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I have been banded since May 3rd 2010 and it has been a journey so far. I have lost about 36lbs so far but it has seemed to have stalled. Motivation seems to be my issue, I really don't have anyone to talk to that understands. My husband is great but half of the time I feel like what I say goes through one ear and out the other. Would be great to find someone near me to talk with!!!!!:thumbup:

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Hi, I am looking for a buddy/mentor, I live in Central Jersey, I understand what you are saying I feel the same way talking to my husband and kids they real do not understand. I have been band since Nov 28, 2007, and yes it has been a long journey, and still have not reached my goal. Lost 82lb and in the last year I have gained 31 back, I had lost my motivation, but now I am real trying again. How far south are you? Maybe we can help each other.

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Hello, thanks for responding. I am in Moorestown, NJ. That is about 15 minutes from Philly. Even if we aren't close enough to meet up maybe we can keep each other motivated and going. I am trying to take off the last 30lbs right now and I keep struggling with the same 3lbs up and down. I do great all day long and then around 3pm I am like a food monster and just lose all control and then go completely over my calories for the day and then I sit here wondering why I keep gaining the same 3lbs. I go to the gym 4 to 5 times a day and work hard but the food is killing me.

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Hi, sounds good to me I live in Union, NJ, I truly feel your pain about the food monster(smile), mine happen at night I can do so well all day go to the gym or walk and come home and eat everything in sight, I told my daughter (22) no more junk food in this house. Lets try and think of something to do when we feel the need to eat more then we should..or lets write down what we eat and then share it with each other. I am trying to keep more fruit in the house like I did in the beginning. So let me know what you think.

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That is exactly what happens to me I spend over an hour in the gym and eat around 600 to 700 calories for the day and then night falls and its like I turn into this monster and I just want to eat everything and then I wonder why I don't see the scale moving. Its so aggrevating that I have no self control over this. I just cant seem to talk myself out of eating whatever there is. Its just horrible. There has to be something maybe a fat picture of myself hanging on the fridge or something drastic like that..hahaha

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Hi, Busy weekend just getting a chance to say hi, How did you do over this weekend? Well I did pretty good Friday night, Saturday, OMG Sunday evening came and it was over...lol, but I will get back on track tomorrow, Starting with yogurt and a fruit..Well I hope we have a better week.:smile:

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me too exactly the same and then I over did it last night and had a horrible stuck episode with a peperoni soft pretzel... I need to stay motivated this week, I go back to the dr. next wed the 6th so I want him to see good results so this week I will be cracking down. Like my husband said could you imagine all the weight I would have lost if I didn't pig out at night!!!!!:smile:

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Hi, I hate when i get food struck it is the worst, but I have learned pretty much what to eat, but some sometimes that craven takes over. How are you doing so far this week? I have done pretty well so far. Do you exercise? I try to go at least 3 times a week and i walk 2 times on a good week. What kind of foods do you eat? I eat mostly salads with chicken or fish and vegetables. I pretty much bake everything. Hoping all is well. waiting to hear from you.:smile2:

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Well Tues was a really good day, I ate pretty well no horrible eating at night. I have to admit sometimes I am not the best eater and would lose so much more if I just stuck to what I am supposed to be eating. I eat, alot of chicken, sometimes steak with salad. I eat almost anything. I def. exercise about 4 or 5 times a week for a little over an hr. most days. I feel so good afterward but when I am eating crappy the exercise doesn't do much, thats the way I feel anyway. For some reason since banding it seems like I am craving cakes, pastries and stuff like that. Never was big on them before but now I can't get enough. Go figure!!!!!lol

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Hi,

My name is bano and I live in the colonia/edison area. I would also like to have a buddy. Mostly to keep me accountable. Maybe the 3 of us can conference call once per week on 3 way or something? Just to keep ourselves motivated? I got my band in march and have only lost about 30 pounds. I know its because of my diet. I am an emotional eater and its a struggle for me everyday. Maybe we can help eachother out??

thanx

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Hi,

My name is bano and I live in the colonia/edison area. I would also like to have a buddy. Mostly to keep me accountable. Maybe the 3 of us can conference call once per week on 3 way or something? Just to keep ourselves motivated? I got my band in march and have only lost about 30 pounds. I know its because of my diet. I am an emotional eater and its a struggle for me everyday. Maybe we can help eachother out??

thanx

hi i also live in jersey, North Jersey, randolph to be exact... i thnk thats an awesome idea for us to conference once a week (kinda lke our own little WW support meeting) I was banded in July and lost 32lbs and i thnk my weight loss has stalled too and its sooo easy to just give up. support from each other might be just what we need.

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Sorry to be nosy, but I am in Howell, which is actually in the middle of all of you! Can I join your buddy group? I was banded September of 08, lost 40 lbs, gained 20, lost 9. I am so not doing well at all, and do not have anyone who knows what I am going through!

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Hello: "Aunt Suzie" here, from the environs of Princeton-area, NJ... I've been blessed enough to have "mentored" more than a few, though will confess that I'm pretty much 0% "techie", (it's embarrassing really!:)) and find it difficult to navigate all the nuances of the LapBand Talk site, therefore, don't check into it very often... feel free to contact me: jakeornaments@aol.com, and will help you if I can! :(

In the meantime, take a deep breath, take one day at a time, TAKE YOUR Vitamins and take time to reach out... your buddies are here for you! Have a great weekend!

Aunt Suzie

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Just wondering if anyone is still active on this particular post??...from central nj and looking for somewhere to vent..lol

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Just wondering if anyone is still active on this particular post??...from central nj and looking for somewhere to vent..lol

Hi, l was thinking about coming back on, and here I am thankful it comes on my phone so I can see it. I am still having the same issues not so much the exercise because I do that at least 4 to 5 times a week, but what good is that if you come home and eat everything in site, ok you may be heart healthly but I want and need the weight lost. I feel like I am fighting a loosing battle and I am the enemy...lol, again maybe we can help each other or something. I am in the Union, Nj area.

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