meantime I will thank you to keep your opinions to yourself!" At some point we have to say the Hell with what everyone else thinks. This is my life. I never have any qualms about telling anyone who asks. In fact I would shout it from the rooftops!

Cindy you have lost so much weight!! Amazing!!! Congrats :P

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Cindy you have lost so much weight!! Amazing!!! Congrats :P

Thank-you. You're going to do it too!

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