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@@woo woo I agree, it's time to move on....however, I am financially not in a position right now to move out...I have surgery coming up in 24 days which requires my $2,000.00 deductable...but I'm thinking a few months after surgery when I am through the rough spots of post-op....just have to work around my car & motorcycle payments that I aquired after moving in...before I moved in...my other car was paid off, and my first motorcycle was paid off...silly me..traded both in for new...and the payments that come along with it...arggg.
I was reluctant to do this, because he knew eventually I was going to move out..but again..silly me..allowed him to talk me into it. He got a new truck and motorcycle as well.

Not sure if they test for nicotine, I also smoked for many years but I quit like 2 months ago, still using a vapor e cig..but zero nicotine fluids.
My surgery is also on the 24th, go for blood work and EKG on 11/7
P.S. - I got so mad about something today that I wanted one, I went out in the warehouse to ask the delivery guy for a cig, but he had already left, I guess I was saved.

Wow, That dress is BEAUTIFUL, I am so happy for you as I am sure your happy as well.
4 sizes in just 7 weeks YOU GO GIRL!!
I hope I can lose that much in 7 weeks, I will be on the happy bench with you...without the dress of course

You guys will get a kick out of this story: I met this guy about 5 years ago, we started off as friends which turned to friends with benefits, while all this was going on..he kept telling me we were just friends....well we did EVERYTHING together including 1.5 yrs later moving in with each other but it only lasted about a year when problems arose with his adult kids (that's another story) but I moved out...we didn't talk to each other for about 6 months I actually was so mad at him for the way things went down, but anyway.. from what I heard, he was miserable after I left but didn't hesitate to have sex with every female he could find, including with the 2 most hated women in my life.
We started talking again, and became "weekend" friends with benefits AGAIN, eventually I was asked to move back in...I hesitated but since I fell so head over heals for him the first time..I couldn't let go. Little did I know, when I moved in..the sex stopped...no kissing, no hugging...nada...so I asked him...um..whats up? He said living together is one thing...he didn't want things to get complicated by having sex since we are just friends. I was like in shock..now that I had given up my apartment to come to this?..I told him, had I known you were going to do this..I wouldn't have moved in...no response from that.
Anyway...I let it go..but we have been living together now a little over 2 years...we do EVERYTHING together, we sleep in the same bed..we go to family outings (both sides) together..he goes to the store and actually thinks of me...he buys me some of my favorite goodies I like....we actually have a friendship that is 100% similar to a marriage, everyone we know...introduces us as boyfriend & girlfriend and he doesn't correct them. .but yet to him..we are just best friends.
He is so supportive of my surgery....and knows that I am so excited about this...being thinner and healthier that I am afraid that when I do lose weight he might start getting closer to me..would I like that? sure since I love him so much..but why wont he admit that we actually have a relationship? Was it my weight preventing him from announcing to everyone he was in a relationship with a fat girl?...is he just a commitment phobe? Or will this be my chance to actually find someone else...who knows.
Kinda weird huh? would love to hear your thoughts on that icky situation!!

@@MichiganChic I want a chart like that....did you do that..or the Doc?
P.S. I haven't had surgery yet..but I will be in....35 Days!!

Although I am pre-surgery...thought this journey thus far I have done alot of reading and tried to keep up with the latest information the pro's and con's of the post-op.
Contrary to what some may think, most of the GoodWill Stores here actually have some decent clothing..some even new, and since the medical bills with co pays, and now a 2 grand deductable for my surgery...going out and spending alot of money "that I don't have" on a new wardrobe, I will just pick up some things at GoodWill to hold me over through fluxuations. I DID however, make a promise to myself that the first 40 pounds...I will get something new..as a reward...the next 20 pounds..again..I will again get something nice....20...20..20..and when I reach my ultimate Goal...I VOWED...I was going to have that Black Leather Jacket I have always wanted..but couldn't because they didn't make my size and if they did..it just wouldn't look the same....why a black leather jacket you ask??? Because I have a brand new Harley Davidson motorcycle that I wearing that jacket would look just amazing on.

Oh my goodness, I only have 12 days including the day of surgery off from work. I sure hope I will be able to go back..I have a sit down office job..but still..lot's of work to be done...and I need my job. Although my boss is very understanding...I still have to be there.

Perhaps the card was for you and the Oreo Cookie Ice Cream Vouchers were for your son....keep in mind, this is your journey..not your moms or your son's. I agree that it appears she is being a bit over the top..but perhaps your taking her spoiling your son a bit too much. First question you need to ask...has she always spoiled your son with these gifts? If not, then you absolutely correct in feeling the way you do...but if she has always spoiled him..then this is your cross to bare...she may not know the effects or emotions WLS participants go through and if she is not willing to educate or listen to them...you can't change that. You can only change you...you can't change other people.
Don't ruin your relationship with your mother because she doesn't understand what YOUR going through, nor do you understand why she is doing what she is doing...but is this all worth NOT having your mom in your life? You have asked her to stop, and perhaps when the two of you butt heads..it could of been something one of you said, or the way you said it that forced her to pack and go.
She may of left all these goodies in your house for your son...it is up to you..to overlook it...and be strong enough to say..."go ahead, put a piece of chocolate cake in my face, I am working on a healthier lifestyle and I CAN say NO"
So, the moral of my rambling is...."Just say NO" and keep the relationship with your mom, so that your son can have one with his granny, otherwise you are or could remove her from his life if the two of your can't be mature adults and basically ...get over it. This is your journey, not hers...so no matter what she does...keep saying that to yourself..this is YOUR journey..and if she doesn't want to be a part of it...so be it...you can't force her!!
Done rambling..sorry!!

ZUMBA It's fun, and you can really get a good work out in!!

Perhaps the card was for you and the Oreo Cookie Ice Cream Vouchers were for your son....keep in mind, this is your journey..not your moms or your son's. I agree that it appears she is being a bit over the top..but perhaps your taking her spoiling your son a bit too much. First question you need to ask...has she always spoiled your son with these gifts? If not, then you absolutely correct in feeling the way you do...but if she has always spoiled him..then this is your cross to bare...she may not know the effects or emotions WLS participants go through and if she is not willing to educate or listen to them...you can't change that. You can only change you...you can't change other people.
Don't ruin your relationship with your mother because she doesn't understand what YOUR going through, nor do you understand why she is doing what she is doing...but is this all worth NOT having your mom in your life? You have asked her to stop, and perhaps when the two of you butt heads..it could of been something one of you said, or the way you said it that forced her to pack and go.
She may of left all these goodies in your house for your son...it is up to you..to overlook it...and be strong enough to say..."go ahead, put a piece of chocolate cake in my face, I am working on a healthier lifestyle and I CAN say NO"
So, the moral of my rambling is...."Just say NO" and keep the relationship with your mom, so that your son can have one with his granny, otherwise you are or could remove her from his life if the two of your can't be mature adults and basically ...get over it. This is your journey, not hers...so no matter what she does...keep saying that to yourself..this is YOUR journey..and if she doesn't want to be a part of it...so be it...you can't force her!!
Done rambling..sorry!!

I have 12 days off from day of surgery, i planned it well with Thanksgiving Holiday..using my vacation time...I will have 1 week left but boyfriends parents gave us a 5 day cruise for Christmas..so I am saving my time for that.
I sure do hope and pray 12 days will be enough...I too, have an office job.

I love popsicles, but I found the cheap store brand has way too much artificial sweetener for me....I get the Popsicle brand and I can eat 3 or 4 halves in 1 sitting. Publix also carries the SF tropical flavored which is grape, pineapple and orange..the orange aren't bad..but I don't care for the other 2.

Oh my goodness, I only have 12 days including the day of surgery off from work. I sure hope I will be able to go back..I have a sit down office job..but still..lot's of work to be done...and I need my job. Although my boss is very understanding...I still have to be there.

Perhaps the card was for you and the Oreo Cookie Ice Cream Vouchers were for your son....keep in mind, this is your journey..not your moms or your son's. I agree that it appears she is being a bit over the top..but perhaps your taking her spoiling your son a bit too much. First question you need to ask...has she always spoiled your son with these gifts? If not, then you absolutely correct in feeling the way you do...but if she has always spoiled him..then this is your cross to bare...she may not know the effects or emotions WLS participants go through and if she is not willing to educate or listen to them...you can't change that. You can only change you...you can't change other people.
Don't ruin your relationship with your mother because she doesn't understand what YOUR going through, nor do you understand why she is doing what she is doing...but is this all worth NOT having your mom in your life? You have asked her to stop, and perhaps when the two of you butt heads..it could of been something one of you said, or the way you said it that forced her to pack and go.
She may of left all these goodies in your house for your son...it is up to you..to overlook it...and be strong enough to say..."go ahead, put a piece of chocolate cake in my face, I am working on a healthier lifestyle and I CAN say NO"
So, the moral of my rambling is...."Just say NO" and keep the relationship with your mom, so that your son can have one with his granny, otherwise you are or could remove her from his life if the two of your can't be mature adults and basically ...get over it. This is your journey, not hers...so no matter what she does...keep saying that to yourself..this is YOUR journey..and if she doesn't want to be a part of it...so be it...you can't force her!!
Done rambling..sorry!!

I was told by my doctors nurse practitioner that most obese individuals usually have hiatal hernias.

Perhaps the card was for you and the Oreo Cookie Ice Cream Vouchers were for your son....keep in mind, this is your journey..not your moms or your son's. I agree that it appears she is being a bit over the top..but perhaps your taking her spoiling your son a bit too much. First question you need to ask...has she always spoiled your son with these gifts? If not, then you absolutely correct in feeling the way you do...but if she has always spoiled him..then this is your cross to bare...she may not know the effects or emotions WLS participants go through and if she is not willing to educate or listen to them...you can't change that. You can only change you...you can't change other people.
Don't ruin your relationship with your mother because she doesn't understand what YOUR going through, nor do you understand why she is doing what she is doing...but is this all worth NOT having your mom in your life? You have asked her to stop, and perhaps when the two of you butt heads..it could of been something one of you said, or the way you said it that forced her to pack and go.
She may of left all these goodies in your house for your son...it is up to you..to overlook it...and be strong enough to say..."go ahead, put a piece of chocolate cake in my face, I am working on a healthier lifestyle and I CAN say NO"
So, the moral of my rambling is...."Just say NO" and keep the relationship with your mom, so that your son can have one with his granny, otherwise you are or could remove her from his life if the two of your can't be mature adults and basically ...get over it. This is your journey, not hers...so no matter what she does...keep saying that to yourself..this is YOUR journey..and if she doesn't want to be a part of it...so be it...you can't force her!!
Done rambling..sorry!!

Perhaps the card was for you and the Oreo Cookie Ice Cream Vouchers were for your son....keep in mind, this is your journey..not your moms or your son's. I agree that it appears she is being a bit over the top..but perhaps your taking her spoiling your son a bit too much. First question you need to ask...has she always spoiled your son with these gifts? If not, then you absolutely correct in feeling the way you do...but if she has always spoiled him..then this is your cross to bare...she may not know the effects or emotions WLS participants go through and if she is not willing to educate or listen to them...you can't change that. You can only change you...you can't change other people.
Don't ruin your relationship with your mother because she doesn't understand what YOUR going through, nor do you understand why she is doing what she is doing...but is this all worth NOT having your mom in your life? You have asked her to stop, and perhaps when the two of you butt heads..it could of been something one of you said, or the way you said it that forced her to pack and go.
She may of left all these goodies in your house for your son...it is up to you..to overlook it...and be strong enough to say..."go ahead, put a piece of chocolate cake in my face, I am working on a healthier lifestyle and I CAN say NO"
So, the moral of my rambling is...."Just say NO" and keep the relationship with your mom, so that your son can have one with his granny, otherwise you are or could remove her from his life if the two of your can't be mature adults and basically ...get over it. This is your journey, not hers...so no matter what she does...keep saying that to yourself..this is YOUR journey..and if she doesn't want to be a part of it...so be it...you can't force her!!
Done rambling..sorry!!

@@Heidi Anderson I was under the impression that after surgery, don't drink any carbonated liquids...I could be wrong.

Although I am pre-surgery...thought this journey thus far I have done alot of reading and tried to keep up with the latest information the pro's and con's of the post-op.
Contrary to what some may think, most of the GoodWill Stores here actually have some decent clothing..some even new, and since the medical bills with co pays, and now a 2 grand deductable for my surgery...going out and spending alot of money "that I don't have" on a new wardrobe, I will just pick up some things at GoodWill to hold me over through fluxuations. I DID however, make a promise to myself that the first 40 pounds...I will get something new..as a reward...the next 20 pounds..again..I will again get something nice....20...20..20..and when I reach my ultimate Goal...I VOWED...I was going to have that Black Leather Jacket I have always wanted..but couldn't because they didn't make my size and if they did..it just wouldn't look the same....why a black leather jacket you ask??? Because I have a brand new Harley Davidson motorcycle that I wearing that jacket would look just amazing on.

Did not gain weight

Although I am pre-surgery...thought this journey thus far I have done alot of reading and tried to keep up with the latest information the pro's and con's of the post-op.
Contrary to what some may think, most of the GoodWill Stores here actually have some decent clothing..some even new, and since the medical bills with co pays, and now a 2 grand deductable for my surgery...going out and spending alot of money "that I don't have" on a new wardrobe, I will just pick up some things at GoodWill to hold me over through fluxuations. I DID however, make a promise to myself that the first 40 pounds...I will get something new..as a reward...the next 20 pounds..again..I will again get something nice....20...20..20..and when I reach my ultimate Goal...I VOWED...I was going to have that Black Leather Jacket I have always wanted..but couldn't because they didn't make my size and if they did..it just wouldn't look the same....why a black leather jacket you ask??? Because I have a brand new Harley Davidson motorcycle that I wearing that jacket would look just amazing on.

My surgery is attentively scheduled for the day before Thanksgiving and the reason being..my insurance requires 6 NUT visits, but actually 7 because the Dr. appointment to schedule the surgery has to be 30 days AFTER your last NUT visit....it takes approximately 15 or so days to get insurance approval (I checked prior to, and as long as I meet the requirements, they will not deny me) so that puts me at the 21st being 15 days..but my Dr. only does surgery on certain days...which puts me on the 26th. After my last visit, I have 15 days to get blood work and EKG for medical clearance...this is not for insurance..it's for the anesthesiologist.
Start 7 days pre-op diet consist of "Daily Menu"
(2) 20 gram Protein drinks <--I'm going with Isopure..it's convenient,
Sugar Free- (1) Popsicles (2) Jello (1) pudding,
1 cup Low Sodium broth
1 cup 98% fat free Cream Soup
1 cup non-fat plain greek yogurt <-- I can add 1 T no sugar fruit preserves if I choose to
4 oz. V8 juice
2 cups Herbal Tea <-- I'm going with Cinnamon Apple
4 cups of Water
Actually it's 7 days, but the last day I have nothing but fluids.
I am nervous, scared, excited...curious if it's going to work..I have the will power, but negative nancy pocks her gosh dern head in there sometimes...I quit smoking after 35 years smoking...I am currently drinking 1 shake per day (Biochem 100% vanilla whey Protein - NUT told me to mix with Almond Milk, not bad), and eating good for the most part..I haven't lost very much..but I haven't gained which is a good thing. My hair was short, and barley grows..so I got body wave put in so if I do experience Hair loss it won't be so noticeable.
I have these awesome dreams about being able to do my own pedicures, tie my own shoes, walk around amusement parks without getting winded or have to sit down a lot or can't make it through day like everyone else can....being able to get nice cute clothes verses the tents in the Plus Size section...so many things..but ..I also have nightmares of failing...I wouldn't be getting this "gift" if I were able to lose weight on my own...so what if I take this "gift" for granted...and abuse it the same way I abused my body for 50 years? You would think being 50 years old..I should of known better to eat that 2nd plate..or eat the piece of cake that your friend was saving for tomorrow...or even worse..sit down to watch a movie and eat a whole "big" bag of chips, with the french onion dip mind you....how could I have possibly allowed myself to get to that point?
I used to be a member of a BBW club for years...and at first I was actually the thinnest one of the group of over 75 people whom met at least once a month for a get together...so when they had food...I was like..yum YUM...I can eat this and still be thinner....nope...didn't work that way..had I known better. Eventually, I was getting concerned because the other BBW's I hung around with enjoyed being big, loved it....didn't want to give up good food blah blah...however, a few became ill with diabetes and couldn't figure out why...which essentially was my straw after finding out I too...was now a diabetic.
I thought and thought to myself that this BBW group would not be the ones that would support me through my journey..as a matter of fact one of the ladies had a tummy staple many years ago..and she is 5 times the size she was back then (saw pictures), on top of which....she has told me several times...that I am making the wrong choice....guess what...this is MY life and I care that I was just diagnosed with diabetes, I care that my weight is stopping me from the things in life I am supposed to be enjoying....and ya know what? I want to live!! That's all the convincing I needed....JUST TO LIVE!
Sorry I was a bit long winded, it was one of those "get it off your chest" days!! Thank you for reading

Figured she would pray while she was down there...

popcorn has alot of Carbohydrates...21 grams....hardly any protein....not sure if you want to fill your belly with carbs instead of proteins..just sayin

Did not gain weight