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I am so depressed !! I just wish I could eat something! I have been on Clear Liquids only for 10 days and I go to full liquid in few days for a week. I am feeling very down

has anyone had this?? Ugh. I am hungry and tired and sore and no end for weeks.

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I think it is common to go through a little depression after any surgery. Healing drains you of energy sometimes. Plus, with the lapband I felt that I was so tense and excited about the surgery that there was a let-down afterwards when I was pretty much the same person...only sorer. (Really I think somewhere in my subconscious I expected to wake up thin and seventeen again....sigh, tis not so.) And in our rushed culture we tend not to give ourselves much recovery time for anything...elective surgery included.

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I had the same issue post op. I missed food so much. My doc explained it to me like this.

You are in the process of divorcing food. You will miss it because it has played a huge part in your life but it is time to move on to a better way of living. Food is not a good companion.

In the book Women Food and God, Geneen Roth helped me understand that it is actually "comfort food" that makes me so miserable. It helped me avoid feelings and added another problem onto them, morbid obesity.

A healthy way of life makes me feel better. I traded guilt and shame for confidence and pride. Remember all the things that are coming to you as you lose weight. I watch many youtube videos of vloggers dancing in their new size 6 and 4 clothes. Being able to cross your legs, and run when you need to. Maybe even deciding you want to run a 5k. You are on your way to that.

The stage you are in now was the hardest for me. I survived it and am so thankful I passed through it. Read up on all the NSV's people have had. It encourages me to see all the happy moments that are coming to me.

I actually crossed me legs yesterday. I was so thrilled I could have sat there forever. I got my wedding ring back on. I can wear lace up shoes now. I was able to buy some cute underwear instead of granny panties. I was running and training for a 5k but got tendonitis. Once that heals I can't wait to get going at it again. I wanna feel the excitement of crossing the finish line of my first 5k. I FEEL so much lighter and happier with myself because I know I am making the right choices.

Just try to focus on all the positive that is coming in your life. I had no idea what I was getting into and am so excited about my lapband. You'll make it through this and then the fun will begin.

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You know that makes sense to me. Thank you. It feels like grieving. And fear

I think when the weight starts to go the trade will be complete. Now it feels like

I am not eating and not losing still overweight at the same time. Going nowhere sort of thing

I feel a little better today. But yes food was a friend but not very good for me

unfortunatly I still miss it!

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I've had the same feelings. But they will pass and when you see that scale start moving downward, you will want to work harder and thus it gets easier.

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I was banded on April 20th.The first two week's I was fine,then on the third week I got very depressed because I was unhappy with my weight loss{which was fine]Yes this is normal.I did not realize how much food meant too me and what a huge part it played in my life.It was my comfort,my quick fix and alway's there to make me not to feel thing's that were painful.I also started hating my band and getting mad at myself because I couldn't eat untill I was so full of food I felt like I was sedated.Everything is getting better and I see a therapist once a week too get past my head and deal with this fixation with food.We heavy people feel like we don't deserve too feel good but we do!This is work body and soul.Yes I had a hard time Memorial weekend,Besides missing food and bbq's and beer I had too put my cat to sleep, I thought I was going to explode.But I didn't overeat or drink,I dealt with all these emotions and didn't give in.So yes you will have these day's but they will pass,You can do it!:confused:

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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