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Okay, update: It was raining pretty badly at home so I took that as a sign. :redface: Soooo, we went to WW. I asked her before we left if it was something that she wanted to do, and she was very excited about going - had looked forward to it all week, she said. The people that worked there were very nice to her about it, and one lady pulled her aside and explained that her weight was private and she didn't even have to show me. That thrilled her because she's a private kid. The speaker was a guy who had a sarcastic sense of humor (just like us) and she clicked with him immediately. I am happy with the choice, and I think going to the meetings will help her out a lot. She asked him about a party she's having in school tomorrow, and he gave her ideas on how to handle it. She was very excited and happy about it. One thing I liked is that he stressed it's not diet - it's a way to make healthy choices. He said diets don't work, this is something you can live with. So, I really get the impression that she believes it's NOT a D-I-E-T. I think she knows it's a way to judge how much she should be eating to be healthy. (Another thing the speaker pointed out.) I joined, too. I get 29 points a day, and I'm thinking "ain't no way! I just got a fill!" :tongue: I didn't mention that I was banded. I'm not sure that would go over very well. But, I will try to get the points in and really do the program with her. After all, it's a healthy way to eat, right? It should work for both of us, banded or not. One thing I tried to get through to her is that her weight won't drop like it does for adults, or like what she sees on Biggest Loser. (Especially like Biggest Loser!) She seemed disappointed, and I explained again that she doesn't really have to lose a bunch of weight, but instead learn how to eat healthy, and be healthy. Weight loss isn't the goal here. That appeased her somewhat, but I kind of think she's expecting Biggest Loser triumphs. Hmmm...maybe I'll bring that up to the leader next week. Oh - I also had to explain that it's not a magical drop, and this will take a long time. That this is a commitment - like having dogs, we have to work at it, even though it's fun. That's when her eyes glazed over as they do when I go into lecture mode.

Thank you...Now I'm really re-thinking the WW thing. It's not like she's excited about it, either, so that makes it worse. Alicia, thanks for sharing your story. Her dad is in another state, but he calls her. He teaches tennis, and is very athletic and also skinny. He's a vegan so his diet is way different than ours. I'm thinking rather than going to WW tonight, we should just go for an hour long walk!

Wait...let me get my sunglasses before I answer.... Damn! I did the dot thing again! My Bad! (another pet peeve)

LOL I'm so glad it's not just me! Did anyone look at you funny?

We were at Fed Ex one time and the scale was there on the counter. My family has always made fun of my small head, so I joked I should weigh it. BF said, "Normal human head weighs 8 lbs." So, the guy let me lay my head on the scale. I just relaxed it, and he called out the weight. 6 pounds. No wonder I suck at math - there is no room for it! What's worse is, I've weighed the girls independently, too, and they weigh as much as my head.

I have a smaller head than normal (6 pounds - yes, I've weighed it) so I can't afford to lose anything there.

I tried Orange Roughy for the first time a few weeks ago - on the grill. Yummy!

Since everyone is different, you may want to consider therapy for this. Sounds like money may be an issue, so maybe your insurance would help? The way I handle stress is to cry a lot. I'll watch sad show and just cry, cry, cry. Once I'm done, I realize how much better off I have it than the characters in the movie I just watched. Silly? Yeah, I know. But, my instinct is to hide under the covers, call in sick to work and just take a downward spiral in my life. Been there - done that. But with a child to look after, dogs to walk and feed, I don't have time to do that. The movie really helps my mind take a break from all the reality of what's going on. The really sappy, chick flicks, too. I would really recommend speaking with your doctor (surgeon, family or therapist) before going through with it. If you don't feel that you can handle the stress, then this surgery - at this time - may not be right for you. It sounds like you're already worried about it, and you should talk to someone about it.

Oooops...I do that. I love elipses! They are my favorite! I think I'm addicted to them. I look back to my posts and realize I use them everywhere....like when I'm thinking out loud. Sorry!

You are LOOSING your minds.

Well, it's been said here many times on threads like that: People will ask the same questions until they hear what they want to hear.

I can't wait to be 185! I can't remember being that weight. I know at the end of high school I was wearing 20/22 jeans....I just can't remember how much I weighed!

We have DDR! We love it! That is a work out. At first (at my heaviest) she kept asking me to try it. I was like, NO WAY. But, now I love it. We do stuff like that...and I am around her a lot (minus her grandmother's time). How is she getting big? She MUST be eating more at my mom's than they both tell me. I've tried talking to my mom about it and she's in complete denial. I don't want to leave my daughter alone in the afternoon, and I can't afford daycare. I've come to the conclusion that I can't change my mom's ideas about food. They are her comfort and she will comfort anyone with food - in fact, she'll practically shove it down your throat! So, I really need to get into my daughter's head what she needs to do about it. She's old enough to get it, but I don't want her to get the head games like many of us have developed. Actually, that's what I was hoping WW would do for her. Do you think WW would actually mess her up more? I was hoping it would show her what healthy can be.

Ninja, I feel the same way about the rules and getting as much food as I can, when I can. I used to feel really anxious at company events. When food was brought in, or we went out, I was always concerned I wouldn't get enough. If people jumped in line ahead of me, I'd get grumpy. Like big 'ole me wouldn't get food and would starve or something. But, since the band - I LOVE MY BAND - I don't feel that way. I know they'll be plenty of food for me. I feel badly for my daughter because I couldn't stop my eating before the band. Now, I have a tool that helps me. But I'm at a loss of what can help her. I'm definitely going to work on it, and try to encourage her as positively as I can. Thanks for all the advice - I really appreciate it all.

I couldn't agree more! I have a nephew who just turned 16 and his daughter was born over Christmas time. My brother didn't have custody (after divorce) and his mother just let him do what he wanted to. Until, at the age of 12 he beat her up and ended in the state's care. After about 2 years there, he moved in with my brother. By then, though, my nephew had been so used to just doing what he wanted when he wanted, it was hard for my brother to control him. He tried to get the court's involved, but the court threatened to put my brother in jail if his son wouldn't shape up. My nephew was doing drugs and in a gang - at 14! So, what was my brother supposed to do? After he met his girlfriend -and had a baby - he seems to be doing better. He complains that all his money goes toward diapers, and not playstation. But, there for a while, he was pretty scary to be around - and he was just a kid! His older brother (who had my brother's influence 24-7, before the divorce) turned out great and is in college now. What's with these parents who let their kids do whatever they want? Like my exSIL - WTH? Be a fricking PARENT.

Yeah, she's always thought she was too big. Well, when she got into school. She's only recently gotten chubby, before then she was just a lot taller than the other girls. But, it's worse now because all her friends are almost too thin, and small boned, and she compares herself to them. One little (very little) girl in the neighborhood was running around with a one-pound bag of M&M's the other day. She came home from school, grabbed it from the cupboard and headed out. My daughter said she didn't have any of them, and I believe her. She said the girls hands were dirty and she kept reaching in and that turned my daughter off of them. But, that's hard for her to take. Seeing the "skinny" ones eat junk after junk and she eats good, but is still getting bigger. Jachut - my daughter is like your son. She will move and play, but has to be motivated outwardly to do it. We were playing tennis the other day and she "gets tired". I told her no...you're tired because you're not used to moving for so long. Hell, if I can out-do her, I know something is wrong. Now that soccer is back up, though, I'm hoping she'll get back into just MOVING. She's more of a nerdy type than athletic. She'd much rather read a book than play sports. She loves soccer and that's it. She has also asked about Tae Kwon Do - - But, man! Sports gets expensive! :huh2: I'm googling bodweight exercises right now! That's what she needs is to get her heart rate going and the blood pumping.

Am I the only one who thinks this icon is a little...creepy?

Wow! Thanks to everyone who's responded. I will try the books...I'm reading one now about how to change the family dynamic. She's pretty active. She plays outside for about an hour each day. She spends a lot of time with my mother. It's good for me in that I am a single mother and my mother is able to watch my daughter in the evenings for about an hour (during that time, I am not sure if either one of them is honest with me about the food.) I know she's usually outside playing when I get home. She's also into soccer (we just got home from practice). She's 5'2" and weighs 151. But I was about 10 when I started to get really chubby and I keep thinking: what would have helped me? She doesn't sneak food, I'm pretty sure of that. As a child I did sneak food, though. A whole box of Little Debbies and hide the trash under the bed. My mother would hide food from us, and my brother and I would hunt for it. I don't do that in my house, and actually don't have a lot of junk food. Our Snacks are the Special K bars and 100 cal packs, and she doesn't really touch those. If I let her, she'll eat the house down. She just doesn't have that "stop" - and neither did I. I've started to ask her if she's really hungry...what did you have today...that kind of thing to get her head in it. I am just so scared that I will create a worse problem by trying to fix this one. How do I not screw up my kid??? It's a toughie. I really like the journal idea. She's also very private and will hold stuff in for months! All of a sudden she'll blow up about something that happened 6 months ago. So, maybe counseling wouldn't be a bad idea. Oh, and I didn't mean to imply she's been abused. Both my mother and I were abused as kids. Bad family history and all that stuff. My daughter has never been around them so she's been removed from that.

Ew! What was it? Did you ever find out?

LOL!!! I'm laughing my ass off at this one!!!!!

I have been signing up for volunteering at SPCA and the Human Society, but have gotten responses back that there are no needs at this time. :thumbup: I don't get that! But, yeah - there are so many abused animals. I don't understand how someone can do that. Give a dog to a 5 year old??? Incredible. ******* And, bobbiting...yes! I remember that. I used to live in Manassas, VA and I was researching the daycare that I wanted my daughter to go to. I googled it and the first article was "Rise of the Penis". I had to take a double-take! Turns out the daycare was on a corner lot and owned the field that Lorena through it into!

Well, tomorrow night I'm taking my daughter who is 10 (11 in May) to Weight Watchers, per her doctor's orders. She doesn't really eat a lot when I'm around, but does when she's with my mother. (Long history of overweight women in my family. Abuse, comfort eating, etc...bad, bad stuff.) My daughter has been removed from the abuse, but that comfort food syndrome that we (my mom and I) exhibit definitely has rubbed off on her. She's also tall, which doesn't help. She towers over her classmates, and she has muscles in her arms. Sad, but she's almost as strong as I am! Point is, she's big and bulky and unhappy with herself. She likes to run, but has bad allergies and asthma. I bought a treadmill and a glider machine. The doctor said no glider - she needs aerobic workouts. Well, the treadmill is manual and not good, really, for running. I feel terrible because I feel like I can't help her. I told her that I can be strong in every other area of my life. I am confident that I can do anything - except lose weight. It's my last hurdle, and I've been working on that, and do feel better since I have gotten the band. But, how do I help her?? How can I teach her something I don't know?

I really liked having the broth the day after, but then got sick of it. Then added an egg and made egg drop soup and was happy for it again. After that I loved cream of chicken soup and Propel Water. And my small pillow to prop under my belly at night when I slept.

I Have A Hard Time With Sentences Like This.

Yeah...I read that one. I can't believe that. Why did they get the band in the first place, if in the first week they're cheating? I'm on liquids the next 2 days because of my fill. (1 cc yesterday and had .5 removed today. I became waaay too tight last night.) I know I need to give my body a rest and not over exert my tummy. To me, liquids doesn't mean pulling out my blender and throwing whatever I want in it.