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HELP! I had surgery in sept. i have lost 35 lbs but now have been stalled for 2 months... i lost my job and my insurance.. cant afford a fill right now.. but i also have felt since getting the band that i am able to eat more than most people describe with their bands.....im worried my pouch is stretched! what can i do do fix this? also im at home all day now i have no car as my husbands was wrecked.... i feel like my eating is out of control... i feel out of control.. i really could use some advise/tips help... thank you

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Congratulations on your 35 pounds!!! All I can say, is today is a new day. You CAN do this. Remember the reasons you had the surgery in the first place... Realize that we will all hit rough times and the thing we tend to go toward is food. I can't imagine how hard it must be to be stuck inside all the time but the first thing I would do is to get rid of all the foods that I was overeating. Make your house a "safe zone" with only healthy foods. Then work very hard to find other things to make you feel better. Come on here and try the chat (if it is working) or reach out to others for support. You may have to do the hard work right now without a fill since you don't have the money but know that you can do it!! Hang in there and let us know how you are doing!

Jenn

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35 pounds is awesome!!! Congratulations!

So you don't have insurance or a job at the moment and can't afford fills and husbands car is smushed okay. Then let's focus on what you DO have. You are down 35 pounds!! That is what . . . 7 five pound bags of sugar!! Go to the store and try carrying that around with you a few isles. lol That is such an awesome accomplishment!! :D

You also have the knowledge of what you need to do, fill or not. Use your knowledge right now to get yourself back on track. Journal your food intake, eat on smaller plates, drink plenty of fluids. I have found that when I want to nibble on something it isn't because I "am hungry" it is out of habit. So if I go to the kitchen or even start to think of wanting food and I know that I don't need to eat yet I will do 20 push-ups or sit ups, hop on the gazelle or go for a walk. Whatever you can do to help you get your mind off food.

I know that it is tough when you are home with no car but use what you do have. You have made it this far and you CAN DO THIS!! And keep coming back here for support and encouragement!!

Good luck!!

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I love what Journeygirl said to you about the bags of surgar, that makes it really clear! You're doing great, 35 pounds lost means you didn't gain an ounce and are your way to your goal. Up your Water, try to increase the exercise and you will be over this hump! Don't give up, it's very hard to get restarted. I know you can do it!

Good luck! :rolleyes:

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JadeKatz....I'm in the same position too. We basically lost the same amount of weight too. Even if I slip up...there is always a new day to start over! I chose to go the conservative route with my fills because I want to eat like a normal, healthy thin person. I do eat on smaller plates, lots of Water, workouts, I can still enjoy eating Pasta, rice, bread but I have strict limits. I am enjoying my new way of eating!

BTW Journeygirl....love the bags of sugar example!!!!!!

Jo

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Do a search for the 5-day pouch test. Many have said it helps them to see if their pouch has truly stretched.

35 pounds since September is great. Sometimes our bodies take a break after a good loss. Sounds as though you are under a lot of stress right now. Take a breath and relax. Get back on track.

Is there a way for you to COBRA your health insurance?

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