FunkyMunkyBrat

@@FunkyMunkyBrat well aren't you special lol.
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Such a huge difference in 5 years!!! I went from 293 my highest weight in 2011 to currently being 4 lbs away from what I weighed in 12th grade at 248 (I was always plump Lol). It's amazing what changes you'll make when you finally accept who you are!!!

Dawnie_doo

Hi all,
I feel like the vets are frustrated but maybe need to go back to the days pre surgery and post surgery, some of us are ultra prepared and others seemingly go in blind which seems crazy tome but i am not them so i will not judge harshly. Ill just say gee i would not have done that.
Maybe if the vets are all getting so pissy about the repeat posts they should just stop reading them all and maybe take a break from them as i do not think whining and berating people will stop them from being "unprepared, not thoughtful in their questions, ill prepared" ect.
i feel like this is a journey for ALL of us and this is a place to talk freely and ask questions (as stupid as theymay seem to others) this place is a virtual meeting house for a diverse group of humans that will come from all walks of life and all IQ levels.
These are my thoughts as i enter day 5 post op and as i sit here thankful for the help vets and newbies have offered me on this forum. I hope you all have a wonderful stress free day <3
Nin

Wow, people this forum had me in tears after reading all the posts. I am new here and i can understand that you guys are frustrated with people getting the surgery and still asking about bad foods. I seen a post yesterday where someone educated another on it, and i thought to my self this is where i need to be. I was so grateful that i came across this site it was just what i was looking for. Somewhere i could ask all my questions and not be judged for being super morbidly obese. As i explained in one of my first post i am not that savvy when it comes to social media had not been able to figure out what is what heck just a few min. before reading this forum i found the the rules of posting, but i was not going to let that stop me since i had finally found some people to help me. I come from a small small town i have to travel to see my surgeon and anyone else that is going through the same thing i will be going through. I am very shy and have so much trouble making friends due to the weight and because i have no room for face book in life it is like i have nothing to offer. i'm sure some of you old timers can remember what that was like or can you? It seems to me that some of you have forgotten what it was like to be the newbie. Good for those that did the research before asking questions i did that research too but i thought by asking questions it would open up some type of conversation but yall are to tired for that. I seen earlier a post from someone who quit because they felt they were being attacked now i can see why they felt that way i asked one of the no no questions and got some burn back from someone. I was still okay with it brushed it off. However now i see that some of those that answered me are on this same forum one thank you for taking the time out of your wonderful to busy lives to deal with newbies to grace me with an answer. Sorry i bothered yall. I pray never to be at the same level as yall, and god grant me the patience to help those that need me. I hope you guys continue to lose and be happy. As for me ill keep my log in only for the store but ill seek advice somewhere else.

I think that it might not be obvious to people reading this thread that it's in the "Rants and Raves" section. I know sometimes on my phone I don't see what section the thread is from.

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Thank you!! It's hard to take the chance and tell people because it's hard to get negativity from the people that think you are 'just taking the easy way' or whatever. I feel like my biggest response has been "have you just tried (insert diet/workout)"
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This process is a serious education, but you've started. The one thing that bothers me is that you said you want to lose fast so that your Mom will stop making fun of you. One thing I'd suggest to your thinking is that you not make this about external factors. It's time to really do some soul-searching and figure out what has led you to this point, where you are going to pursue weight loss surgery...and to realize that you aren't doing this for anyone but yourself. It will be you that must brave the surgery, you who must undertake the recovery, and you who must modify their thoughts and behaviors to achieve the success you're looking for. Nobody is going to do any of it but you. And be prepared for the fact that you may discover you have some serious resentment toward your mom, when she starts treating you differently after you lose weight. Or anyone else in your life, for that matter. You're going to go through massive changes and people in your life won't necessarily fit "the new you" anymore. A lot of the success stories on this site and elsewhere attest to that fact.
But if you make this choice, make it for yourself...and do the psychological part, because it's the most important. You need to really be dedicated to lifelong change. Good things will come, in time. But it's a fight.
Also, you'll find that you get a lot more educated about nutrition, through this process. Your question about the Protein shakes? The answer is simple: Any diet in which you consume fewer calories than you burn every day is going to help you lose weight, and the greater the gap between how much you consume and how much you burn makes that weight loss speed up. But it may not be the healthiest way to do it. Your body has requirements that need to be met, in order to stay healthy and function optimally.
I expect that your surgeon has a nutritionist and a program that you'll go through that will get you up to speed on everything. Go to them, and really invest in the process...so that by the time you reach your surgery date, you will be a "subject matter expert" on your nutrition and how to succeed
It's time to cast off the old you and look forward to the new one, and that's more mental than physical. Good luck!

Ha! Mines extensive, I'll wait till I'm sitting in front of my laptop instead of on my phone LoLbs Munky

I just went back through every single post you've made and honestly I haven't really seen anything too bad.. The last one or 2 post was possibly borderline.. And you seemed a little bit over sensitive.. Emotions maybe? I know I can be that way.. And it's not uncommon pre or post surgery because of little to know carbs.. It can make you get roller coaster emotions.. Just take a deep breath.. Try to ignore what you don't like and continue appreciate all the help you did and will get Munky

YES PLEASE!
Munky

Saw the most idiotic guy on a date tonight. I just wanted to smack the young twit. He thought he was being thoughtful asking his date what she wanted, where to go. He was peppering her with questions, trying to be sensitive to her feelings. What an idiot, bless his heart.
Always remember, women use both sides of their brains all the time. This means they are not only wondering what might taste good but how you feel about what she suggests and then she'll start thinking about how her friends will react on where they went yadayada.
I'll slap you if you say that's dumb...it is just the way women are wired. That's why they can make everything beautiful when they are feeling safe and inspired. A date is the one time she can relax a little. Make the reservations. Get a baby sitter if you have kids. Just do it. It doesn't have to be extravagant, ubber thoughtful, just take care of everything so she can relax a little.
Little things mean everything to her. This does not mean unilaterally clean out the savings account to buy a boat. It means in these little things, just take care of it. It means everything to her just to be able to relax for a few hours every now and then.
So take a lesson from "Mr. Sensitive" idiot. Just take care of it. If you don't she will be tired when the evening is done and that kind of defeats the purpose. You want her to be relaxed and energized. (Yeah, wink, wink, woo hoo - trust me)
NOTE: If she objects to your decision, its for a reason she can't articulate, don't argue. So plan B's are a good thing to have too.
I can't believe it took me almost 50 years to really figure this out, but ever since I have taken this approach in dating, I have observed how the women in my life just relax and can be themselves. Test it out. Look into their eyes. You will see the narrow focus loosen up, their smiles will show in their eyes. The eyes sparkle. I hope you can see that deep joy in their soul. For most women, being taken care of is so different from everything else in their lives they absolutely love it and they have no idea why. Here's why...they finally feel safe and cared for. Occasionally be extravagant, but 99% of the time, little things mean everything.

Ha! Mines extensive, I'll wait till I'm sitting in front of my laptop instead of on my phone LoLbs Munky

Well, the surgeon had to make the decision to switch me from Roux-en-y to vertical sleeve gastrectomy, but the surgery was done successfully yesterday and I'm at home recouperating now. Still trying to get rid of the last of the very uncomfortable gas, but I feel okay. Not very interested in putting anything in my stomach right now, but I'm trying to get fluids and Protein Shakes down...it's just VERY slow going. I get at most maybe 2oz done per hour right now. As the gas pain and general discomfort subside, I'm sure it'll get easier. Unfortunately, apparently the mesh that a prior surgeon used to repair an umbilical hernia was the wrong type, and resulted in my intestines scarring into the mesh such that he couldn't do anything without risking damage to my intestine, so he made the judgment call. I'm glad for that, I don't want complications if I can help it. It's just a bummer because that's what I've been feeding my brain with for over a year and I haven't really read up on VSG, though I imagine it's going to be much the same, behavior-wise.
Anyway, I'm glad to have it behind me and now I just want to make a full recovery and get on with this business of losing weight and getting fit.
On a side note, my pre-surgery weight was 351.2 - I lost over 35 pounds leading up to surgery. Not bad!

I'm just struggling giving her that benefit of doubt of being clueless.. Yet she's a boss.. I just feel like it was a very snarky thing to do.. I use to watch "My 600# Life" and seen a few husband's or family members act like that.. Munky

Although I don't know anything about your boss, that was a shitty thing to do anyway you look at it (save the and give them back to her with a thank you card) is she possibly a little heavy and maybe feeling a little.. Jealous?
Munky

i would call my surgeon's office and let them know.

hehe I was just going to ask the opposite. Is she naturally skinny? Only reason I was going to ask is all the naturally skinny people I know eat everything and anything, just in moderation. My sister in law is super thin, and she lives on candy (literally). I don't think I've ever seen her eat anything that doesn't have sugar in it. Sugar high all the time lol. So if she is, perhaps, she is truly clueless.

I think your best bet is to go with a gluten free "noodle" and/or spaghetti squash.. Or make zoodles.. Part of this is learning new ways so we don't end up right back where we were.. Munky

Thank you so much. I just kinda had a moment there. I keep worrying that I will bed denied by one of these millions of tests. Then you get a call like that. Instant stress. Much better now. Sent from my LGLS992 using the BariatricPal App

My first Friday lunch with the boys and hit a local bar in downtown WPB called Duffy's. 2 weeks and 1 day post op i'm souped out and ready for purees. Ended up ordering a black bean burger with an avocado and sliced tomatoes and a side of cilantro lime sauce. Burger was mushy enough that I mixed it all together with the avocado and tomatoes making more or less a half ass puree. Ended up eating about half with no bread. I didn't feel full but didn't want to push it. Walked a mile there and a mile back, now I'm ready for the other half.
Two lessons learned......1. Eating out is gonna get expensive for the quantity I'm eating and 2. Always grab a doggy bag to make the most out of the meals.

Wow. Really?? She is either clueless or snarky. Maybe she is a smidgon envious of how you eventually look and feel. Let's hope ffor clueless. Anyway, just think of how great you feel when you start going into work looking and feeling even better than her.

I can't believe how lucky I was. I see all these posts about extreme pain. I was hitting the morphine button pretty much every time I remembered it was there the day of surgery but I really don't remember any pain. Never had any of the gas issues. The worst part was no liquids. Surgeon said no liquids for 24 hours after surgery and I already been with no liquids for 12 hours prior.
Day 2 I was taking liquid Vicodin but only had two doses. I was only able to get a few steps at a time but food was going down okay.
Day three, there was that was really bad nausea and I had to take three different types of anti nausea medicine to get under control but that was it. I had one dose of liquid Vicodin in anticipation of a long car ride and a half a Vicodin when I got home but nothing since.One of the posters who was sleeve that pretty much the exact same time I was still needs Tramadol and Oxycodone to sleep. I do have problems with pressure in my chest when eating and often all day but nothing to the level of true pain. I've got to pray to the gods of weight loss surgery for sparing me some of the stuff that you guys are going through. You have my sympathies.
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@@Mnicole, I had my surgery Tuesday early am I was in ssssoooo much pain from the air in my body. My BP was extremely high hadn't been able to sleep or anything. I felt like I would take 1 step forward and 2 steps back. I put 2. & 2 together and believe it or not the morphine was contributing to the gas pain. I say this because when I finally was able to pass gas I had some relief, so I went gung ho on increasing my walking. Started feeling good then I would push the morphine button and BAM right back to day 1. I finally said to myself let's try a test. I asked them to take me off morphine pump. So they did, but then they continued to inject every 4 hrs the morphine. I then stopped that and asked them for something totally different. They gave me narco. But then that you can only get every 4 hrs. So of course after about 2 hrs I was in pain again. I had them call my surgeon and see if I could go back on certain meds I took on a daily basis, of course they just said, we are going to discharge you. This was at 11pm. Anyway I got home, crushed my meds and had some narco and tramadol here so I alternated every 1.5 hrs. And then was able to take my xanax and seroquel. I slept all night except to go to the bathroom. I now felt very stiff. I didn't crush any pain pills in the middle of the night but I did 1st thing in the am. My husband came home and couldn't believe the improvement I made since discharge. If you don't feel the meds are working talk to somebody about switching them. I know for a fact the morphine was not the best choice after 12 hrs post op. It's your body and only you can know what is working for you. I only explained this long winded story because ppl need to speak up during their recovery. We are not all the same.... keep me posted on your outcome
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@@Havasumoma It's not unsual - don't panic. It may just mean you'll need to do a stress test.