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So I'm posting here because I have no idea how to blog. (Could somebody maybe help me with that?)

I personally walked my 5 yr medical history from my PCP to the New U center on Thursday last week. I filled out my packet online (seriously, I do not remember how much I weighed when I was 10 yrs old). The nurse said she would go over my history and my packet and determine if I was a good candidate for surgery and I would know this week sometime. THIS WEEK SOMETIME?!?!??! I want to know now! :thumbup: (Patience is a virtue I'm working on, but not right now LOL)

My BMI is definately high enough at 53. I have no diagnosed comorbidities.

BUT...this is what I am worried about. About 8 yrs ago I was diagnosed with Barrett's Esophagus but I have taken Nexium since then and I quit smoking 2 years ago. And that's the other thing. When I went to personally pick up my records I couldn't resist reading some of it. And last at the end of August I went to the doctor to get a few days worth of Xanax - I was 2 wks away from my wedding, I was a nervous wreck and I didn't want to start smoking again. I just need something to calm me down for a week or so. And the stupid PA put that I was still smoking!! WTF??? I was not smoking!!! I went to the doctor because I DID NOT want to start smoking again!

AND....a couple years ago I was going thru a pretty bad time, my now ex-husband was an ass and I wanted desperately to lose weight but he was NOT supportive and everytime I tried to bring something healthy in the house he teased me relentlesly about it and accused me of wanting to lose weight so I could leave him (he weighed almost 100 lbs more than me). So, I went to my doctor and wanted phentermine. And I got the bitch of the PA world. She told me that what I really needed was to go to a counselor to find out why I was eating my feelings, or just stop eating. And she asked if I had ever been molested. SERIOUSLY!!! I have never been molested, I don't really stress eat. I eat when I'm bored and I'm never full so when I do eat I eat enough for 3 people! Anyway the report she made said that I was 'not willing to change my diet or excercise' and that I just wanted a quick fix. She also put that I had tried to make myself throw up 'without success.' WHAT I SAID WAS when she asked me if I had ever made myself was...'I COULD NEVER DO THAT...I saw what it did to my mother and would never be able to that to myself' That really upset me that she twisted that. SO now I'm all freaked out that I could be denied because a few years ago a PA totally twisted what I said and put that on my chart.

Granted, it does say several times how I am counting WW points but still can't seem to lose more than a few pounds and gain it back.

I really just want to get this going. I am trying different shakes and trying to prepare myself mentally for how I will answer questions at work (not planning on telling anyone at work) and how I will handle dinners with my husband's family (all super skinny runners that freak out about the calories in a wine cooler...all while I'm eating 2nds on potato salad...none of them have ever worn a size bigger than a medium and that's when they were pregnant!)

Anyway, I'm just really chomping at the bit (bad pun LOL) to find out about this approval. I feel better getting this all out. I'm sorry about this being long but I really just needed to get it all out in an environment where you would all understand....my husband just keeps telling me it will all work out and that he loves me and tells me how beautiful I am no matter what....he's AWESOME!!!

goodnight....6:30 comes early

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Hello !! Wow !! I would be on tender hooks waiting also, I have my fingers crossed that you get the banding O.K ....

Its great to have a supportive partner , mine is too...I also am not telling anyone other than my immeadiate family..

The operation is not done in the public system in Australia but Privately so you need to be in a Health Fund and its quite easy to have the proceedure if you are over weight , I went to a seminar booked an appointment with my local doctor got a referal to the surgeon who sends you to the dietitian then see`s you I was booked for surgery at that first appointment for 9 days later , as I am 62 I needed to get checked by the anethesiologist which I did and got the o.k and all went ahead..

The only thing the surgeon required from my doctor was my history (17yrs struggling with obesity, High B.P ...on meds...depression ...on meds) and I was lucky my doctor agreed it was the next step as I had been battling long enough and getting no where...

Sorry I can`t help with Blogging ...I am a technical Dummy.. :thumbup:

Hopefully someone will come along to help you out..

Once again GOOD LUCK and keep us posted....

Marion

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Lordy, Amy, I share your feelings! I still don't know if I have insurance approval, but my surgeon doesn't think there will be a problem (like what does he know about insurance, anyway), and he's talking about the end of April.

One day at a time, one day at a time, and keep practicing is what I keep telling myself. Patience is surely not my strong suit.

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