Trying for a baby . . ..

[Retta1983 0]

My husband and I are planning on trying for a baby this year (starting in a month or so's time) and although I am so excited and happy about the potential to start our family I feel like I'm really at the beginning of my weight loss journey and I'm worried about what will happen through pregnancy and then afterward. Does anyone have any advice?

Initially I got the lapband because my weight was aggravating back problems and causing me pain in my joints and was so uncomfortable - I didn't want to attempt to go through pregnancy feeling like that all the time and felt worried that after having a baby I wouldn't have the strength to be the mother that I want to be.

Now I have lost just under 25kg's and don't get regular back pain (it is rare now) and no knee or hip pain so it's a great step, as well as that my eating habits have changed, I have come to terms with a lot of the emotions that have plagued me and am actually enjoying the light exercise and stretches that are improving my core stability and improving my fitness.

[ckelly37 1]

good luck on ur journey...the reason i got the band was to have a 2nd child....everyone has different reasons why they want to lose weight....when the time comes and u get pregnant jus take it easy...i got a complete unfill 4 weeks into my pregnancy and have only gained 10lbs (im currently 29 weeks)...im sure ull do fine and as soon an the baby comes u can go back to ur band ways....good luck

[lsprrnbr 0]

I believe that I am in the same place that you are. I was banded in August, but I still have about 40 lbs to lose before I meet my goal. I know that it will not happen before pregnancy, as we are probably going to start trying in the next few months. I am scared and excited at the same time.

[Retta1983 0]

Oh dear, i want to have a bit of a vent.

A month or so ago I had a miscarriage - our little one was only about four weeks along so very very early, but I am still not feeling quite right. (emotionally I mean) and have been crying whenever I really stop to think about it.

I feel guilty and stupid for being so upset so early when realistically many people would not even have known that they were pregnant at the point that I miscarried, but it feels like such a huge blow.

After a week or so of feeling out of things and abandoning healthy eating or any exercise last week I started feeling good and even did a little halfhour session at the gym a few times and on other days had good walks. Then this week every morning I have had pain under my port (as if from too much pressure in my tummy) and feeling so emotional all over again.

What does this mean? I have suspected maybe I'm pregnant again but don't want to get my hopes up again. If I'm not maybe this is something else I'm just failing at. It's so upsetting and hard - why did I not expect this? I was shocked at the amount of pain that came with miscarrying but now that seems to pale with how I feel day to day and I want an outlet but feel so stupid talking about it.

[TracyW2 137]

My first pregnancy ended in m/c. I was beyond devestated. I was depressed and angry at the world. So I understand what you have gone through. If you are suspecting that you could be pregnant again, please see your dr.

[Retta1983 0]

Thank you :smile2: I will!

I am now five days late with my period and have noticed the last few days a lot of pressure and soreness in my tummy at times through the day, am running to the bathroom to wee almost all the time and feel . . i don't know, 'different'. Am going to take a pregnancy test tomorrow morning and then see the doctor if it's positive.

Wish me luck!

[TracyW2 137]

Good luck. Cant wait to hear about your pos test! :smile2:

[Retta1983 0]

Thank you for the luck :biggrin:

The result wasn't very clear - I think I'll wait another week and then test again just to be sure!

[TracyW2 137]

Just checking in on you.

[Retta1983 0]

Thank you :w00t:

Well the doctor found a positive in my urine test and is doing a blood test that I'll hear about on Monday - just to confirm how far along we are. I'm so excited!!

It's just the few days wait for formal confirmation and then we can think about when we'll tell people and all that.

I have called my surgeon and am going to go in as soon as I can to have some Fluid taken out of my band and from there start including a little more food and drink in my day for the bub :laugh:

[toffeesocks 0]

Good luck! :frown:

If you're going to be careful with your pregnancy weight gain, don't forget that on top of your own requirements, through pregnancy you really only need about an extra glass of milk, because you're not actually eating for two! :laugh:

:w00t:

[TracyW2 137]

Congrats! I knew you were going to be preg! Just try to enjoy it now. :redface:

[Retta1983 0]

Thank you so much! I will do just that :redface:

And thank you for your support.

[Retta1983 0]

Goodness me these have been some bumpy months. The second pregnancy I had ended at 9 weeks - another early miscarriage. We just stopped trying for a month and I just had massages, did exercise and tried to make my body well again.

Now I'm waiting for my next period, which is due tomorrow. I have had pains in the last week and every day have been so tired - even being a bit dizzy some days, so have wondered if we have conceived yet again. I don't want to get too excited in case I'm not . . or in case I am and we lose it again. This is so much harder than I was ever prepared for.

[TracyW2 137]

Oh my goodness. I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you must be going through.

Please let us know what you find out. Will be thinking of you.

Edited July 21, 2010 by TracyW2