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Also, (after COVID is over) go to some meetups about things that you enjoy. Hiking, yoga, model trains, you name it. You'll have something to talk about that makes things less awkward and friend-oriented and things can grow into more.

I am forever hopeful that the universe sends me someone who has also had WLS.

Also, (after COVID is over) go to some meetups about things that you enjoy. Hiking, yoga, model trains, you name it. You'll have something to talk about that makes things less awkward and friend-oriented and things can grow into more.

I haven't had any THC since last summer - however I have neighbors that smoke weed on their porch and in their bathroom and the smell gets into my apartment pretty strongly... I am wondering if this is going to show up in my drug screening before surgery and make me look like a liar 😞
I mean, it is every.single.day that I walk through my hallway and it's like someone is smoking in the next room with the door open. When they are smoking on their porch and I'm on mine, I have to go inside it's so strong.

Man, if I had a dollar for every critic who said this to me on these boards. It's a past time of a certain type of dieter....to send me hate mail and try to shame me for being outspoken.
"You're still overweight! You shouldn't be telling people what to do! How dare you not feel ashamed at that weight!"
Shakin my head over here.
If I wanted to be 140, I could be. Have been. Looked god-awful and felt like I was starving all the time.
If I wanted to be 160, I could be. Have been. I wasn't particularly hungry, got a reasonable number of calories, but thought I looked older.
I like a little more round to my angles. I like less sag, fewer wrinkles. Not real interested in cosmetic surgery. Picked the best option for me.
I like eating 1600 calories a day. I like having space in my diet for a couple pieces of fruit because I think phytonutrients are beneficial and important. I like how i feel eating a high Fiber diet. I like room to be a vegetarian some days. I like flexability. It's how I can face this as a lifelong change. It's how I can make peace with food forever....cause I know this plan is WORKABLE in pretty much all situations. I can eat on my plan during a holiday, a funeral, a birthday party....during a power outage, while recovering from an injury, during extreme emotional stress, on the road, and while dealing with my inlaws. LOL.
I typically weigh 165-170 pounds. I LOVE this weight. It is NOT "the best I could do because I couldn't get to a "healthy weight" ", it is an intentionally chosen set point. It's a choice. This is, I am 100% certain...the MOST healthy weight I can choose for myself.
That whole...Arnold Schwarzenegger's BMI was technically Obese when he won Mr. Universe figures in. BMI is flawed. It doesn't differentiate between light muscle frames and heavy muscle frames, bigger bones, smaller bones. Different ethnicities. Different body styles.
My feet, depending on the manufacturer are size 10 or 11. My shoulders are more broad than most men's my height. My butt, thighs and calves are overdeveloped because I rode huntseat and jumped horses for decades, even when I was quite heavy. My husband says they have a kinda superhero quality now. LOLOLOLOL
So here's the thing....If you feel inclined to send me a snarky note about how I shouldn't say anything....because I'm not American Media model skinny, you might have a problem.
As it happens, I have a good friend who models. He's 5' 10", weighs 157 pounds soaking wet, and they STILL wanted him to use coke for a week and fast...to look more sickly skinny for his last national ad campaign.
Our impression of body image in the media is grossly distorted and unhealthy.
And a lot of folks here....get a grossly distorted and unhealthy obsession with their eating habits, their BMI, the number on the scale, and how it defines them.
Please, please, please remember....health.
Physical health, strength, endurance, good labs, fewer medications.
Emotional health...loving yourself, enjoying your life, feeling challenged and happy.
Mental health...finding balance you can live with for a lifetime.
Love your strong healthy body. Love your good food choices that provide good nutrition to nurture that body. Love the flexability to make it work though the tough spots.
Avoid the fixations, the extremes, the inflexable rules, the disordered eating (and disordered not-eating)
You can trust yourself to get to where you need to be....without punishment.
Love yourself. Love yourself. Love yourself.

I hear it used to be common to remove gallbladder during weight loss surgery. I’d ask your surgeon’s advice on it.

Hi y’all, I’m back for some support because I can feel mine waning so quickly it’s actually outpacing my weight loss. So today I got to see a friend for a second for the first time since November. (I’ve lost 48 lbs since then). She told me I looked “sickly” and “50 lbs is plenty” and that I was going to regret “butchering my body” in 10 years when I end up back where I started. She said all what I’ve done is undermined the hard work that people like her have put in to do it “the non cheaters way out.” I was actually stunned to hear those words uttered to me. I’m not trying to toot my own horn, but I’m nice to a fault, like I get told by people all the time I have no mean bone in my body. I didn’t have the guts to stand up for myself in that moment. I would never dream of being unsupportive of ANYONE trying to better themselves. So seeing people I’ve confided in and spent so much time with in my adult life turn on me for something that was done for health reasons that would have eventually killed me, has absolutely demoralized me. I don’t need to be coddled, but a little bit of “yeah we’ve seen first hand, your health deteriorate in the last 2 years, this is definitely something that’s going to help you so we’re here” would just mean a lot. But alas, I guess my expectations are too high.
This is my 3rd friend in 3 weeks to completely rail on me and tell me how dumb I am or how big of a failure I’m going to be, and I don’t think this isn’t the kind of journey that I can do on my own. I don’t know what to do, I don’t know who to confide in, and I don’t know how to convince myself that people are gonna judge and I’m just going to have to be okay with it. But I’m struggling. Never thought doing something to save my life would rid me of all my 3 best friends. And these aren’t co-workers or acquaintances, these are hang out every weekend, talk daily, been doing it for 5 years, type of people. How do I get through this? Any advice is welcomed and appreciated.
Sorry for being so long winded. If you read this far, thank you. I just needed to vent.

I measure everything too, but since I used this dinnerware, I don't have to get my scale out all the time because the measurements are on the actual plates/bowls. https://livligahome.com/shop-all/bariatric/ I also love the small fork/spoons they have which are the biggest help.

Oooh thank you!!!!

Update - I asked my PCP to send my scan report to my Bariatric surgeon. They called me immediately after receiving my scans. Surgeon wants to see me next week to talk about scheduling gallbladder removal and my surgery.

I hear it used to be common to remove gallbladder during weight loss surgery. I’d ask your surgeon’s advice on it.

I got one from Amazon, was not impressed, and then found these. I bought 2 so I could wash one while I wore the other. Comfortable enough to sleep in or wear all day. I wore them under my underwear so they wouldn’t get in the way when I needed to go to the bathroom. My incisions healed up so fast and it doesn’t feel like I’m flopping around.

https://incrediwear.com/collections/upper-body/products/incrediwear-body-sleeve

Hi All, I wanted to thank you again for the responses and to provide an update that insurance did accept and pay the hospital stay. Feeling so blessed.

Especially the ones sitting forward.

Well you thought WRONG, mister! Didn't you know that riding a bike is akin to foreplay for some women????

Just got the call, I'm Jan 11! Happy Dance!

If I am ever in that boat I'll have to ask you who this is! 🙂

I'm so disappointed you guys! I am in Seattle. I finally got my insurance approval on Saturday. I called the surgeon's office yesterday and asked about getting a date, and they called back this morning. Due to COVID they aren't scheduling anyone right now. I wish everyone would wear masks and social distance so I can get my surgery!!!

I'm so disappointed you guys! I am in Seattle. I finally got my insurance approval on Saturday. I called the surgeon's office yesterday and asked about getting a date, and they called back this morning. Due to COVID they aren't scheduling anyone right now. I wish everyone would wear masks and social distance so I can get my surgery!!!

I know how you feel dont worry it will turn around I was all set for Nov 16th and after being on the diet for 10 days and 4 days away from surgery they cancelled But they called me this Monday and rescheduled for Nov 30th it will work out we put in the work and get the rug pulled from underneath us get the disappointment but keep your head up it will work out for you .

My surgeon just sent the preauth letter to insurance last week and I'm biting my nails! Hoping that they answer her quick! My PTO is use it or lose it by the end of the year and I saved up 3 weeks for this... if they don't get me in before the end of the year I will be so pissed!
When I saw her at the first appt, she said that she'd do the RnY or Sleeve, my choice - but when I had my final appointment before she sent off the letter she was pretty adamant on wanting to do sleeve on me - I'm feeling a little conflicted about that. But at this point I'm just wanting to get it done!

I know this is a self inflicted problem, but I’m getting tired of all my coworkers being nosy about my vacation time and talking about how I’m going to enjoy it so much and how lucky I am to be taking time off. But it makes me even more glad I didn’t share anything with them because I can’t imagine the gossip and drama they’d be starting if they knew I was getting surgery.

I’m almost all packed, just have to finish up today at work, pick up the kids, check into our air bnb a few hours away, and off we go on our “vacation”.

Congratulations!!!! I bet you are counting the days!

Congrats! Rooting for you!

The best laid plans of mice and (wo)men... I have a great plan with my surgeon for afterward that involves Protein Shakes, but if I would be gagging at the thought of them, I'd need to make a plan B pretty quick... and when surgeons are busy and dieticians are scheduling 2 months out we need a little help from our friends.