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Right...how many times now has someone said to me "oh my sisters cousins mother's aunt had the lap band and she gained all her weight back" or so-and-so had it and she lost weight at FIRST....even my own mother. I had to explain to her that yes I could gain any weight I lose back. But my doctor has instructed me to keep up with maintenance, go back for fills, and always monitor. If I don't do this I will fail like your "mothers sisters aunts cousin...."

p.s. I like your ticker....

I think the biggest mistake one makes is thinking the band will help you keep the weight off because it wont. If you resort back to your old eating habits with the band you will gain all your weight back. Im just sayin. The band is not a guarantee that you will maintain your weight loss. Its a constant battle every single day.

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I was successful on diets in the past too...losing all the weight only to regain it. At some point the 'hunger' just got to be too much. My surgeon felt I was a good candidate for the band because my reason for overeating was 'hunger' and I had a past history of successfully staying on a diet and losing weight. After being banded for over a year, I understand.

The band works by putting pressure on the vagus nerves which tell the stomach to quit producing ghrelin, the hunger hormone. So when my band is at the right tightness, I can eat my 1200 calorie, low carb (30-60gm) *diet* and be satisfied for about 4 hours after each meal. I don't have that constant ravenous hunger that, in the past, drove me to eat. Oh sure, I still pass by a McDonald's or a restaurant, inhale and think "yum that smells good", but because I don't have hunger driving me, I'm better able to pass by...but it still comes down to my self-control.

We can have all the knowledge in the world about good nutrition, exercise, yada yada...but when you're dealing with atypical hunger due to a defective system that produces ghrelin even when you've just finished a meal...all that knowledge doesn't mean squat when it comes up against a driving hunger that never stops.

To the OP...many of us are successful dieters. Our problem is that we never keep it off long term. Now, depending on *why* that is, the band may or may not help. If it's due to hunger, it most likely will help although there are a few who say it didn't stop their hunger. They seem to be a very rare minority. If it's because you like to eat sweets...or just like to eat...the band won't stop you from doing that. *You* will still have to *choose* to eat the right foods and *choose* to put your fork down. If it's because you're an emotional eater, the band won't stop you from doing that.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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