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I miss VA sometimes...not the winter, though. I like cheesecake bites - because you don't have to eat the whole thing, but just get a taste. Too much cheesecake starts to taste funky after a while. Did I mention I got my hair cut off? It's really, really short and I love it!!! I'll never go back to longer hair. It gets too frizzy and this way I can just wash and go! I want to die my hair...it's already died a red/brown, but I want blond streaks on top (like white/blond) and reddish/brown underneath. The salon guy said I couldn't because I'd already died my hair. Damn. Maybe I'll just get another tattoo - one of a fat chick with blond and red hair... Anyway...posting just to post.

...not to mention that the commercials following that are usually food commercials - something cheesy, creamy or sugary. But, yeah, I see your point about that. It's no wonder so many people end up on here asking if they can eat xyz a week after being banded. And no wonder so many get discouraged when they don't lose. After all, the commercial said it's a miracle cure for obesity.

Thanks so much! I've actually put a lot of thought into it, and we started talking about this a year ago, about 6 months after getting together. I'm a little bit of a control freak and I've never moved in with anyone before (either they move in/out of MY house, or not at all...so this is new). He's been accomodating as much as possible (I have a lot of girly stuff, and he's been great about letting me put it where I want.) I partly feel like an outsider because it's not our home - even though he keeps saying that, it's not in my name and that control freak in me is screaming! Also, the other stress (the only other stress, actually) is coming from our animals. He's got 2 cats that have never really been socialized and I have 2 big dogs that are overly curious. I love his cats, because they've gotten used to me (well, one has, the other is a little biotch). But, now they have to get used to the dogs...and the dogs like to eat the cat litter, so they're banned from the bathroom, which makes them whine. We've joked about getting rid of all the animals, but I do have a daughter (age 11) and she'd have a fit. She loves having the dogs AND the cats, even though she's allergic and has started shots because of the move...argh. See? So much stress wrapped up into this. BUT. It's what I really want. He's been the best boyfriend ever - which is why the pics shocked me at first. We're so inline with everything, and I'm positive this will work between us. We're talking about marriage, and that hasn't changed. I'm not so upset about the pictures - just myself for getting this fat. I also know without a doubt that he's attracted to me. He remembers the first day he saw me (I don't, and I feel guilty over that...) and knows what I was wearing. He said he fell right then. I have no doubt about us working it out. Our pets, though? That's a different story!

I was thinking more and more about this...I have a lot of insecurities right now. I'm about to move in with him (this Sat) and I'm renting out my home - just stress, stress, stress.... I think this was just an outlet for me to release some of that. I'm scared that we won't work out - just because past relationships of 10 years, and the other long term for 6 years didn't work out. He's different (in 1.5 years, we've had maybe 2 fights, lasting about 10 minutes.) We're so good, and I keep "waiting for the other shoe to drop", if you know what I mean? So, when I saw this, I think the negative parts of me went AHA! SEE??? But, the logical part of me said, "Shut the hell up, you're an idiot." (He even had my fav flowers for me last night, since he was sorry I was upset by the pictures.) Ugg..I felt really stupid, then. And, ya'll helped me see that I was being silly - THANK YOU LBTers!!! You guys really are the best support I've had. From weight loss to other issues in my life that really are weight related. I'm an emotional eater, and last night I turned to food. A veggie tray!! I had two broccoli stalks and was done. Pre lapband, or even preLBT, I'd have turned to much, much worse "support".

Oh, I hate that. At work, I've found out that people who are married were fooling around with other coworkers. I guess I'm naive about that stuff, because I get so disappointed in them. It really changes how I feel about people. On the local radio station, they were having a discussion on whether or not celebrities personal lives effect how you view their movies, or them. I think it does, for me. Like Bill Murray and all the stuff that's come out about him and his wife. I'm not sure I view him the same now. Luckily for BF, admiring a couple of hot butts at the beach isn't along the same lines (for me, anyway)...close...but not quite that bad.

I sent him an email with the pictures attached, asking WTF? His answer was an honest one, with a side of "ooops" , so it's easy to forgive me. I'm not as insecure as I used to be, I guess. My initial reaction has lessoned a little bit and I'm not angry. Maybe just jealous...? The only time anyone would take a picture of me at the beach is if they're doing a "Save the Whales" epsiode on the Discovery Channel.

Damn logical answer that makes me feel as itty bitty as the bikinis!

I'm prefacing this by saying: I love my bf, I know he loves me...we're planning on getting married, and this little tiff/rant of mine isn't going to stop that. BUT, THAT BASTARD! I have his camera today to upload pictures we took of furniture for sale. I can do it faster/better and I have the time. On his camera, he has pictures of a vacation he took with his family to Hawaii. I was just looking at them and found a surprise. This was a few months after we started dating, and was well over a year ago. I didn't go, since it was planned well before I was in the picture. It's his mother, father and daughter. Well, there are pictures of two bikini clad women running around on the beach. Not one picture, not two pictures- FOUR!!! I guess I figured he was above that...he's more intellectual - doesn't have porn (I have more of a porn collection than he does, simply because I have one.) I was impressed by that, I like that. I dated a guy who was heavily into porn and would watch it without me, and I'd get pissy...so this bf was a pleasant surprise. Then I find these pictures and my mind is blown away. I know I'm over-reacting and time will lesson the "blow", but DAMN. I'm insecure about how I look anyway, and now finding this makes me feel really badly over it. And, I know me...I know I'll war with myself between being pissed and letting it go. It may be better if we DON'T see each other tonight, but since that's not an option, I may just have to stay in the other room! How do ya'll handle your men ogling (and taking PICTURES!!!???) of other women? Do you get offended, or pass it off?

People suck, Lauren. Ooops...sorry...I guess I have to be more specific - Some people suck, some of the time. This statement is not to include all people, as that may offend *some* people. Therefore, not ALL people suck, and all people do not suck ALL of the time. Egads, I hope I didn't offend people who suck, or they'll be pissy and post and then I'll have to scream. Ooh...I know! People who steal suck.

Dew makes me gag! ...oh, am I lost again? Which thread am I in?

My voice is young sounding, and once upon a time when I had a home phone and solictors would call - twice I had someone ask if my "mommy and daddy" were home. I said, "I don't know...Would you like me to call them and find out for you, or do you want their number?" But, even aside from my voice, I look young too. I know in 10 years (hell, even now) I'm okay with that, but in my early 20's it was rough for people to think I was 16 years old.

Understandably - it's your right to chose, and I hope I'm not coming across as pushy when I say, GET THE BAND. :biggrin: Just kidding...kinda. Jokes aside, I have a friend who was always my "fat buddy". She wants the band, but doesn't have insurance for it. She's saving for a house, but I'm trying to encourage her to get the band. The thing is, with or without the band - if you're almost 300 pounds, then food WILL always be a major part of your life. Having the band has helped me control it. Pre-band, I'd eat all my plate and never even think about reaching for seconds, or thirds. The food itself wasn't a factor in my thoughts, just the results of eating it. Constantly, I'd moan about how fat I was, then eat and eat and eat. Now, I think about the food that goes in and, and I'm happy with the results. 70 pounds never would have come off if I hadn't done this. Is it a struggle? YES. Was it worth it for me? YES. Would I encourage it for others? YES. Is it for everyone? NO. The thing with my friend is that she keeps saying she'll diet and exercise - sounds easy, right? She'll get it off "on her own", she says. But it's a long road without help. And, that's all the band is - it's just help. Good luck at the doctor's...You'll know what's right, and if you've been here for a few months, you already know the ups and downs.

Okay, great NSV!!! It's put me back on track...my whole goal is to be "normal" and I'm so not there yet. My emotional habits are fighting me right now. But, reading this helps! :biggrin:

It sounds like you're too tight...can you go to any doctor, if not your own, to get an unfill? You may be causing damage that won't be able to be fixed... That's not a good way to argue your point. We're trying to believe you - and you obviously care or you wouldn't have posted anything in the first place. The band may not be working for you, as sometimes it doesn't - but you should go to the doctor. Your throat hurts? That's a serious thing, and I urge you very much to get it checked out. And, don't tell me to screw myself.

Everyone was asking / posting before I hit submit...sorry for the redundancy.

Okay, snowho...I'm attempting to believe you, but you gotta understand that it's difficult based on how you're coming across. Would you mind answering some band questions? Like: what type do you have? How many fills have you had? How many cc's? What do you eat - are you following the program? I haven't lost weight in 3 months and it's because I've rediscovered ice cream and refuse to give it up. It's an inner struggle with myself - NOT my band. Are you eating poorly and blaming the band? Have you had a check up with your doctor to discuss any of this? Thanks...

I dunno...don't feel foolish. Just because it's a year old, doesn't mean it's less funny to know that a$$hats like that are out there - and they post.

Bah! I'm not grown up!! She's 11 years old now, and I still don't know how to answer that question. :rolleyes2: At the time she asked, though, I opened my mouth to answer and "Holy crap!" came out. I am pretty cynical, and I'm working on it. I really WANT to be more open minded and believing, but I have a hard time digesting the media.

Thank you for your honesty! A lot of people don't admit that basic motives are selfish. (Not a bad selfish, just fact selfish). I've had debates with friends over friendship being selfish. I'm friends with people because of how I feel with them. Like the Happy Bunny says: It's all about me! :rolleyes2: Anyway, again I'm veering of course - but honesty is a big issue, and when I can't tell if someone's being honest, or if they've proven they're not, then I get frustrated and tend to give up. So, thank you to all who are posting here...it's put my motivation towards politics back, and I've become less frustrated because of the discussion points - from both sides. Overall, this thread has been one of the nicest I've read in R&R lately! :thumbup: And, that's the TRUTH!

Shouldn't this be in the complications / revisions forums?

Sorry...this statement is sorta out there, but all this reading reminds me of a question my daughter asked when she was little: "Mommy, what is truth?" It sounds so easy to know what truth is, but when you have to explain it to a 3 year old, it's hard. The "truth" is hard to identify unless you see it, breath it, live it. And, even then, is it truth or just your perception through your own circumstances? Does the true way mean that it happened to ONE person, or ONE family, or does truth have a percentage requirement? We all have our reasons and beliefs, but the TRUTH is hard to come by on either side. So many things are manipulated, twisted and distorted - no matter what media source it's coming from. If you read it, are you reading it the way the author intended? Even surveys (9 out of 10 people surveyed say [fill in the blank]) are distorted. Polls are useless. I can go out and survey 100 people in a high end shopping district and to find out that the economy really isn't that bad after all. OR, I can go to Goodwill and find out it is. ...or manipulate my poll for healthcare, energy, etc, etc. So, what is truth? And how do we find it? How do we know if either one of these candidates have OUR best interest at heart? They both want to be President, but why? I'd rather have that asked in a debate. Why do you want to be the next American President? Because they want to help America, or because they have another agenda? How can we know? That's my dilemma.

That was the best part of the small town. One time I decided to go visit my Grandmother & uncles and drove out there. I got there close to midnight, walked right in. The doors weren't locked - they never have locked their doors. I went upstairs, fell asleep and the next morning 1/2 their neighbors were over having Breakfast (a big ole KUNTRY breakfast). They'd seen my car and knew what time I'd come in. Again...kinda creepy, but it is comforting at the same time.

Posting just to say someone is FINALLY coming to look at my house today. It's been on the market for a month, and only one other person has looked at it. And, of course, today is the ONE DAY I didn't make my bed, or take the trash out. DAMN, DAMN, DAMN!!!

I love this idea! I like tying the punishment with the crime... Lauren, what did you end up doing?

My father grew up in a small town like that...I hated it. I grew up near DC and never had that problem. But, every time I went "back home" it was amazing how much they all knew about me. I could walk into a store and 1/2 of the people in there would walk up and ask about my dad. Small town kinda spook me out.