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LOL! I know, everyone thinks its soooo cute that hes sucking his thumb already (even though developmentally he hadnt learned that yet lol) he was actually, kinda dancing around in there to the sound of the machine or something, he didnt seem startled though, he was just showing off for the camera I guess lol! But he was moving ALOT! I guess they just snapped the pic while his hand happened to be there

Lol! Im not lonely by any means...I just mean that I will have a special bond with someone that I created. And it wont frustrate me to not be able to go out with friends... I already dont go out if my dog doesnt want me to lol! I am not giving my child up for adoption, theres no reason to, My family and I can more than take care of this child. I will be a paralegal soon and be making pretty damn good money, and will be more than able to care for a child. See the problem with the guy is, I thought that I knew him, however due to his extensive lies and such I really didnt, therefore I was mislead. I dont want the baby to be a cure-all, I want it to be a perfectly healthy child. The HPV is most likely not sexually transmitted due to complaints Ive had with Drs in the past about ce of the rtain issues that may have been signs, before I was sexually active, of the disease. Im 20 years old I can care for a child. These baby will never go without anything it needs or wants, trust me. But I do understand your concerns, and perhaps from my post I get where you are coming from, however if you knew me in person, you would know how truly strong I can be, and how determined I can be.

lol my original due date (b4 the sonogram) was April 28th!!! Thats soo funny! As far as hope for a boy or girl...Im torn...I REALLY want a girl, so that we can do girly things together (especially since Im a single parent, I dont want a feminine little boy lol!) But having a boy would be fun too because I can dress them all preppy and put little fohawks on him! lol!! Im really not worried that much about it...but I guess the hope for a girl wins out...

WHY WOULD YOU FEEL SORRY FOR ME? Basically S*** happens, and if its gonna happen to someone I know, its gonna be me...Yes the baby's father is not a good person, that fact is true. I was scared to end the relationship while I was still in CC, but I should have. MY fear caused me to be irresponsible. I should have never have gotten involved with him, I shouldnt have allowed him to walk all over me....What he did was wrong, and the things hes doing now ARE wrong...but if I would have grown "some" this wouldnt have happened. BUT he has given me a great gift, a child, who I can love and be loved back unconditionally. I will never have to be alone again, I will always have someone in my life that is going to love me no matter what. Maybe the technology that your daughter's Dr isnt as good as my Dr's, I had to go to HELL and back to get into my Dr, and I cant believe the insurance will pay her incredibly high prices, however I refuse to use a male Dr, and shes not only one of the few female Dr's around, but also one of the best 3 in this area. Ive seen lotsa people's sonograms and ultrasounds at 8 weeks and further that dont look as good as mine. But trust me, the baby was 8 1/2 weeks at the oldest during that sonogram. BTW, lots of organisms in nature that are fully developed depend on "hosts" to live, without them, they would die. The tiny fish that live on sharks are an example...A great reference to these maybe watching the Most Extreme on Discovery.

SOOOO...I have a question....Ummm....isnt the act of having sex (between a heterosexual couple) TECHNICALLY, TRADITIONALLY to be for the purpose of reproduction, and well one of the benefits is having fun? Like the whole purpose that heterosexual people have sex with the opposite sex is to reproduce.....SOOOO basically your doing the act, of which you are aware of the possible consequences, BUT your not willing to take responsibility for what you have done? Im willing to take responsibility for having sex when I really wasnt ready for a child (which now I am)...I realize that I have to take responsibility for what I chose...so if you dont want children...why do the deed? Thats like buying a bunch of stuff on a credit card, and then reporting the card stolen and keeping the stuff you bought...if you didnt intend to pay for it, why did you buy it? Its irresponsible... Im not saying that I am responsible, by any means, had I been, I would have gotten rid of HIM a long time ago, and wouldnt have had pre-marital sex...however I was ready and willing to accept the consequences....If YOU dont want the child, someone else does!

I am slightly outraged, however I JUST got to my computer. Ive been busy all day and at the baby Dr, and taking a test. I am 20 years old, I am perfectly capable of taking care of a child....and Im very sorry my sonogram (which is done vaginally, while an ultrasound is done outside the vagina) is about 8 1/2 weeks not 7-8, that was my mistake, however I still could have had an abortion at that time, and look it looks like a little human, it has arms, and legs, a tummy, a head, a brain, a heart, etc.... That sonogram was taken the first week of October. And by definition that makes it alive, because it was in animation, its been in animation sense conception because it was growing, therefore that makes it alive. BTW, I may be having problems :cry They think I might have HPV! They found a lesion in my pap smear, but because I had never had a PAP b4, they dont know how long its been there, so they dont know if its cancerous or not. They are REALLY sure its not because I was able to concieve and I havent miscarried, but Im having more tests run Dec 3. Heres a story...I had a very LIBERAL friend in college, however we did get along, just tried to stray away from political conversations to keep from getting each others boiling points up. She was BIG on abortion, she ALWAYS said that if she got pregnant she would abort it ASAP, and blah blah blah etc...well one day I realize that I hadnt really seen her for about 3 or 4 days, and she lived across the hall from me. I go knock on her door, she was TOTALLY not herself...very sad, very withdrawn, etc...I asked her what was going on and she finally cracked...She had secretly took a friend of hers from class to get an abortion, and it really messed her up for about 2-3 weeks, now she is adamantly against it. She is still scarred by it, almost a year later. I thought that was interesting, someone SO set in their ways could change their mind that easily.

IDK? what the ultrasounds from implantation was supposed to prove??? however I have a whole book of pics (very high-resolution), and at atleast 8weeks they baby LOOKS like a baby. That was when my last sonogram was done (theres a huge, and uncomfortable, diff between and sonogram and an ultrasound btw). When that baby popped up on the screen i was surprised myself...I was really scared that it wouldnt look like a baby, that I would be looking at pics all throughout the pregnancy and never really realize that it was a baby...but my Dr has GREAT technology, and her pics are very clear! I admit that at some point in the beginning, it doesnt look like a baby at all, but remember all things have a beginning.... OH...and so it technically has to LOOK like a baby to be alive?? Is that the argument made?? And SSN arent issued during the pregnancy AT ALL, so therefore that argument cant stand...

BTW, if you want to see what life looks like at 7-8 weeks, check out my sonogram in my signiture, that definately looks like a baby not a cluster of cells

here's a thought for you guys that dont believe that a baby is not a life until the 2nd trimester.... Some of the definitions of alive: 1. having life; living; existing; not dead or lifeless (trust me from experience the baby is not lifeless before the 2nd trimester, my sonogram proves that) 2. in a state of action (trust me the baby is moving, and growing, so therefore it is in action) 3. alert or sensitive to (trust me, when I perform certain actions, I know the baby is there, even this early) Some definitions of life are: 1. the animate existence or period of animate existence of an individual (trust me the baby is animated) 2.a corresponding state, existence, or principle of existence conceived of as belonging to the soul. (if you believe in souls, then the potential for life constitutes as having a soul) Just something that I thot was interesting...

You have to look at the date of the posts, especially if they are in other threads. Its my fault for telling you guys that hes such a great guy, however, I guess I wanted it to be true...and in previous posts (before September 14ish) I may have been typing around him where he could see the screen or access my account on the computer...PLUS many of those posts where before I knew some information...I learn something new about him almost every week (through my own investigation). I dont necessarily count on him for any support, but when he does do well, he does very well! For some reason when hes down is down, and when hes up hes soaring...as in he goes from broke to having good money all the time. So when he is making money I will get a cut and get some of his tax return. As well as if the lucky ba***** every wins the lottery I will get a good portion of that too. TRUST ME he will be nothing but a check for this baby, he will have no rights to the child as far as visitation goes...ESPECIALLY since I am opting to be the paralegal for my own case. So I have made special requests to my attorney so that he will have to go through a hell of a lot of actions to see the child. such as: 1. Random Drug Testing and BAC Screening 2. Mental Counseling (and the information given in the sessions be recorded well, and may be used against him) 3. Payment of Support (ofcourse) 4. Payment of past damages 5. If ALL of this is met (which it wont be) he will be allowed ONE supervised visit (in which myself and an officer of the law is present), where as it is in a public place and he can not bring his current girlfriend or any other persons to the visit. He also MUST come to my hometown, unless I am actually in Corpus at time of said scheduled visit, where as the same rules apply. The visit may only last for a certain amount of time, at which point he must try no further contact with me or the child other than the visits. ABSOLUTELY ALL negotiations and conversations and attempts to contact me must be done so through my attorney ONLY. *basically if I put his name on the birth certificate, and I ask for child support, then I have to allow some form of visitation as long as he's not considered mentally insane by the state and he hasnt committed crimes against children AND he isnt in jail and so forth....so Im just going to make it the hardest thing in the world just to see his child. P.S. I also didnt tell the whole truth at first, because I wanted to tell you guys that I was pregnant, but I didnt want you guys to rant and rave on me for the poor choice of "sperm donor"

WOW LOL! We were in sync somewhere back there because Im due May 5th! (tentatively, I dont remember my last cycle, so I just have an estimated date)

WOW LOL! We were in sync somewhere back there because Im due May 5th! (tentatively, I dont remember my last cycle, so I just have an estimated date)

HAHAHA!!! SORRY LOL!!! That took my blond self like a whole 2 minutes to figure out what you were talking about! You need a display pic! lol! I guess, for some dumb reason, that I hardly EVER think about guys opinion on abortion

Kagoscuba does make a good point in my book. She has a DNR in case anything happens, which is not against her statements on here. HOWEVER I know a lady who had so many abortions that it messed her up (medically) very badly! She still will not admit that it was the abortions that did it, but the Dr's keep telling her thats what it is. YET When a family member was on life support she absolutely would not allow them to "pull the plug"...HOW IS IT THAT YOU CAN KILL AN INNOCENT CHILD, and let a non-innocent adult live in agony? Also the potential for life is good enough to stand as life in some courts...especially in states where abortion is illegal. A mother can be brought to trial for SEVERAL offenses if an abortion was attempted or committed. Also, what is bacteria but a huge mass of cells? Does that mean it isnt living? Just because it doesnt have facial features and bones etc...doesnt mean it isnt living, so what would the world do without bacteria? We would all DIE because we need bacteria to survive... Its also very funny how many pro-choice people are also for gun-control...THAT MAKES NO SENSE! So its ok to kill something so innocent that its never even had the chance to do something bad, but you want to take away guns because they kill people? ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS! A lot of pro-choice people are also enviromentalists, they think its okay to kill a child, YET its a bad thing to cut down a tree to build a house? WTF? P.S. I do not believe in Euthanasia (and I consider that anything that is alive currently, so from birth to old age, I REFUSE to even have animals "put down", however I do understand that if the only reason an individual is alive "technically" is because of life support, and has been on it for VERY long time, that there is likely no hope of them coming back, then it is understandable to finally let them go.)</p>

Actually I work 2 jobs, and I no longer have the bills to pay that I used to, and that was actually a very long time ago...TRUST me after my suit against the father comes through I will be fine financially. And yes you can basically be forced to get pregnant...If you really want details Ill tell you, he threw out my BC pills, and when I got new ones he would find them. He made me have sex with him most of the time, rather than a consensual agreement, and he told me his purpose was to get me pregnant. I didnt do anything about it because I was scared...I didnt know until I was committed fully to the relationship that he had ACTUALLY killed people before, and after a night of almost being choked to death in my sleep, I realized that I couldnt just call the law on him and get rid of him. One of my friends however did...THAT WAS NOT GOOD, he threatened to slit my throat! NOW I am back in the comfort of my own town, and can protect myself here...I still dont go anywhere alone for fear he will find me. I am petitioning the court against him for several suits including assault, battery, negligence, and false imprisonment...as well as child support. I will be fine now and so will the child.

I actually will tell her about that info...I dont think she ever thought of the REAL consequences...I think she thought a.) my parents will kill me (her father raped her and her sister when they were little, but some how she has a sort of relationship with his wife now...idk that whole story...anyways hes not right in the head....and her Mom is an ultra-conservative) b.) OH ####!!!!! I cant believe this is happening, I CANT tell who the real father is.... and c.) I really cant do this right now and no one will help me and if I choose adoption, I dont thnk I can give up the child after carrying it and having it, and actually seeing it.... She didnt think about the depression and the reality of taking another life.

Lol im a lil late on this post but i thot it was funny! Im a student so Ill tell ya whats going on;) They are procrastinating...ok its not that simple though, and I can attest to this...I dont know how to study for a test that isnt within the next 2 days...like i dont know how to study in advance, I will forget EVERY bit of it...like WHY study then, you are getting NEW stuff in your brain to replace it anyway...so instead u wait and CRAM it all in, then go ACE the test (well in most of my PERSONAL experiences) its rather ironic...Im up cramming for a test I have at 1:00 PM right now! and tomorro night I will cram for a test on Thursday....Also are you sure your students are taking good notes....Its really sad you know? I got out of high school, and I though YAY less idiots! WRONG, MORE IDIOTS! lol! I swear, I met so many people who wanted to write down too much when taking notes and then couldnt put together a complete sentence in an essay! I DONT UNDERSTAND THAT! Like how hard is it to take notes? seriously? I thought THAT ONE was common sense, especially if the teacher is providing notes as well!

OH Lordy! I have WEIRD dreams ALLLLL the time! Some make me wake up going, what the Hell? I used to have reocurring night terrors! These were interesting...I would die EVERY NIGHT in my dreams! *thats not supposed to be possible btw* I ended up having to see a therapist because I was scratching myself in my sleep so much that I was making myself bleed and get sores. The scratching was from clenching onto my own body. I also would have weird dreams that sometimes would come true...like one night I had a dream that my great uncle had to have surgery on his heart...one day mom got a phone call, I walked away from the conversation (i hate listening to other people on the phone). When it was over I walked back out side and she was upset and she said ," its David he..." and I finished the sentence "had a heart attack..." and mom just looked at me like I was crazy!!!! lol! I just remembered the dream and EVERYTHING throughout the day was exactly the same...I have Deja Vu really bad alllllllll the time. Lol another issue I had was about once or twice a week I would have a dream about a little girl (i could still describe the little evil thing to you to this day) that was just a horrible child...she was constantly trying to hurt me or kill me, but for some reason I ALWAYS wanted to care for her when she needed something, she wasnt my child in my dream either...These dreams actually amused me, they were kind of like watching a TV Drama where I was an actor or something...They ended however one night my senior year in high school (and I still vividly remember this dream) when in the dream she tried to kill me with a poison dart, and then shot another one into me which i quickly yanked out and jammed into her (killing her)...I remember crying afterward in the dream, but it had to be done, i finally lived btw! lol! I have really freaky dreams too....and now that Im prego they have gotten EVEN MORE vivid and CRAZY! There is no way I could go int detail about ALLLLLLL the crazy ones Ive had that I remember, on here at least, my therapist has a record of most of them (from memorable dreams from childhood-present).... Dont worry about a thing though, your dreams are secretly telling you something, but maybe its not as obvious as you think it is...

This is exactly so...just because we believe that its immoral to kill children, doesnt mean that we are going to start adapting strict Muslim beliefs, its actually a quite irrelevant statement for arguments sake anyways. I dont believe that abortion is moral for any reason...but I still enjoy my blue jeans and sun dresses and cute short skirts, and I LOVE to wear makeup and go out and PARTY...Just because Im choosing to take responsibility for MY actions instead of "just getting rid of it" (as ive heard it put before), doesnt mean that I think that women shouldnt have rights................ALTHOUGH I think it would be GREAT if I didnt have to work at all lol! Now adays MOST men expect their woman to work in some way or another, I would love to sit at home all day and just make sure that the house is clean, supper is cooked, laundry is done, and the baby is taken care of lol! TRUST ME dealing with an unplanned pregnancy isnt easy by any means, but I just thank GOD that I can conceive, I was supposed to be infertile, so no matter how hard it is, I see it as a blessing

Thanks...I must admit, its kind of weird seeing a picture of my sonogram in an abortion debate lol! Im a happy lil momma 2 b, even if I have to do it on my own...At least I didnt take the convenient way out...Ive already had SO MUCH more joy in my life than before I was pregnant

Im not just saying this because I am a prolifer, Im saying this because I have this HUGE place in my heart for humanity and the innocent. I really wish that my ex-roomie had not had an abortion, she already regrets it...we had an argument the ther day about why she wouldnt add me to MySpace...Turns out she doesnt want to have to look at pics of my baby and know about it because it makes her feel guilty...We finally came to a consensus about MySpace...but point is she ALREADY regrets her decision. I cant wait to have my baby...I wish I was more stable in life right now, but that isnt going to make me kill my child...If she would have come to me before her mind was set on the abortion, I would have set up a meeting between her and one of my friends that cant conceive and let her pick an adoptive family from that. I just couldnt live my life wondering if my child was the smartest kid in class, or the cheerleader/jock, or even the goth or nerd kid....I would want to know...I have a hard time living life with any regrets, I try not to regret ANYTHING, and I think that had I opted for the abortion just because pregnancy is inconvenient to me right now, I would be depressed my entire life. And on the matter of credibility, if you say something in a thread this controversial, and your using information other than your opinion or personal experience you better back it up. And no they technically cant write ANYTHING that they want about people who once lived/are living or events that have taken place, because if its too far out there the family of that person or people in the event can sue the writer. Im not discrediting your intelligence by any means, I was merely making a suggestion so that your argument would have more impact. P.S. If 10 crackheaded prostitutes came up to me asking me to take care of their children, I would find a place, a REAL home for those children, because that could be the next President, Oprah, Einstein, Bill Gates...So on....What if all the people that made a GREAT impact in America's history had been aborted before they were born? What would life be like?

It is if the information isnt used in a debate or paper or just discussion because you dont look credible when you use Wiki. I could seriously write a VERY convincing research paper about the pink flying pony's of the rainforest and add a few photoshopped pictures and put it on Wiki. You cant believe everything you read on there. It IS a great source find out about certain things, however I never take it too seriously without atleast 3-5 other credible sources. Ive had professors that even if you used Wiki as a side source (beyond whatever amount they required) that they would take off points because its so unreliable.

Watch that site too though...its DEFINATELY more credible than a general information source such as Wikipedia....HOWEVER, it is probably run by an interest group and therefore will have a bias, you will have to get another source to go with it that is more mutual OR find a prolife site similar to it (as in it being Bias and run by an interest group).....BUT this is only if you want to state facts....now for arguing's sake its fine lol

oh, for future reference (because I know you guys love to debate) Wikipedia is not a credible/reliable source AT ALL! Anyone can go research whatever topic and put it on Wikipedia and make it lean whatever way their stance is on the subject. IT IS VERY BIASED! I know it looks like a great place to find information, and it is for general use (like finding dates for past events, or getting an idea of something) BUT as for credibility it has NONE whatsoever., EXAMPLE: In my Constitutional Law class a couple of semesters ago 8 people split into two teams for a debate...4 prosecution/4 defending. They examined an old court case and the morality and how constitutional the judge's decision was and so forth. A member of the team that was on the defense used Wikipedia as a side source, and it caused them to completely lose the debate and SHE did not receive a very good grade because she used an unreliable source that gave inaccurate information (Wikipedia and other links to the information said that in real-life the case was won by the defendant, when in reality he lost). PRETTY BIG DEAL HUH?

I frankly believe, in my own political stance, that the innocent slaying of another being is morally injust...and these are not only Christian beliefs...most mainstream religons do not support murder of children (however so exist due to tradition). I personally believe that thinking that a fetus is not a life is ridiculous, because the potential for life exists. Your body has taken a step in forming another life, there are so many women (like my best friend Rae) who would love to have a child, and there are women throwing their children away because a baby inconveniences them. It seems rude and ungrateful for what life has given them. YET I see that orphanages FULL of poor children that no one has adopted, and Ive heard horror stories of the foster care system (my ex-fiance was a victim of the New York Orphanage/Foster Care program, and look how he turned out!) I think the main reason for this is that many families who would love to adopt simply cannot afford it...its a very expensive process as many of you know. Im not sure EXACTLY what the solution is, but I dont believe that its the intentional slaying of innocent children. PERHAPS the government should focus a little more of the budget on the current orphanage/foster care programs already established, and a little less on abortion issues. HOWEVER I do believe that abortion research is important, Im not saying to do away with it AT ALL, just maybe there should be a budget change, and not only in that department TRUST ME!