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I am wondering if other people got emotional before being banded? I am four days away and was about to cry all day over nothing. I feel a lot of stress over things that need to be done prior to my getting banded. I know this is the right thing to do, so I am not sure what my problem is. Did anyone else do this?

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I sure hope someone replies to the previous post about emotional before banding becuase I'm neverous as heck and I've been crying the last few days. I'm excited about the future new less of me, but for some reason I cant stop crying... Please help are there others out there who has had this experience..

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:Bunny Ladies, I got my approval from my insurance company and the emotions started for me. I too am VERY confident in my decision, haven't questioned it one time from the day we started researching the whole idea! Then when that letter was in my hot little hands.....WOW! LOL! I'm new myself but I think it must be catchy!! Good Luck and let me know how you are all doing!

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I was sick and cried like a baby, I was so stressed and emotional. I think it's very normal to feel that way. I went to Mexico by myself, and from the moment I hit the ground at the airport, I cried off and on all day of the surgery. I seriously think the psychologist thought I might be a little mental, but I assured her that I just deal with severe stress this way, and reminded her (and the others there that I was alone, and helloo... this is a scary thing... so they understood).

You aren't alone with feeling this way... at least I'd like to think so. :( Best wishes from the girl who cried like a baby the day before, day of, and day after surgery...

angie

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I am glad to hear that others are emotional as well. I was fine up until today. I have been very excited about this and my husband is very supportive. I think for me it is also the stress of not being able to do all the things I usually do as a mom.

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You're gonna be OK, Girl! Could some of this crying just be plain old relief? Often we hold up like gang-busters during the "fight" because we HAVE to. But when it's over - that's when we're shaking-in-our boots.

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.... I think for me it is also the stress of not being able to do all the things I usually do as a mom.

Me too! Although I have been on cloud 9, I worry about that also. But just think of what you WILL be able to do as a mom now! Good luck to ya, I go in on Tuesday

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I was approved last Friday and will be having my surgery on 12/28. I am filled with so many strange emotions. I've got a countdown to the band on my calendar at work :(

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I felt like part of my life was ending. Yet happy about it and intrepid. Could this be real? Isn't it a little drastic? Did I pray about this with an open mind or did I answer my own prayers with wishfull thinking? Can I rewind a little? I began to eat like there was no tomorrow. Like I never did before, there was this shadow of justification that it was my last meal before execution. I think it is absolutly normal to have mixed emotions. The week I was approved I was giddy really silly and euphoric then 2 days prior (to banding) my mood shifted to sort of a quiet somberness. I closet ate M&M's etc. Then the morning of, it was so matter of fact. My brilliant husband was there cheering me on, He wants me around for old age. It was definately the right choice. You are not alone!

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This is completely normal. I went from April (my initial visit w/surgeon) until August (when I had my surgery) with a severe case of "last supper syndrome". I gained weight.

You have to mourn food, but in the end you have to know that the food you are mouring is like an old friend who did you wrong, because of that food I was 300lbs.

When one door closes another opens.

Best luck to you!

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No..... never thought much about it except being nervous. Did have thoughts of regret 5 days after my surgery. But now... I would never change it for anything!!! It will be wonderful!!!!

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it never occured to me (in all the craziness and stress) that what i might have been (and still sometime am) feeling, is mourning... over my "old" life... over my future "old" self... over the comfort i had taken in food (even though it was killing me)... on and on. i still have my days, and as i lose, i feel a lot of very unusual feelings that i could not have predicted. i'm just going with whatever comes, and hoping this decision and my future is worth all this. it's been a major journey for me to this band, and does/will continue to be... and this journey most of all has been emotional for me to this point... the physical pain and the troubles i've had are nothing when i consider the rollercoaster of emotion i've been on.

i guess what i'm saying, again, is if you feel scared, serene, freaked, happy, sad, crazy... you're normal. been through all those and then some, and expect this to continue on, while my body and mind adjust to life with the band (and life without food utterly controling me).

i'll be thinking of you on your surgery day. :(

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I cried for two days and was so STRESSED OUT with mundane things. I think it has to be normal. Such hugh changes. Be gentle with yourself, you will be alright and will make it through.

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i am was incredibly emotional (banded 2 dec). the day of surgery i started crying when the doc was talking to me and my family came in. they gave me something (i think they give it to a lot of people to calm them down) and my tears dried up and i was ready to roll....you will be okay, but if you need something before the surgery, don't be afraid to ask for a sedative or whatever it was they gave me!!

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i am was incredibly emotional (banded 2 dec). the day of surgery i started crying when the doc was talking to me and my family came in. they gave me something (i think they give it to a lot of people to calm them down) and my tears dried up and i was ready to roll....you will be okay, but if you need something before the surgery, don't be afraid to ask for a sedative or whatever it was they gave me!!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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