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I haven't been on here in a while but I need some encouragement.

After losing over a hundred pounds my life took several wrong turns. I got divorced two years ago (after the weight loss she became a paranoid beast to live with. It was crazy.) Last year I was downsized at my job of seven years. I found another job right away but it was not a good fit and I was miserable. So I haven't been taking care of myself and haven't been to the doc in over a year. needless to say I have put most of that weight back on. I have been depressed and angry over my lack of discipline but have not found the motivation to right the ship.

Well now hopefully I am getting back on track. I found a really great job that I really like and two of my coworkers are banded! They have been supportive and are giving me some tough love too. I have an appointment next Thursday to hopefully get an adjustment and get back on track. I am quite embarrassed to go like this but I have to face the music. I can't continue the path I'm on right now I don't want to be fat anymore!!!!! Sorry for the long post I just needed to vent. Wish me luck!

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Good luck bob. Just take things one day at a time. If u need support look me up on here. I can try to help keep you motivated. I am getting banded the 27.

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Wow, Bob! I'm proud of you! After that kind of hassle in your life, that you'd have the courage to pull it together and get back on track? Awesome! I wish you nothing but total success. Keep us posted!

And don't beat yourself up too much over the pitfalls of where you've been. It's a journey, remember? Somebody a lot smarter than me once said, "The sin is not in falling, the sin is in not getting up."

Best,

Dave

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I wish u all the luck. I too have failed and have gained 20lbs back eating the wrong foods but i have joined the gym and have a personal trainer and now I just need to go back and get a fill hopefully that will work for me Im tired of being fat i need alot of encouragment as well.

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Bob, you are not alone!!! Hang in there. I go tomorrow for my first fill in a year. I am struggling too. Congrats on finding a job that's a good fit for you. That can help make things easier mentally to get back on track!

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Been on Protein Shakes since Monday, go to the doc tomorrow for an adjustment. I had been dreading the doc because I know he's going to beat me up, then I realized he couldn't possibly be any harder on me than I've been on myself. Now I'm looking forward to it.

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Congrats to you for taking control back! I am also in a similar boat. I lost about 80 pounds in the first few months. Then I started going the wrong direction and gained 50 back. 6 weeks ago I decided to get my butt up off the couch and sign up at a fitness center. And I reactived my fitday account so I could start tracking calories again! And I dragged my fiance with me too lol! In the past 6.5 weeks I've lost almost 30 of those 50 pounds and am feeling great. It was hardest to get to the gym. But once you go, you get into a routine and its easier! You have lots of support here! And also, now that we know how HORRIBLE it feels to regain the weight we worked hard to take off, it will hopefully serve to motivate us to make it work! :)

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Bob, Good for you getting started again. Glad you found a new job ypu like. You did it before, and you can do it again. Stop beating yourself up...the doctor has seen this before....you are not the only one. You are still a young man with a lot ahead of you. I hope you continue to make the best choices for yourself like you have been. Isn't it wonderful to have the chance to start over!!!!

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