BlueEyed4u

I remember being pre-op and my favorite thing to do was look at progress photos and dream
I am 6 months, 10 days post op and I am down 128 pounds total. This isnt a very great pic since I have been sick, but i still took it because anything is better than my before!!

I love seeing the progress people have made after surgery. So for those comfortable enough to share them I'd love to see your before and after (and even progress) pics. I haven't had surgery yet (and wont for at least another 3mths) so I don't have any to post but I still like seeing what I have to look forward to. The pic below is me at my highest of 316lbs 2hrs after my son was born.

I plan on taking 4-6 weeks off. I work in a factory lifting up to 50lbs daily and very fast paced. A lot of bending down.
I also plan on taking off the of work for the pre-op liquid diet since I have to drink a shake every 2-3 hours. At work I can't do that.

This was something I was thinking of as well. I have booked off a week and a half but would like to go back after a week if I'm feeling up to it. Good to know that might be a possibility!

Thanks Orlando and swizzle, i work as a nurse manager so not so much on the floor but just wanted to be sure I'll be ready physically & mentally to go back though I don't want to use up all my vacation time.
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Im only half way to goal, but thought I would post some images... first is when I went to the seminar and was starting my own weight loss plan, second is the day I went in for surgery (looking like death warmed over... must have been 4:30 in the morning), and the third is today, just after 12 weeks and half way to goal.

This is my before photo

This is me 3 1/2 months out.....yay!!!!

This is still 3 1/2 months out, but look at my face!!!! yay!!!!

Your before and after photos are amazing! They are a ton of inspiration and you look absolutely gorgeous. :-)

Before:



Progress (during)



After (now)

Here's my currents:
   
And my Befores:

Highes Ever / Around 300 Lbs / and just Pre Sleeve

  

Hi Stacy,
I am just over half way there and I use my before and after pics to keep me motivated, especially when I am in a stall ... I am real slow loser but I am losing...
Here goes, hopes this helps...
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this was the day I went in to hospital 2nd July 2010

this was the end of June 10

last week

side view!!

this is this week at 32 weeks post op, my most recent pic
Like I said, I still have a fair bit to go, but when I look back and am pleased with the progress so far... I look forward to sharing goal pics!!

"Cheating" on what exactly? You're being cheated every single day of the life and health you want by doing what you've done before. It's a procedure that's going to make things better for your future. We've been part of the 95% of overweight people who can't lose weight without surgery. So, there's nothing wrong with taking the opportunity that the medical field has given us. If losing weight was easy....nobody would be overweight. Just know that I'm so excited for you, and there's lots more of us here that are really rooting for you!!!

Scoop of a vanilla powder, some milk, some instant coffee, and some ice. Tastes like a frappucino
Scoop of chocolate Protein, some milk, half a frozen banana, spoonful of Peanut Butter
Scoop of chocolate Protein, milk, handul of frozen berries
Scoop of vanilla protein, milk frozen mango or pineapple

I agree. That's like saying he should leave her because she had the surgery. She was one way when they met and decided on a change what if he preferred her the way she was? Then people would have all kind of stuff to say about that. Maybe my interpretation of marriage is different. I sure wouldn't want anyone telling my husband to leave me for having surgery. Why tell someone to leave because they won't have it? For better or for worse when I gained my husband didn't leave me.. I thank God for that. I don't think he should continue on the road he's on, but that's what for better or worse means.. Help him the best way you can. Don't give up a marriage because he's not making the decision you want him to make.

Unfortunately, he has to make the decision for himself. You can tell him you're concerned about his health, and that the lack of sex in your marriage is a big problem for you. You can refuse to enable him (don't bring anything unhealthy into the house, when you cook, only make enough for reasonable portions, don't go out to eat with him, etc). You need to do what you need to do to be healthy. Encourage him to be healthy and make healthy choices instead of pushing surgery. Surgery is a deeply personal decision. There are significant risks involved, but huge potential benefits as well. Also, remember that he needs to be 100% committed to the necessary lifestyle changes, otherwise the surgery won't help.
I agree with the other posters who have recommended marriage counseling. If he won't go, go yourself. Some individual counseling would probably be good for you to help you work through your feelings.
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Almost seems like he is having a passive-aggressive reaction to your weight loss and new good health. I hope he figures it out for himself before he loses you and has a major health crisis.

being a man in the same sort of size etc as your husband i can say this, it took me 40 years to wake up and realize something had to change and i could not do it on my own. I would lose 30 pounds then Celebrate by going right back out and eating like i used to. then it would creep right back in. So many health problems including the sever obstructive sleep apnea and a lot worse, made me finally say it was time. It can be done, it is do able you can do this and have a life you can actually have a great amazingly fun life without eating to gain your fun. But unfortunately everyone is right , the more people tell you what to do the more you will resist and live in denial. If he ever says hed like to talk to a guy whos been there i can do so. or im sure others here would as well.
Good luck.

The other thing to remember is surgery is just the beginning. Even if he "caved in" and had surgery, he would still be responsible for following through with the lifestyle changes, just like you have. He has to want it for himself; no amount of love and encouragement from you can do it for him.

Take the weight out of the equation: Your husband is in poor health, unable to do things he once enjoyed, you're now in a sexless marriage, and he's in denial about a serious health issue that he is doing nothing to remedy.
Your husband is so deep in denial about his health, he's allowed it to make his world smaller and smaller, and at some point, he will withdraw from life so much that he abandons his family and his spouse. He's already begun this with the sex/intimacy - and it only gets worse from here on out.
He needs to change; but he is the only one that can make that happen.
I agree you both need marriage counseling, but he also might need the doctor flat out telling him that he is fooling himself right now, and without doing some DRASTIC changes regarding food/portion control and exercise, he will not only suffer and die early, but he will chase away the only people that truly love and care for him.
If it was me in this position, I would tell him that I love him, that I am willing to do whatever it took to help him, but if he makes no effort himself, I see that he doesn't love me, or himself, or our relationship enough to do the hard work necessary. Saying he's working on it and actually working are two different things. He's shown you that he'd rather stay the weight he is and blame everything around him (weak wood? Breaking a CAR seat? OMFG no that's serious denial) than make any real effort. He's given up on having sex with his spouse - that is physical and emotional abandonment right there... what is your line in the sand? At what point do you tell him "I love you, but this is not what I thought our life would be like and I'm not willing to accept this any more."
If he persists in this path after counseling and serious, blunt discussions on what you deserve in a marriage as well from your spouse don't wake him up, then he needs to walk the path he's chosen alone. I personally wouldn't be a party to the self destructive, fantasyland behavior he's participating in (and I am coming from a slightly similar background with a husband that had a serious health issue he was in denial about, that caused some marital issues, and came down to a serious "I love you, but we're looking at divorce if you don't make changes" discussion).
I am so sorry you're going through this. I hope somehow he can see the light and make the changes necessary to get healthy and become a true partner in your marriage, but you have to also take care of yourself. EVERYONE deserves to be in a relationship with a loving, happy partner that cares about the state of their relationship enough to make changes when possible. Yours is not, and it will slowly poison everything around you unless he changes or you leave.

Your surgical team including your nutritionist can better explain their specifics as no two centers are exactly alike. My 3 month pre-op process was a 13wk fitness program requiring me to work out at least 30 mins 3x wkly. I also had to meet with my nutritionist 4x over that course. My plan didn't require a specific diet other than to learning to cut out bad carbs and processed sugars. I also wasn't required to lose a specific amount of weight pre-op.

This is the key especially the patience part. I'll admit patience was not a virtue bestowed upon me and I'm having to teach myself to slow down on a daily basis.

I'm feeling lucky that I just have to follow a low calorie diet with my PCP. It seems ridiculous to expect someone who is struggling with food to be on a liquid diet for that long. I know I can stick with the plan my PCP outlined. It is nothing I haven't been successful at before. I'm just hoping not to do anything dumb. I love sweets and can still eat them and they are a constant temptation but I've been choosing to stay away even though I'm just restricted calories.

I am on month three of my supervised diet plan. I am currently working on getting more exercise in my daily routine. I am struggling with keeping my Water intake up and cutting out soda. Good luck to you as you begin your journey!

I just had my consult on Friday and am starting the 6 months supervised diet and questioning if I will be able to handle that without a complete breakdown! One week of high Protein low carbs and two weeks of liquid diet for 6 months. It seems nearly unreal to me to expect someone with food issues to do this but i am going to try.
I have never had any type of medical procedure beyond having a baby but at 47 and 5'6" 330 lbs it's time . I have PCOS and type 2 diabetes and I want my life back, but this whole process seems so overwhelming.

I go to my information session on the 27th. Sucks it's long wait iceberg waiting since December 16 just to go to the information session. I filled out all the paper work for the surgeon hopefully soon after the 27th I can start my 6 month pre-op diet and requirement appts.
Watch a lot of YouTube videos.. That's what I did.