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Hello Fellow Banders,:)

I am almost 2 months post op and I have lost a little over 30 lbs. I'm sure it would have been more, but I have still been struggling with getting a grip on life long eating issues. I am still an overeater/binger and I realize I can't break these bad behaviors overnight. I also struggle with depression and anxiety for which I am taking perscription medication. I am also seeing a psycologist to discuss and work on improving my eating habits. Most days I feel like all of this helps, but I still have those days where I fall off the wagon, then beat myself up mentally and emotionally. But, at least now I've been going out for walks when I am feeling like crap. Of course this is after I have had an overeating episode. So I am here now for accountability, support, advice and encouragement.

It would be nice to hear from someone who has had these same issues, and has learned to overcome.

I did the lap band surgery so I can be healthy for my three children. I want to be here to see them grow up. I am 34 years old now and I don't want to hear from my doc that I have diabetes. Obesity and diabetes run in my family along with depression and anxiety. :mad:

It is time for me to break the cycle and adopt a positive attitude. I need to stay away from the kitchen after dinner and find a new outlet to suppress very strong food cravings.

I have to say the band has helped me get a new focus on food, but I still struggle with my food demons. I know better and I am fortunate that I have had no major issues when I have eaten too much. I know I need to get a grip before I do have a band issue.

I do have goals. My first being to get under the 200 lb mark, then hopefully lose another 30-35 lbs after. I fear failure, but at the same time I fear success too. The fear of success being getting to my goal. Then the fear of failure being regaining the weight.

O.k., I am getting my feelings out here whether anybody reads this or not. It is theraputic. I am doing much better today than I was a few days ago. I feel in control today.:biggrin:

Thanks for reading!

Take care and God Bless!

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I think we all struggle with the same issues of some sort of "problem" with food....or else we wouldn't be here! We also to some degree have that same fear of sucess/failure as well. Thanks for being brave enough to "put your feelings out there" there are hundreds of great people on this site who ARE here...who DO READ....and who WILL be there for you! I have already been helped by so many people on here I couldn't begin to thank them all! Keep posting....they will answer!

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Hello and welcome....

I was banded 2.5 weeks ago and I know what you mean about the success/failure thing....I feel it too. I have had a food addiction for a long time and i'm getting it under control now...I too have depression and anxiety and take meds. I see a psych and a therapist. I go to the lap band support groups and they help me a lot....What i do at night to stay away from eating is I go into the chat room on here...lots of support and fun. it keeps me outta the kitchen and not thinking too much about food....

Take Care,

Meg

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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