TakingABreak

I cope by cleaning and organizing. My house has NEVER EVER been THIS clean EVER. I've never been a big gym person, but I don't mind getting elbow deep in my bathtub with some scrubbing bubbles. And I feel like I bust a sweat the same way as I do at the gym LOL.

My husband is fairly skinny. He eats better now as a result of me cooking and shopping better, but still indulges in his junk food. Even though he doesn't need to lose weight, he's commented about how he hates to eat in front of me because it makes him feel like a "pig" (his words not mine). I've found that he doesn't get up for seconds at dinner time, rather he warms up those seconds after I go to bed. It's like he is ashamed or something. I've tried to reassure him, but I know it will take time for him to adjust, just like it has taken time for me.

I can feel your frustration. It took almost 90ish pounds for my coworkers to start commenting. Now, my clients have really started to notice, but again 125lbs down now...

I had the same fears. Obviously the restriction is a great tool, but I feared I wouldn't have a great success with WLS. But ultimately, I decided that this was my final option to try. I knew it would be a life long commitment and I was ready. I do believe you get as much out of this as you put in.

1 week, 1 month, 3 months (blood work), 6 months, 9 months (blood work), and 12 months. After that it is yearly from there.

I agree with this statement. I think WLS should be the last alternative after you've exhausted your other options. And my program required a very detailed history of every diet, drug, supplementation you've ever tried prior to the consultation spanning back 10 years. However, its the best decision I've ever done and wished I would have done it years ago. I yo-yo'd for nearly 15 years but I was still always overweight. I feel like I lost that time.

I have the same thing. it reminds me of when you have a piercing and there is a hard bump as well. I think it's built up scar tissue. You might not be far enough out though for us to be talking about the same thing. Either way, I'd say its probably internal sutures and/or inflammation. I wouldn't put too much worry or pressure on those spots though.

My gas is bad in the evenings because I hold it all day. There is a buildup and I notice relief when I am able to freely expel it. My point is that its not uncontrollable.

Any stress or trauma to the body can cause changes in your cycle. It might be a blessing to not have to deal with it until you are feeling better. Be prepared that the intensity may be higher and it could be longer than normal. This only happened for the first 2 periods after surgery. Now mine are normal.

Good luck & Best wishes!! Happy you've reached your goal and ready to move on!

This website has some great seasoning ideas! https://www.thisgrandmaisfun.com/roasted-chickpeas-recipe/ But it seems like different recipes roast them differently. I personally just rinse them off, let them air dry for a few minutes, put them on a parchment paper, use spray olive oil to coat, season them, and shake the pan every 10 minutes while in the oven. I usually bake them at 400 degrees for approx. an hour. You will find if you like them crispier or not. Greek "No Pasta" Salad Dressing- 2 tbsp. lemon juice 2 tbsp. red wine vinegar 1/4 cup of olive oil 1/4 tsp oregano 1/4 tsp Greek Seasoning (I bought this from Walmart) Veggies- Cherry Tomatoes (halved or 4ths) Sliced Kalamata olives Chic peas Cucumber Edamame Red Onion Feta Cheese

I make a really nice "Greek No Pasta Salad" with chic peas all the time. They are super filling and I do feel like it keeps me regular. I also put them in salads, and I roast them in different flavors for a crunchy snack.

I ran a low grade fever for nearly a week after surgery. I just assume it was my body’s reaction to the surgery and trying to heal. Just stay hydrated. You can take a cool shower, ice packs on the back of your neck, chew on ice.

I do believe that the 2-5oz is for meals. For me it included protein shakes, Kiefer, bone broth, jello, ect. I set a timer though for my fluids until it became a habit. Fluids would include water, caffeine free tea, crystal light, ect. I sipped my drink every 3-5mins. I suppose you could drink 2-5oz every 15 mins if you wanted. I found it easier to sip more frequently.

A lot of people had luck with making “snow cone” ice to chew on. I personally bought a bag of Sonics nugget ice to chew on. It helped a lot.

Of course there is still stomach acid ?. It’s the amount that is different after surgery. I always recommend checking first.

I use liquid stevia a lot in my tea. I like it a lot better than the granular kind, it mixes much better. I like the taste a lot better than Splenda.

Girl! You are brave for sharing that story, but have come so far! I’m so proud of you and he didn’t deserve you at your worst, def not at your best! He was sexually attracted to you, so it sounds like he was more insecure of what people thought of him than anything else. Screw people like that. Be proud of what you love.

I think you know where the problems lie. You need to recommit to the process so you don't end up like your mother. It's not too late, you haven't started allover. You can refocus and get back to the basics. 1. Eat your lean protein first, then if room, have non-starchy veggies. 2. Don't eat or drink for 30 mins before and after a meal. 3. Make sure you are drinking calorie free liquids. 64oz per day. 4. Exercising, walking is good, for 30 minutes per day. 5. Cut out any added sugars that have slipped back in. 6. Track all food that you put in your mouth. 7. Perhaps, meet with your former NUT or see a new one. 8. Have a conversation with your family about your commitment to eating healthy again. I think you know what to do. Its just a matter of getting back with the program. Good luck dear, I hope you recommit and make your goal.

I think your feelings warrant a more in depth and serious conversation with your husband about his wants and desires. My husband likes red heads, but that doesn't mean he wants me to dye my hair red. Which obviously a boob job would be a lot more expensive, invasive, and permanent than hair dye. I understand how it's hard to feel confident when you don't match up to the type of women he's commenting on. It also seems like there is some additional insecurities if you are letting this paranoia consume you to the point where you feel like you are "losing your relationship". I hope you can work these issues out in a quick and healthy manor. Remember, its not uncommon for WLS patients to have body image issues after surgery. If this is the case, then you might want to seek some therapy. Good luck dear, Xo

Your welcome :) That's what we are here for!

I weigh myself most mornings. Always in my nightgown and undies. If I see something funky with the scale, like saying I gained, when I know that's impossible, I stay off for a couple days. I also don't weigh the entire week of my lady friend.

Check with your surgeon's office. I don't even trust my NUT with those kinds of questions. NUTs are trained in general nutrition, but don't always have the best concept of our anatomy after surgery. I've just heard more people say that they aren't allowed, than those who say they are. It makes sense too, with the amount of stomach acid to break down a gummy, we just don't have that.

WOW! Just wow! You look great! Such an inspiration.

I could send you some to try?! If you think they would hold up OK in the mail?