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Don't set expectations on weight loss and time losing. You will only set yourself up for misery. The thing you want to mentally prepare for is the "pain". No I don't mean the physical discomfort, that is a different level for everyone. I mean the mental anguish that you will inevitably go through. Unreasonable crying and emotional outburst are completely normal and very common. Be prepared to be very difficult to be around. Have your husband prepare to take the brunt of your attacks. Let him know what to say before it happens. We men are generally "fixers" and don't quite get the need to just say something without wanting to fix it.
All that being said, you will lose a lot the first month. Then you will stall. Then you will think something is wrong because you are basically starving and working your @ss off but nothing is happening, etc... And it will be slow for you since you are only 210 SW. You are going to have to think of this as a long term process. You just won't get the instant gratification we all say we aren't expecting but deep down we just know that there is a greek god(dess) hiding under our fat.

As I'm counting down to my date, Nov 14, I'm passing time reading all of these wonderful posts! Pre-Op diet starts on the 1st. What's the average weight loss and how long will you continue to loose ...avg starting weight 210 and 5'2'

Hi All,
Nice to meet you, I'm Wika, 28 y.o!
It is probably uncommon for asian, especially in my country to do VSG. I have always been heavy since I was a kid and bullied because of it (mainly from elementary to high school). My self esteem was so low that I could not even love myself. Last year I have finally decided and told my parents to get the surgery done no matter what. I hate not being able to love myself and the social pressure around me was so high. I gotta admit that the reason I did my surgery is 80% because I don't want to be called fat anymore by my peers (and family), because it hurt me. My parents allowed the surgery and paid for it (phew! glad!) and it is probably the best decision ever in my life.
I feel healthier and lighter. I no longer lose my breath when I walk down the street, I feel energetic more than ever and it definitely boosts my confidence! I feel better, happier, and healthier. I start to open myself to other people, getting to know them (and go on several dates hahaha) unlike before. I love sports more than ever and in fact I spent most of my free time at the gym now. My original weight was 97,5kg and before the surgery it was 95,5kg, now I am between 60-61kg. I am 168cm, originally size 20 for tops and bottoms, now I am size 8 (and it is still considered big in Asia).
I still want to go down a bit more, till I am 55kg, but it's a little hard to hit that weight (due to snacking hahaha). Nonetheless, I am a happier me now and I can call it a success!! Regardless the reasons for VSG, it is important for you to be a better you and remember that VSG is only a tool, not the solution.

Hahahahahahaa OMG that sh*t is funny as sh*t....and ewwww so ga-rossssss

My GP misdiagnosed me with “epigastric abdominal pain” essentially blowing me off for five months. Granted it was “only” recurring pain in my stomach, it was chronic, not really worsening in pain. I kind of figured I was overdoing it on the Advil. Then one night the BF and I were sharing a banana split and on my second bite I keeled over in the most intense pain. We drove to the ER and I got down on my knees and thrust my stomach into the edge of the seat of the plastic chair- it was embarrassing as frick but it was the pressure on my stomach that relieved any pain. They gave me a shot of morphine and I barfed all over the poor ultrasound tech. And she knew exactly what it was before she even saw the stones. The next morning the pain was gone and they figured one was stuck in the duct. Took it out that evening and to this day my body cannot make up its mind whether it wants to tolerate dairy or not- some days it constipates me, others I immediately get the trots. I definitely agree about going to the doctor to check it out, from my experience gall bladder issues manifest over a period of time but can also be mistaken as something as innocuous as simple stomach irritation from whatever....Let’s hope that’s all it is with you!!! Feel better!

My GP misdiagnosed me with “epigastric abdominal pain” essentially blowing me off for five months. Granted it was “only” recurring pain in my stomach, it was chronic, not really worsening in pain. I kind of figured I was overdoing it on the Advil. Then one night the BF and I were sharing a banana split and on my second bite I keeled over in the most intense pain. We drove to the ER and I got down on my knees and thrust my stomach into the edge of the seat of the plastic chair- it was embarrassing as frick but it was the pressure on my stomach that relieved any pain. They gave me a shot of morphine and I barfed all over the poor ultrasound tech. And she knew exactly what it was before she even saw the stones. The next morning the pain was gone and they figured one was stuck in the duct. Took it out that evening and to this day my body cannot make up its mind whether it wants to tolerate dairy or not- some days it constipates me, others I immediately get the trots. I definitely agree about going to the doctor to check it out, from my experience gall bladder issues manifest over a period of time but can also be mistaken as something as innocuous as simple stomach irritation from whatever....Let’s hope that’s all it is with you!!! Feel better!

Hahahahahahaa OMG that sh*t is funny as sh*t....and ewwww so ga-rossssss

Hahahahahahaa OMG that sh*t is funny as sh*t....and ewwww so ga-rossssss

Hmm wait.....I got some
I hope you don't have to drink the barium stuff for your post-op swallow test - it's worse than man-spunk after an all night binge on Jagermeister and asparagus. Bleech.....
And then learning to sip Water so it doesn't feel like aquarium rocks going down!!! WTH - hurts so bad......

MissT_SR I am so very sorry for your loss and your changes. I have friends out your way that have now been misplaced due to the fires and it is a heartbreaking life change. I know right now it doesn't look or feel like there is an end in sight, but there will be. And, you will find a place ........a new area to "call yours".

all I can say is My Spiritual Healer is Great and I'm thankful for my tool .I did the work my tool just helps me and remind me to be f**king great ! Kayla
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I'm supposed to start purée next week too. I have a doctors appt on Fri and I'm hoping he'll let me start then. My stomach has been good. He told me previously not to eat baby food because it is mostly carbs. He was talking about purring egg/chicken/tuna salad.

Been a week for me also. Feeling great but trapped at home; can't drive until follow up on Fri. You're doing great! I'm only down 8 pounds this week. Finally had a bowel movement today. I was starting to think I never would. I'm tolerating full liquids well. Some cramping here and there.

Stay as long as you need to (or as long as your insurance policy or wallet will let you.
Don't be in a rush to leave. 99% of people are better served by being in the hospital where all the support is.

Sorry for the length
My weight was 254 I got down to 140 in six months. Never compare the speed of your weight loss with anyones. body physiology is unique to each of us. It will mess with your head comparing. It's not how fast. It's the fact you are losing.
My lowest weight after my first year was 125. I maintained in the 130s for two years. My third year I'm 140's and I'm back in weightloss mode to get it down to where I'm comfortable.
I believe a few things that made my weightloss fast: (my disclaimer - I'm not saying do as I do. We all have our own goals)
Motivation: My heart had stopped in the emergency room. The doctors brought me back. Nothing like a health crisis to make you change. Perspective: Before surgery my mother and father in law passed away from cancer. Anyone in hospice care with months to live would give anything to trade us with our weight loss struggles. Third month I stalled. I had to be honest with myself and reevaluate what I was doing. I had slacked off on my activity. I sold my treadmill that I had at home (it had become a place that I hung my clothing) I bought a gym membership with that money. Exercise:My couch potato ways got me to be morbidly obese. My surgeons office contract that I signed said I will commit to exercise. He wanted an hour a day. I could only walk a half hour.
At the start of WLS I wanted to run the race for the cure 5K in memory of my mother. Third month stall sold my treadmill and went to the gym. I stopped wallowing in my pity party and got to work. (my struggle with exercise was nothing compared to her battle with cancer)
The gym replaced my stress and emotional eating. It's where I go to process my mental stuff. It's where I learned to forgive myself for many things. It helped me deal with the grief of losing my mother.
My gym became my new addiction. I worked out 5 to 7 days a week. First hour cardio..Mostly elliptical machine ( easier on my knees) Second hour weight lifting.
I completed that 5K for my mother...I'm in my third year and completed my first marathon.

Don't take anything for granted! Make no apology for living an amazing life!

3 hrs till check in! Getting my daughter off to school then heading to the hospital. The day is finally here!!!

I’m waiting to be called back also!!! Best wishes. You’re going to do awesome. Keep us posted!

Im thinking of asking the doc to place a few staples in my forehead...gotta complete the look !!

This right here!

"I made a personal choice to follow the program because my own "program" obviously failed me before."

That's going to be my philosophy!




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Alright everyone, here we go again! Please be patient with my updates on the spreadsheet as I have a lot going on.
This challenge will run from August 25, 2017 to October 20, 2017. This will give us a total of 9 weigh ins. I will do my best to post to the spreadsheet within 1 - 2 day of receiving your weight but I am going to be in 5 classes and working 2 jobs so if it takes me a few extra days I am sorry but I WILL have it updated as soon as possible!! Please note that I will recalculate the figures as soon as I can following the Friday weigh in - so your weight percentages may be a little off...
I have made these Friday weigh ins because that will allow us to start as soon as possible. You may post your weight at anytime during the week if Friday is not your weigh in day!

This challenge is for everyone. If you are pre op, post op, in maintenance or looking for some accountability; this challenge is for you! The rules and link to the spreadsheet are below!

Procedures:
Please Post Your Starting Weight (Weight on or around August 25th) and Goal Weight (what you would like to weigh at the end of the challenge) at the start of the challenge on August 25, 2017. Remember this goal weight is only for the end of the challenge, not your ending goal weight!!
You can cut/paste this below and fill it in on your post -

Goal Weight:
Current Weight:
Today's Date:

Rules:
1. I will be awarding a prize to 2 lucky participants! The winners will be selected at random an the only thing you need to do to be eligible for the drawing is log your weight each week!
2. Post your weight on this thread every Friday. Specifically 8/25, 9/1, 9/8, 9/15, 9/22, 9/29, 10/6, 10/13, and 10/20
3. If you change your screen name please let me know.
4. If you miss 2 or more weigh ins, I will assume you no longer want to participate and your name will be removed from the spreadsheet.
5. If you miss a weigh in on Friday, no problem. Just post it asap.
6. We are all here to support each other, if you post a question anyone can answer.
7. You will know your weight is updated on the spreadsheet once I've liked your post!

The link to the spreadsheet is below! Have fun, and good luck with this challenge!!!
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1jMtg8eT3g6JIsbB5YZ-_C_P34stfGqB0G_pmefEhA1U/edit?usp=sharing
Remember we are all here to support each other! I look forward to running another challenge with you!

I'd really recommend NOT doing that. It's all things you don't need at a stage it will be hard enough to fit it what you DO need. I had the same issues first Christmas and just have this to say.... there will always be more holidays, more chances to eat those foods. This reset happens ONCE. Make the most of it.

Gahhhh! Beyond excited and proud of myself !

I believe you hit it on the nail head! So beautifully written. I too, am waiting for the real me again. It's going to be great to shed this emotional piece off.
You look great!

Wow!!! And yes. I feel like that too. I am underneath there somewhere.
Brava lady, I can see you.

Today I had an "ah-ha" moment. It took 4 years, but I think I get it! It was triggered by this before photo popping up in my Facebook memories from 5 years ago, (coupled with my most recent post-op photo taken last week, down 120 pounds since surgery in 2013). (attached below)
....And then reading the following quote on a friend's post:
"Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's about unbecoming everything that isn't you so you can be who you were in the first place."
I've struggled for years since losing the weight after surgery with questions of "is this the 'real' me, or am I just pretending and the 'real' 'fat' me will resurface sooner or later?" "Can people really change long-term?" It felt like the obese, sad, self-hating "me" was a monster waiting just below the surface to re-emerge. Give enough time and the right circumstances, the "real me" monster will rear it's head and I'll find myself back at nearly 300 pounds.
Guys! I get it now! It's not about change. It's not about the "sticking power" of change. It's not about willpower or determination. It's not even about counting carbs, Protein, calories, and ounces of Water. Sure those are tools that help. But it's not about that.
It's about doing the hard emotional work to figure out why I was hiding myself behind 150 excess pounds. It was about allowing myself to have a voice and using it. It was about demanding self-respect and respect from others. It was about leaving behind, painfully as it was in some cases, the toxic people in my life who emotionally damaged me. It was about processing the feelings that I didn't allow myself to feel for 18 years.
Once I realized this, once I did this work, I could little by little shed the layers that hid who I was. I don't hate myself anymore. I'm not even angry at myself for letting myself get to be 300 pounds like I was when my journey started. I realize now that I was coping. I was doing the best I knew how to do at the time. I look at that person in the "before" picture below and I feel compassion because I know she did her best.
I'm able now to let go the "fear" - and trust me, it's a literal fear - of that "real me" monster re-emerging from just below the surface. I can let it go because I realize, this is the real me. It was actually opposite. It was all the hiding I was doing under the emotional eating and the 150 excess pounds that was hiding the "real me."
So I have to on some level disagree with those who say this is a process of change. Sure, you have to change your behavioral choices with food and exercise or none of this will work. But for me it was not "becoming a new person" or "changing" who I am as a person. For me it was about simply allowing myself to feel and allowing myself to return home to who I was before I was hurt and who the universe intends me to be.
Feel free to check out my blog linked in my signature for more of my journey!