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...because I finally broke my plateau!!! Now I get to "bounce" the next set of 5 pounds. And ...because I have a cruise coming up and I want to be smoking hot.

:smile2: Ahhh, yes...that crap was a bunch of drama I wouldn't want to relive. 1 - He's not really the "boss". He's still not! All their talk and he's still not a super yet. He's just the lead because he's been there the longest. 2 - We weren't in the same dept when we were dating. But, because both our depts worked closely with each other, we felt disclosure was necessary. We told his boss (been w/the company 40 years and has good history there). She said, "No problem. If someone doesn't like it they'll have to go through me." We felt safe. 3- The company merged our departments five months later so that he was the lead of me. (But, not the boss of me!!!) 4 - We weren't all over each other, but we did start taking our lunch separate from the group because we wanted to be alone. I think that pissed some girls who have no life off. 5 - People started to complain - one whole year later, and soon HR was involved. Our HR rep said that one of us had to find another job because there was conflict in the department with our dating. 6 - At a meeting w/HR with both of us, we were asked which one of us was looking, because the company didn't want to lose boht of us. I said that was none of the company's business, but it was me that was looking. She told me I had 90 days... I said, "or else, what?" She just said, "or we'll have to let you go." I said, "On what grounds? He's not a supervisor, and there is no company policy." She just shrugged!!! I was pissed. When we mentioned that we had told his boss in the very beginning she said, "But she didn't tell ME." But - I'm online a lot and even though I get my job done (and better than 1/2 the others in that department I might add) I'm sure they would FIND some reason to fire me if they're looking. So, I looked, and found something within company. And the something is much better - it's just fricken far away! Thank you to all who've given advice. I sent off an email for a meeting request and will sit down face to face when she gets back. She is a great person, and I know it'll be tough for them to find someone - again - to fill this position, she won't try to hold me back. Other bosses in the company have denied people. (They have an option on their end that asks if they agree or disagree with this person moving on. I've heard a couple of people being denied because they're good.) Not to brag, but I am good. I take pride in my work and hate being idle. This new position is very idle, so I take care of a lot of things no one wants to, and they like that. Previous employees with my job enjoy sitting around doing nothing...I hate it.

Doh! How could I forget the basics??? Thanks SnT! :biggrin:

YES. I have no idea if it's pyschological or something real, but yeah! I was recently under a bunch of stress and was so tight I couldn't get anything down....well, now I'm not as stressed (last couple of weeks) and am thinking of getting a fill. I haven't lost weight, but I can eat now. I'm worried stress will come back - but I think on those days I'll stick w/my protein shakes. :cool:

Okay - I've switched. I always agreed that going against the post-op diet was a big deal, but thought that this particular case was just a bit "undone". But, you know - that was an a$$y response to Susan and now I'm kinda pissed. $10 says that one won't lose much more.

Sooo....can someone explain the NICE way to say: Don't be an f'ing idiot? Cause I missed that day when it was covered in charm school.

Okay...how come I can see other picture threads, but not this one? :thumbup: I want to see rocking hot BBK, too!!!

Salsa - I agree....LJM's post wasn't harsh at all. That's why I didn't get the tears. I get tired of the validation stuff, too. I just think in *this* case there are some deeper issues that the band is not going to fix - whether or not it slips before she can actually reap benefits from it or not! Either that, or I've been completely conned. :thumbup: Wouldn't be the first time.

I do agree, really, I do...but that thread seemed a little odd to me. Emotionally unstable, maybe? I felt bad for that poster, rather than angry at it. It didn't have the same vibe as the "Hey - I just ate a whole pizza, is that okay?" I think more psych evals would have done this one wonders.

Ahhhhhhh.....I see it now. It's a popular phrase, I 'spose. How can you not love it? It has the word panties. Growing up fat and poor I always wore UNDERWEAR - the big granny kind. Other girls had panties - it was alll very dainty. I was jealous. Now that I'm older and have my own undergarment budget...I have panties.

Doh... Wait - sorry - I was talking about the Big Mac thread. I hate it when people post just to post in the wrong thread....

he he....Indio said "big girl panties"...ha ha. At the TX RenFest we saw the show performed by the Well Wenches (or something like that...) and they made men from the audience run out of the arena, stand in the crowd of people milling about and say: "In my big boy pants I can do anything!" It was hilarious, and her post over there made me think about that. Posting just to say all that stuff. And, of course, Big Macs make me gag.

Thanks...I do actually have a hard time asking off. I started here in Jan and ended up having gall bladder surgery in Feb. I cried! I was so upset that I had to take off 2 whole days... Ugg. Another part is if I keep NOT getting the jobs I apply for, then how's that gonna look? I think a part of me is really embarrassed if things are public. Will it get to the point where people are asking, "You still here?" :thumbs_down: But, then - I do worry too much.

I tried to click on a link from my email and got a "Page Not Found" error. So, I just opened up LBT and went to the forum and was okay then.

:thumbs_down: I guess I'd ruin it if I said this: Cheese.

I want validation. Who has jumped off the Empire State Building and lived? I know it's dangerous...especially without a parachute, but I saw this guy on TV do it and I'd like to try it....will it mess up my band?

Thanks, Mac...I will sit with her when she's back. I'd rather it be face to face, than via emails anyway. And, yeah...it's not really personal. But, I tend to take my job as an extension of me. I feel like I'm abandoning them here. It's a really boring job, and I've been asking for more to do...Other's have come and gone - no one's lasted more than 2 years, and it's kind of a cursed position. I took it because I had to (and, strangely enough it paid more money than the higher stressed job I had with my bf.) Big companies are really screwy and sometimes I miss working with a smaller group. :thumbs_down: But, they have great insurance here, which covered my lapband, so I can't complain TOO much.

History: I work for a large company...was dating coworker...he was promoted...I was asked to find another position or be fired...found a job in a different location/division. Now, I'm trying to get a job back at the other location, in a different dept. It's closer to home and gas prices are killing me now. (Job is now taking 1/4 tank each day, plus toll road costs. Car pooling is not an option right now - none available.) I've applied online to one job - and when you do that, an email copy goes to the boss - was told I had the job, in the bag, etc...then someone else was hired. The manager there is who hired me into the company way back when, so know him pretty well. I called him when I saw the job posting and he said, Oh, yes - I will hire you in a heartbeat. Go ahead and apply online -you've got it. Then he hired someone else the very next day. The only reason I was/am hesitant to apply online and send the notification to my boss is because 1) she was on maternity leave at the time, had just had her baby and her parents were visiting. They both got deathly ill and ended up in Hospice (they are quite a bit older than she is) and was on "death watch". I didn't want to upset her. She got the notification and emailed me from her Blackberry: Are you unhappy? I replied no, it was an opportunity to work closer to home, and turns out I'm staying put. She came back to work after maternity leave was over, and a week later her mother died. She's currently out on vacation/leave until the middle of the month. There are two more jobs that are available at the other location, but I don't want keep applying and notifying my boss - while she's out grieving. But. I'm doing what's best for me and my family and saving $500/month would be a big help. I'm just torn - I don't want to be a jerk to her (she's really great) but I feel that I need to try. The bummer would be if I keep applying and don't get any of these jobs. I lost out the other one, I found out, to someone who had more pull in the company and had been here for 10 years. She'll be swamped when she gets back and I'm scared she'll push all the upset and stress at me. (Like when my daughter comes in asking for money after I've mowed the lawn - done the dishes - folded laundry and am now cleaning the dogs... :redface: you know?) So...my dilemma is this: What do I tell my boss? How do I approach this? I know I want to wait until she's back and talk to her face to face, but she's under so much stress. What should I say to her, and should I send an email right now, following my submission?

Susan, I am so sorry for your struggles. I hope, too, that the government can help. Like you said, we send aid everywhere else...why not here? My mother and brother are broke and have never been able to accomplish anything. Growing up we were always kicked out of places, moved back in with my grandparents and tried again. When my grandparents died, my mother has started to ask me for money. Now my brother is. I have always had to bail them out. I do it because despite their poor judgement, I love them. So, I was thinking the other day, as I was sending another check to my mother...What if something happened to me? If I died, it would be okay because I do have life insurance. But what if I got sick or laid off? There is no one to help me and I would be one to foreclose. What was I supposed to do? Only purchase my home if I could afford it...without a job? I did NOT get a stated loan, and I put money down. I still owe around $90,000. Sorry - don't got that in my back pocket and I'm sure people who are going to foreclosure are in the same situation. Poor or middle class and living off of credit.

Ooh..I missed that one. (It wasn't me, was it?) I think I'm more of a 3/4 cup per meal person.

Wow...I guess they should all sacrifice their families, or whatever their situation is for your pride? You were proud and now you're not and it's all their fault because they went into foreclosure. Guess they got you good, huh? Before you go and get all grumpy at people whose lives are now ruined for the next 7-12 years, perhaps you should try to be more sympathetic. You've been in a tough spot...your mortgage company worked with you. Great. What would you do if your mortgage company went bankrupt and filed Ch. 11? Where would you be then? There are hundreds of scenarios and reasons why people lose jobs, houses, cars, etc. I'm sure a fraction of those are because of poor choices, but not everyone can have the obvious wisdom of *others*. Chill out...grab a lawn mower and cut the grass yourself.

EVERYDAY. I called everyday for 2 weeks, found out the doctor's office had been given the wrong approval information, called the doc - they faxed it over that day, next day I called and was approved. Being a PITA just means they want you to go away - they can't deny for being one.

I'm posting to say I think I hate cats. Or, rather, I hate living with cats.

I work with a woman who throws around racist comments, although I'm not sure she realizes it. She backs it up with, "I'm not being racist..that's just the way their culture is." I usually just say, "I haven't noticed..." and change the subject. But, that hasn't really worked and once have told her that I don't share her opinions. I said it nicely, but she still got pissy. She was huffy for a while, but then backed off. We still talk about other stuff, but she knows not to mention it to me. I have to be polite and hate it! Stupid people don't deserve my friendliness, but work DOES pay the bills. :tt1: If I can't walk away, though - the next best thing is to not say anything about their comments and then change the subject.

Me, three....Guest just doesn't seem right.