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The band is a learning experience and for some of us it takes a little longer. If your band has slipped, it's not the end of the world. Sometimes just removing the fill for a while and letting things calm down will helped a slipped band. I'm on my second band. The first one slipped a multitude of times and I have to say I wasn't the best bander either, eating things clearly I shouldn't have ...it's a long story. Everyone has different experiences. you say at night time you have problems. My daughter is a bander also but she can't eat anything after nine o'clock at night or she has terrible reflux and has to sleep sitting up. You should clearly be in communication with your surgeon and be honest about your eating habits and what's going on. Don't beat yourself up too much. You're better off than when you started. When I had my band unfilled in June of last year and then removed in November, I gained 40 lbs back until surgery last week again. I was so disappointed with myself that I clearly couldn't just stop eating but I'm a stress eater and lots was going on. I'm now taking it one day at a time, journaling like crazy every bite that goes in my mouth goes into an iphone app. Having gone through a slipped band and all the vomiting with it, I know now that I can't abuse the band either.

Good luck and it will all work out.

Trisha

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I was banded on April 7, 2008 -- almost three years ago -- and went from around 250+ pounds to around 190. That in itself isn't exactly an entirely successful weight loss story, largely because I've never quite learned to eat slowly as I should, nor have I been able to keep away from sweets entirely (although lately I've been better). In the past several year or so, my weight has creeped up to around 201.

I haven't been back to see my surgeon in more than a year and a half; I've been too ashamed, and frankly am afraid I will be a disappointment to her. I now have a visit scheduled for next week -- along with an esophogram, for which I am also long overdue.

The reason I finally called for an appointment and esophogram is that I'm afraid my band may have slipped. Although it doesn't happen every night, some nights I cough constantly, spitting up Fluid onto my pillow. Other nights, I seem to "foam" constantly, requiring that I run to the bathroom to spit. Other nights -- like last night -- I've had no problem whatsoever.

I was given a gift -- a new start that so many people would give anything to have -- and didn't make full use of it as I should have. If it turns out the band hasn't slipped, can I still lose weight if I try, even at this stage of the game (three years later)? If it has, does it have to be removed? Even though I have not lost all the weight I had intended, I can't say that I'm entirely unhappy; after all, I'm still considerably thinner than I was three years ago, even with the recent weight gain (which seems to have leveled off).

I feel like such a failure, because I am.

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Sorry you are having some trouble, I can relate. The bad thing for me is, my surgeon is in Texas! and I can't afford to get started with anyone here, alas, no insurance!

I was banded in 2008 in Fort Worth Texas. Live in AZ now. I started out at 365lbs and have lost and gained over the past three years. Currently I am at 298lbs after just recently deciding to give this another try after ignoring it for a year. I am looking for someone that my have some advice to help me. The reason I have not had a fill in over a year is due to reflux/fluid/foaming at night. I had a half a can of Soup early in the day, and two scrambled eggs at around 4pm, drank Water throughout the day and it is still happening. And now it's back with a vengeance, even if I don't eat or drink anything for 7 or 8 hours before I go to bed, even when I am sitting up in bed or in a chair to try to sleep, it's very frustrating, and even though I need to lose another 50 or 60 lbs, I am thinking about getting an unfill so I can sleep. Any advice you may have would be much appreciated. Thank You.

Try not to look at yourself as a failure! I gained back nearly all that I had lost at one point, I crept back up to 340lbs! YIKES! but made the choice to quit beating myself up and get back on the bandwagon! You can do it too! Please let me know what your Doc says, perhaps I can get some ideas based upon your experience.

Take care

I was banded on April 7, 2008 -- almost three years ago -- and went from around 250+ pounds to around 190. That in itself isn't exactly an entirely successful weight loss story, largely because I've never quite learned to eat slowly as I should, nor have I been able to keep away from sweets entirely (although lately I've been better). In the past several year or so, my weight has creeped up to around 201.

I haven't been back to see my surgeon in more than a year and a half; I've been too ashamed, and frankly am afraid I will be a disappointment to her. I now have a visit scheduled for next week -- along with an esophogram, for which I am also long overdue.

The reason I finally called for an appointment and esophogram is that I'm afraid my band may have slipped. Although it doesn't happen every night, some nights I cough constantly, spitting up Fluid onto my pillow. Other nights, I seem to "foam" constantly, requiring that I run to the bathroom to spit. Other nights -- like last night -- I've had no problem whatsoever.

I was given a gift -- a new start that so many people would give anything to have -- and didn't make full use of it as I should have. If it turns out the band hasn't slipped, can I still lose weight if I try, even at this stage of the game (three years later)? If it has, does it have to be removed? Even though I have not lost all the weight I had intended, I can't say that I'm entirely unhappy; after all, I'm still considerably thinner than I was three years ago, even with the recent weight gain (which seems to have leveled off).

I feel like such a failure, because I am.

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