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After a year of classes, evaluations, preparation, denial, lost charts, appeals, dropped balls, etc. I was suddenly approved and go for surgery in 11 days. I am scrambling around trying to get everything done and I feel angry instead of positive and excited. Its 7 months since I was in the classes and I feel like I have no support group. I feel like I'm taking the biggest step of my life blind folded. I found this site because I remeber I am supposed to be doing a low carb diet for two weeks prior to surgery but I see folks talking about a liquid diet, and Optifast. I'm lost. My preadmission appointment is 5 days before my surgery.:thumbup:

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After a year of classes, evaluations, preparation, denial, lost charts, appeals, dropped balls, etc. I was suddenly approved and go for surgery in 11 days. I am scrambling around trying to get everything done and I feel angry instead of positive and excited. Its 7 months since I was in the classes and I feel like I have no support group. I feel like I'm taking the biggest step of my life blind folded. I found this site because I remeber I am supposed to be doing a low carb diet for two weeks prior to surgery but I see folks talking about a liquid diet, and Optifast. I'm lost. My preadmission appointment is 5 days before my surgery.:thumbup:

First of all CONGRATS!! you should be exciting after all that hard work and upsets you are finally doing something that you need and want!! do what ever you can to read up on the surgery. maybe call the surgeon group that will be doing the surgery they will help you.

different surgeons require different pre op diets. some only require liquids for 2 weeks or 2 days. you will get informed when you go in.

just take a deep breathe and realize your new life is just beginning!!!!

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that's great news!! yes it is an emotional roller coaster....but it is all worth it....you will love your sleeve and you will love you new journey to weight loss.....the roller coaster ride will stop, believe me...:thumbup:

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Thanks for the support! I don't feel as alone.:smile2:

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YAY! im excited for you! Everything will fall into place. This site has been amazing for me and I actually recomended it to my nutriion class. I think i have gotton more from this site than an actual support group I attended. You will do great! take a deep breath!

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PS...just remember why you started this process to begin with....and everyone has a different pre op. I have to do Clear Liquids for three days prior, my friend did the protien Optifast shakes for two weeks...all inended to do the same thing...shrink your liver for surgery. no worries.

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First of all...congrats. SEcond of all...that sucks. I totally understand what you are going through!!!! AFter so much work i got approved and my surgery took place three days later. It was almost too much too quickly! And you DO have support! You have us! Please email me ANYTIME. Message me your info and we can stay in touch. Try not to start freaking out i know it's hard! :smile2:

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I understand how you're feeling. I started this process in June and from June-September things seemed to move slow (had to do the 3 month supervised diet, which was originally to be a 6 month diet). Then once my paperwork got submitted to insurance for approval, things have moved so quick.

I got approved on Tuesday, and I'm scheduled for surgery on October 15. My doctor originally said they could do surgery as early as this week, but I needed sometime to get everything together (ie. arrangements for my son on the date of surgery, pre-admission testing, etc). I'm so excited to have the surgery and start this journey, but I'm also a little nervous.

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I too feel that emotional roller coaster. Like Danamomto1 I started the process in June and things were moving nicely and then at my Sept. appt. my doctor wanted to schedule me for the beginning of Oct. I was so not ready. I have an appt. this week to begin pre-admission stuff, ekg, bloodwork, chest x-ray, etc. All of my other pre-op tests have cleared me. I am hoping that I will be able to get a date near the end of Oct. Excited but so nervous and apprehensive as well.

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