Skip to content
View in the app

A better way to browse. Learn more.

BariatricPal

A full-screen app on your home screen with push notifications, badges and more.

To install this app on iOS and iPadOS
  1. Tap the Share icon in Safari
  2. Scroll the menu and tap Add to Home Screen.
  3. Tap Add in the top-right corner.
To install this app on Android
  1. Tap the 3-dot menu (⋮) in the top-right corner of the browser.
  2. Tap Add to Home screen or Install app.
  3. Confirm by tapping Install.
  • Appearance

Join BariatricPal free

  • Ask your own questions
  • Reply and follow topics
  • Message other members
  • No cost, no spam

Is dating a thing anymore?

I had my surgery 5-21 and since I started my Journey I've lost 82.8 pounds. I'm just wondering if anyone is dating anymore and is it harder after having bariatric surgery? Have a great day!

  • Replies 19
  • Views 10.7k
  • Created
  • Last Reply

Top Posters In This Topic

Most Popular Posts

  • Sticky1984
    Sticky1984

    I get the impression most are lookin for hook up. Congrats on your success!!!

  • Sticky1984
    Sticky1984

    Totally agree... but even when that isn't what I am looking for, it is all I seem to find!!!!!

  • That sucks cause some of us dont want that. Thank you Sticky

Posted Images

Featured Replies

I get the impression most are lookin for hook up. Congrats on your success!!!

  • Author

I get the impression most are lookin for hook up. Congrats on your success!!!

That sucks cause some of us dont want that. Thank you Sticky
21 hours ago, mrjaywil said:

That sucks cause some of us dont want that. Thank you Sticky

Totally agree... but even when that isn't what I am looking for, it is all I seem to find!!!!!

  • 4 weeks later...

What apps are you using? I haven't had a hook up yet, just meaningful connections, from meetmindful, match.com, and bumble. Pinkcupid has been a mixed bag, I don't recommend.

Also, (after COVID is over) go to some meetups about things that you enjoy. Hiking, yoga, model trains, you name it. You'll have something to talk about that makes things less awkward and friend-oriented and things can grow into more.

  • 1 month later...

I think dating looks alot different nowadays *wow I sound old... reminds me of my parents telling me how theh walked 10 miles to school in blizzard,up hills both ways when 5 cent candies were only a penny.....

But really.... covid has thrown a wrench jn the whole "get out there and meet people" process. On top of that,I think wls throws in another wrench not many people will get what the process is like, or the lifestyle changes that go with it.

... i should add a meme to bring me back down to the proper age range. . ;)

  • 3 weeks later...

I'm hoping to start dating again in about 6 or so months, I'm open to it but at the moment kind of just want to put energy into myself.

  • 2 weeks later...

I had my surgery 5-21 and since I started my Journey I've lost 82.8 pounds. I'm just wondering if anyone is dating anymore and is it harder after having bariatric surgery? Have a great day!

It has been a challenge getting back into the swing of things. I learned that food is the main source in any social gathering. Unfortunately i was unable to keep it to myself being that i have various restrictions and they became displeased with time. How is dating for you?
I'm hoping to start dating again in about 6 or so months, I'm open to it but at the moment kind of just want to put energy into myself.
I agree. I would love to meet someone and built a relationship together but I most importantly want to focus on myself and meet my goal. I feel that dating will not allow me to keep my focus as I am now.

I am forever hopeful that the universe sends me someone who has also had WLS.

  • 2 months later...
On 6/7/2020 at 3:53 PM, mrjaywil said:

I had my surgery 5-21 and since I started my Journey I've lost 82.8 pounds. I'm just wondering if anyone is dating anymore and is it harder after having bariatric surgery? Have a great day!

I really hope to date again, but yea with the whole covid thing, me being in my 40s with a teen son, it might be a challenge. But, I have gone so long without a loving companion, I want to meet someone, chat, get to know them, and when we can, meet in person and maybe have a relationship again! Also, meeting other WLS people would be great because we KNOW what its all about and what we go thru! ❤️ love to all!

  • 3 months later...

I had my surgery 5-21 and since I started my Journey I've lost 82.8 pounds. I'm just wondering if anyone is dating anymore and is it harder after having bariatric surgery? Have a great day!

Goodness I hope so!
  • 7 months later...

I had my surgery 5-21 and since I started my Journey I've lost 82.8 pounds. I'm just wondering if anyone is dating anymore and is it harder after having bariatric surgery? Have a great day!

I know your post is from 2020, I was sleeved 8-31 met up with my sister and a friend she brought along last night and he made fun of me about not being able to eat much. Kinda hurt my feeling, kinda blew it off and kept making conversation with others to avoid the comments. NOT sure what I would have done if on an actual date and comments were made, so now I skeptical about dating.
On 11/5/2021 at 7:25 AM, txredbird said:

Wasn't sure how to set profile pics lol .pending-1636719916-Screenshot_20211105-072226_Facebook~2.jpg

Beautiful pic!

That guy sounds like someone not worth your time. There are plenty of compassionate people out there looking for kindness too.

I'm just 5 weeks post op and dating in general is an unkind world. If I was on a date with someone who made a comment like that, I'd reply by asking how they overcame one of their life's biggest battles and if it was easy for them? If I felt uncomfortable enough, I may just tell them this wouldn't work out and excuse myself. You're not there to please and bend to them. You're your own person and trying to find your significant other who cares about you. Maybe they apologize, maybe they don't.

I hope this helps. It's easier giving advice than listening to my own so I totally understand how you feel and you're not alone. I'm trying to remind myself I'm not in a hurry. Good luck!

Join the conversation

You can post as a guest; create a free account to track replies, follow topics, and be part of the largest weight loss surgery community.

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

Account

Navigation

Search

Search

Configure browser push notifications

Chrome (Android)
  1. Tap the lock icon next to the address bar.
  2. Tap Permissions → Notifications.
  3. Adjust your preference.
Chrome (Desktop)
  1. Click the padlock icon in the address bar.
  2. Select Site settings.
  3. Find Notifications and adjust your preference.