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I was banded in feb 08. I have lost next to nothing.

I did drink when I eat. I didn't exercise as much as I should have.

I am starting over. I need to find a fill doctor, but I gave up so long ago I don't even remember the rules of a good bandster.

Help?

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To answer your question about starting over, I would say: get to your doctor and don't be ashamed at all, because there are lots of people in the same situation.

I am sort of in the same boat, banded October 26 '09, I have lost only 15# and am read to start being more accountable.

I want a buddy!!!!

I just got a fill last week, but do not feel any more restriction than before the fill.

I need to get off sugar, because I eat candy & can't stop the revolving problem w/ sweets & need to just get back on a low-glycemic, sugar busters type of eating.

Today I started to log food on fitday.com.

I would like a fitday.com buddy, maybe to exchange calories eaten during the day, and to be accountable for 30 minutes of exercise a day.

I live in Illinois, would like buddy and/or buddies.

That is where I am starting.

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I was banded in feb 08. I have lost next to nothing.

I did drink when I eat. I didn't exercise as much as I should have.

I am starting over. I need to find a fill doctor, but I gave up so long ago I don't even remember the rules of a good bandster.

Help?

Your band isn't going to work for you unless you utilize it.

  • Find a fill doctor.
  • Do NOT drink with your meals.
  • Talk to a dietician if you are not sure what to eat.
  • Move your butt. (*I've had trouble with this one and recently started walking daily.)

You can do this. :smile2:

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What I have learned as "The rules of a good bandster"

1) Be as nice to yourself as you are to others. No pointing fingers or being judgmental. (Per BetsyB)

2) Be accountable for your actions. Journal your food and exercise.

3) Reach out for support when you need it.

4) B!tch (and moan)when you need to, then get back to doing something productive. (Per my mother in law)

5) When you mess up, start over. Tomorrow is a new day!

I hope this helps you, I wish I was close enough to recommend a fill Dr., I use one in Dallas but I think that is too far for you. A good fill Dr. who works with you is so important for this to work. Remember if the band worked by itself it wouldn't have the port for adjustments, they would just put it in and be done.

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I hear you...

I was banded 9/27/07, and my losses have been negligible. I lost 18 lbs pre-surgery, and then floundered. Last year at this time, at 262, I started doing Atkins and managed to get to about 240 on a roller coaster ride.

I have presently been doing Medifast for the past month, started on 2/1, and I have barely seen a 5 lb loss. I'm so frustrated, I'm doing everything on plan, never going over 900 calories a day... and yet I am struggling with every pound.

Glad to hear I'm not the only one...

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I stalled out for a while, the only thing that helped me was relearning the rules of the band. I posted them on my wall and reviewed them every day!! Hope this helps:

The Ten Lap-Band Commandments

  1. Eat only three small meals a day
  2. Eat slowly and chew thoroughly (15-20 times a bite)
  3. Stop eating as soon as you feel full
  4. Do not drink while you are eating
  5. Do not eat between meals
  6. Eat only good quality food
  7. Avoid fibrous food
  8. Drink enough fluids during the day
  9. Drink only low-calorie fluids
  10. Exercise at least 30 minutes a day

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